uhm in a dilemma atm ;-; my significant other and i are currently taking a break rn (it's been about 2-3 days) and valentines day is tomorrow. I want to drop him off food at his house as a valentines day gift, but idk if i should?? like it feels wrong to do so since you know were on break /: so.. what do i do?
um help me out?
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UglyMonsterFace
Arize from Azulon
It depends on the situation really.. Why are you on a break?
oh gosh like i really want to but im so afraid that he'll take it the wrong way x: or would get mad that i showed up during the break
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uhm he's been busy lately with school and getting stressed out. he also needed to rethink about his feelings...
I don't see anything wrong with giving him a gift for valentines. Maybe you can just drop off the food, greet him then say bye? See what he's going to react, like he'll probably let you in if he's fine with you hanging out together (if you're okay with that) or else, just leave after. Try to lower your expectations.
I think you should go along with the plan, someone deserves to be happy on Valentines day and it's most certainly not going to me so it has to be you. If you know him well enough, go to his favorite restaurant pick up his favorite food and bring it to him around the time you'd usually eat. People usually like to drown their sorrows in food so bonus on that idea, "misery loves company".
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I'd hope he wouldn't get mad over it. It's a nice thing to do and I'm sure it would make him smile. You don't have to stay over long, you can just hand over the gift and then just leave him be.
Did you two have any arguements?
UglyMonsterFace
Arize from Azulon
If he asked for time alone, I think you should respect it. You could call him and just ask if it'll be okay to just drop something off, but showing up unannounced could just feel like you are pressuring him to hurry up and decide. That's my view on it anyway, at least with the info given. It all really depends on a lot of things that only you would know. Like his personality, how long youve been together, etc. So do what you think is right 
Friend, don't listen to these people saying to gift it to him just because it is nice to do. Giving a gift to him right now really is not the best thing, if he asked for a break, his emotions are probably in limbo and he needs time to make sure the love he feels for you is the right kind of love and etc. It's really sweet of you to want to give him things even though you are on a break, but it more likely than not will hurt him more than help him and make him feel obligated to you.
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It's hard to give any advice without knowing what he is like.
Sometimes I act like I want to be left alone by someone but I really want them to reach out to me. :/ But that's me. I have no idea how he is. I hope you know him well enough to make the best decision.
Sometimes I act like I want to be left alone by someone but I really want them to reach out to me. :/ But that's me. I have no idea how he is. I hope you know him well enough to make the best decision.
toadsworthy
Tangsworthy
I think if you want to get back together and this break has been hard on you (clearly it has because you made this thread)... I would do it if its not gonna be too expensive. A sweet gesture on a day about love is never a bad thing. Even if you want to keep caring for this person if it didn't work out in the end I would still do it... so yeah, if you care for them a nice gesture with good intentions is never a bad thing in any type of situation
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