Shawna
AroAce, ASD, and Proud ^^
This topic popped into my head just now, and I figured it would be interesting to discuss. What do you think are some things people say that are words of advice, or just something people say that is meant to help the other person think more positively, but the advice is actually unhelpful or even toxic?
For me, the biggest example is "It could be worse" / "There are people who have it worse". Now, I don't mind people using these words of advice on themselves, it can remind them that they are not alone and that their situation is mild compared to others. These sentences are pretty harmless when used in this way. ^^
HOWEVER, I cannot stand when this term is said to another person. What is even more, this term can even be used out of anger against someone. In this way, it isn't even advice. I have been a victim of that before. It suggests that people are not allowed to be upset, unless they are struggling with something major. It is such a toxic thing to say. We are human. We are going to get upset, even if it seems small.
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I also hope that this thread can help people to avoid saying certain things to people, by looking through it. ^^
For me, the biggest example is "It could be worse" / "There are people who have it worse". Now, I don't mind people using these words of advice on themselves, it can remind them that they are not alone and that their situation is mild compared to others. These sentences are pretty harmless when used in this way. ^^
HOWEVER, I cannot stand when this term is said to another person. What is even more, this term can even be used out of anger against someone. In this way, it isn't even advice. I have been a victim of that before. It suggests that people are not allowed to be upset, unless they are struggling with something major. It is such a toxic thing to say. We are human. We are going to get upset, even if it seems small.
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I also hope that this thread can help people to avoid saying certain things to people, by looking through it. ^^