What gender are you?

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???? that depends on the person. Sexuality has nothing to do with your libido and libidos are different for everyone.
For instance, since we're getting personal:
I consider myself grey-ace for the fact that I do want to have sex with my partner for emotional reasons, and because sex is enjoyable to me.
However, I am repulsed by sex outside of emotional attachment (i.e. i do not masturbate, i do not like sexual advances from anyone other than my current boyfriend, i am repulsed by pornographic material) and I have never thought anyone was "hot" or "Sexy" or anything outside of basic aesthetic attraction.

Despite having sex i am still asexual because i lack sexual attraction. Think of it this way: You can be gay and not want to have much sex, because you are sexually attracted to the same gender only. You can be straight because you are sexually attracted to the opposite gender. You can be pan because you are attracted to all genders. You are asexual if you do NOT have sexual attraction to anyone.
In all of those, you can have as much or as little sex as you need or want to, but you are your sexuality based on your own sexual attraction and nothing more.

ya it makes sense I basically said that. But thanks for going in depth and clarifying bc it really helped.

Basically if this helps you great, if it doesn't whatever. This thing isn't going to help everybody.

To get even more personal: for me sex is like food. I'm either repulsed by it or turned on by it. I either can't stomach it or want it bc I need it. I mean I know some people are addicted to food or eat for fun/pleasure even if they're not hungry. But.... I don't. I eat bc my body is like "you're hungry, eat!" and if I'm super hungry elementry school cafeteria food looks delicious!. If I'm kinda hungry, have an appetite, but not starving, I need to like have something attractive and delicious.

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And if my mind is consumed with some sort of inspiration/special project/work, well I totally forget to eat altogether! It doesn't even cross my mind ;p

 

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Welp. Gunna take this opportunity to say I'm a girl.

My username prolly makes people think otherwise. Lolz

 

[Ashtot]

Welp. Gunna take this opportunity to say I'm a girl.

My username prolly makes people think otherwise. Lolz

u seemed like a girl to me

 

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Welp. Gunna take this opportunity to say I'm a girl.

My username prolly makes people think otherwise. Lolz

ur avatar tho..

 

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u seemed like a girl to me

Lolz if I had a penny for every time I've been referred to as a dude on this forum... I'd prolly have a dollar.

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ur avatar tho..

Yeah I think my past avatars didn't help my cause for a while lol

 

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Lolz if I had a penny for every time I've been referred to as a dude on this forum... I'd prolly have a dollar.

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Yeah I think my past avatars didn't help my cause for a while lol

maybe cos ur sig is awesome and girls aren't allowed to be awesome

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also im a guy btw. I just pretend to be a girl so its easier to make friend online bc i dont have any friend irl

 

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I just read what was behind my post...seeing that I stumbled upon this thread with innocent intent.

I: gosh golly gee

 

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link is broken

Are you sure? I can click it on my phone too

 

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Are you sure? I can click it on my phone too

for some reason it wasn't working last night for me. Its working now. I'll look at the posts. Thanks