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what makes you nervous?
- Thread starter radical6
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I'm the same way sometimes. I think sometimes I give off the impression that I'm ignoring them or dislike them (once I was asked if I ever talked because I hadn't said a thing all day), but truth be told I'm just bad at socializing sometimes.
Stevey Queen
The Queen of Mimosas
Same. Mostly it's because if I act like myself around strangers, I know they are going to think I'm a fruitcake. Even though idc what people think. And I stopped attending speech class because it was too scary.
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radical6
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its really awkward when they start using inside jokes and im sitting here like ??? and then they make a comment on why im not speaking much and they might think i hate them or something u_u
ShinyYoshi
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I played the saxophone for 7 years and no matter how prepared I was, I would bomb whatever I was playing because I'd get so nervous to play in front of people by myself. I could practice a solo and play it well, but every time I would have to play it in front of my class, I would just shake, my heartbeat would rise rapidly, and I would lose focus. It was awful.
That's when I knew music wasn't for me.
That's when I knew music wasn't for me.
Midoriya
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I get really nervous about things like that too. I have mild autism (aspergers), but as weird as this might seem, no matter how different someone is it's hard for anyone to make new friends. It's just as awkward for them as it is for us. I keep telling myself that, but I fizzle out and end up not talking still. Sometimes I feel like I should act like I'm into what they're doing, but then I reconsider and act on who I am. And nobody can get away from themselves, even though it seems like people just go along with things, hidden thoughts are an illusion to the other's mind. It's really easy to make a plan to make new friends, but in reality it's much more hard to act out. I think if people tried more often instead of feeling awkward, then way more bonds would be made, and this would possibly be a better world. But alas, nervousness is a foe that always gets back to you. In the end, potential bonds are lost because of nervousness. Heck, I'm nervous to talk to some of the people on here too anyway. I get the idea that in real life and on the internet people will not have same interests as me because of past experiences. A lot of the people my age are immature jerks who care about no one but their selves. But if we can all work together and try to make an effort to bond in different places then we can actively shape the world. After all, a little kindness can go a long way. 
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"Hey remember that one time"
NOPE
plus in a situation like that if they're talking about a situation you're unaware of it feels kinda rude to try and join the conversation. *shrug*
Many things ^^; I'm a little bit shy in real life so I don't like it when people randomly talk to me or when I'm in large crowds. If people want to introduce me to new friends they have to do it one by one hahaha. When I changed schools everyone jumped on me and I had no idea what to do.
I also feel nervous when I see stairs.
I also feel nervous when I see stairs.
SecondSider
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The start of every school year.
Celestefey
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Talking on the phone. I just for some reason cannot do it. No matter if it is like my best friend talking to me down the phone, I just feel so awkward and nervous. Maybe it's because I just never know who it's going to be when I pick up the phone so I don't really know what to say. Usually if I want to talk to someone who I'm a bit nervous around (eg: People I don't know so well, some family members, teachers, etc) then I will think things through before I say it. I pretty much am just a really shy person. ;; I never really was all that shy when I was younger but rather than coming out of my shell, I've gone back into it! I get nervous even just ordering food at a restaurant in case I get the order wrong, I get nervous sometimes walking on my own somewhere to buy something, I get nervous on the first day back at school and I might walk into a class and not know a single person there so I don't know where to sit or something then, etc etc. :L Yeah, it seems like a lot of people on here are pretty shy so it kinda makes me feel a bit better when I see other people are a bit nervous over the same things as me, since I'm afraid that the things I'm scared of doing are just childish. To be honest next year I'll probably be moving school and the schools I'm thinking of going to I only know like 1 or 2 people that go there or no one at all so then I'll be worrying about making new friends and asesaprlkew; ;w;
dollydaydream
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Me and my best friend are exactly the same, (it's why we can talk together so easily). Unlike every other person in our class we're much more comfortable just staying in the background away from the main crowd. I also have the same issue with talking on the phone. I figured it was from not being able to use body language to communicate but I'm not sure. Like if I'm saying bye or hello to somebody on the phone I'll wave in real life without even realising. XD Me and my friend have a rule that if nobody has spoken on the phone for more than 7 minutes we're allowed to hang up
Himari & Dollydaydream; I'm exactly the same with the phone thing. It's horrendous. I just choke and try to rush to get off the phone. I think for me though it's because as a kid, my Dad always used to phone to tell me off or talk to me about why he was disappointed in me about my latest school report etc. so phone calls were always a negative and upsetting experience for me. Idk, maybe that feeling stuck. Also, I had a job as a receptionist once and I was told that I had an "unfriendly" voice and I was told to try to change it. I think that made me think that if they think that everyone else must as well. 
Meh.
Also, Monday's make me very nervous as I now suffer depression and anxiety because of my employment, so I always dread Mondays and feeling abnormal again after feeling okay on weekend.
And large groups of people.
Meh.Also, Monday's make me very nervous as I now suffer depression and anxiety because of my employment, so I always dread Mondays and feeling abnormal again after feeling okay on weekend.
And large groups of people.
DJStarstryker
Senior Member
Crowds in and of themselves don't bother me. It's only when the crowd is so close around me that people are touching me. It has nothing with a claustrophobia feeling and everything to do with a personal space invasion thing. If I like you, that's fine. I just don't like strangers touching me. Period. I don't even like shaking hands with people and reluctantly tolerate it. Not a germs thing either, because I rarely get sick, I just... don't like it.
I once went to a free concert here in Japan that this pop idol was giving at a mall. Free = eleventy people show up. Fine. Whatever. But everyone crowded so close that this girl behind me was practically leaning on me. And I couldn't really ask her to stop because people were doing the same to her behind her and from all other sides. I was able to tolerate this for a bit, but after a while, I literally shut down, where it was like I could no longer see or hear anything. Person I went to the mall with ended up grabbing my arm and pulling me away when it ended (felt like an eternity, in my shut down state), saying it was over and starting chattering about how good it was, blah blah. And it was like a switch flipped inside. I started screaming at him in anger and started crying uncontrollably at the same time. I wasn't angry at him, I was just flipping out from the crowd invading my space like that.
I suppose the upside of this breakdown is that he understands now when I say I can't do things like that again. Last time there was a free concert, I said no and he didn't force it. And a concert we're going to in December (one we had to buy tickets for), I said no to the very closest seats because they were all mosh pit-style standing seats. So we have farther back tickets, one where we actually have assigned seats and therefore I will have my own personal space.
I have also learned the value of standing my ground and not letting people around me push me forward. I also use bags to make personal space around me to give me a little more space.
I once went to a free concert here in Japan that this pop idol was giving at a mall. Free = eleventy people show up. Fine. Whatever. But everyone crowded so close that this girl behind me was practically leaning on me. And I couldn't really ask her to stop because people were doing the same to her behind her and from all other sides. I was able to tolerate this for a bit, but after a while, I literally shut down, where it was like I could no longer see or hear anything. Person I went to the mall with ended up grabbing my arm and pulling me away when it ended (felt like an eternity, in my shut down state), saying it was over and starting chattering about how good it was, blah blah. And it was like a switch flipped inside. I started screaming at him in anger and started crying uncontrollably at the same time. I wasn't angry at him, I was just flipping out from the crowd invading my space like that.
I suppose the upside of this breakdown is that he understands now when I say I can't do things like that again. Last time there was a free concert, I said no and he didn't force it. And a concert we're going to in December (one we had to buy tickets for), I said no to the very closest seats because they were all mosh pit-style standing seats. So we have farther back tickets, one where we actually have assigned seats and therefore I will have my own personal space.
I have also learned the value of standing my ground and not letting people around me push me forward. I also use bags to make personal space around me to give me a little more space.
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Celestefey
どうでもいい
Me and my best friend are exactly the same, (it's why we can talk together so easily). Unlike every other person in our class we're much more comfortable just staying in the background away from the main crowd. I also have the same issue with talking on the phone. I figured it was from not being able to use body language to communicate but I'm not sure. Like if I'm saying bye or hello to somebody on the phone I'll wave in real life without even realising. XD Me and my friend have a rule that if nobody has spoken on the phone for more than 7 minutes we're allowed to hang up
Aah you're really lucky to have a best friend just like you then. ^^ I don't really think I have any friends in real life like that, I do have a few online friends who are a bit like that though but I guess it's just not the same really as having someone like it in real life. But aah that's such a good idea though, that rule! ;; Although 7 minutes sure seems like a loooong time!
Himari & Dollydaydream; I'm exactly the same with the phone thing. It's horrendous. I just choke and try to rush to get off the phone. I think for me though it's because as a kid, my Dad always used to phone to tell me off or talk to me about why he was disappointed in me about my latest school report etc. so phone calls were always a negative and upsetting experience for me. Idk, maybe that feeling stuck. Also, I had a job as a receptionist once and I was told that I had an "unfriendly" voice and I was told to try to change it. I think that made me think that if they think that everyone else must as well.
Also, Monday's make me very nervous as I now suffer depression and anxiety because of my employment, so I always dread Mondays and feeling abnormal again after feeling okay on weekend.
And large groups of people.
Awww aah I'm so sorry for you. ;; I guess that is probably why, but I do hope we can all kinda get over our troubles with talking on the phone to people. But yeah I mean... I have really no idea why I don't like talking on the phone, probably because I'm scared it could just be anyone (like sometimes my grandparents ring up on my birthday and I don't really... know them well since they live so far away and it's kind of awkward trying to talk to them for me) and I don't know how to prepare myself to talk to them. But I am sure the whole "unfriendly" voice thing isn't true and I am sure that not everyone thinks it. ^^
irisubunny
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oh god yes.. i get really nervous when it comes to that.
presentations really make me nervous also. it really won't help this year considering i'm put in a lot of classes with people i don't like. and presenting in front of people you don't like.. isn't easy. ._.
and also i have anxiety. so i worry about a lot of things i really shouldn't be worrying about.
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Midoriya
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I have a problem with people invading my personal space too. I have to refrain from using my karate to grab them by the thumb and throw them out of my way. lol, joking, but I do get nervous from it.
I don't really find talking on the phone difficult or nervous for me, but then again I'm a guy and I barely use my phone (I only use it to talk to parents most of the time, and rarely my friends).
@Fifi: I think the only way you could have an unfriendly voice is if you were talking like the terminator:
You have 5 seconds to start talking or you will be TERMINATED.
Joking about that. Maybe just use a little more enthusiasm?
School doesn't make me nervous. I go to a private school where everyone is nice and I get straight A's. I'm actually the opposite. My summer started May 17th and ends September 10th. Already I'm like:
please send me back! - begs principal - lol
I get really nervous when talking to girls too (that's probably why my friends who are guys and who are girls ratio is messed up). If one gets near me I'll back away a couple steps. And I don't talk to any unless they talk to me first. I'll get over it in time though.
EDIT: Oh, and I'm nervous online sometimes because I have trust issues (Someone tricked me into thinking they were my friend on a game for 2 years).
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Just about everything makes me nervous.
Going out for a drive? Some people drive like idiots, I could be in a car accident.
Going shopping? It's the beginning of the month/middle of the month/end of the month...there may be a huge crowd due to *insert reason here*
Staying home? Oh, my family's going to think I'm some sort of anti-social shut-in.
Going to bed at a reasonable hour? There something watching me in the dark. I can feel it. It's standing right there.
Staying up all night and going to bed when its light out? Oh, I'm going to sleep all day and get nothing done. No wonder I'm going no where in life.
It's soooo much fun. /sarcasm
Going out for a drive? Some people drive like idiots, I could be in a car accident.
Going shopping? It's the beginning of the month/middle of the month/end of the month...there may be a huge crowd due to *insert reason here*
Staying home? Oh, my family's going to think I'm some sort of anti-social shut-in.
Going to bed at a reasonable hour? There something watching me in the dark. I can feel it. It's standing right there.
Staying up all night and going to bed when its light out? Oh, I'm going to sleep all day and get nothing done. No wonder I'm going no where in life.
It's soooo much fun. /sarcasm
