Totally torn up. Advice/opinions?

[Spooky.]

I know there is a 'should I reset' thread but this is something kinda...more than that, I guess? Like it's a bit more personal than just not liking the map. (though I don't love some of my perma pwps but that can be worked around).

The reason I'm considering resetting is because of memories of a former friend I no longer talk to. We used to play together a lot and I have two villagers in my town that came out of her void. It wasn't just a casual friendship, it was 10+ years long and this was a best friend so I'm heartbroken enough.
Needless to say, her name comes up quite often with my villagers talking about her and it upsets me. However, I love most of my villagers but to cycle to get all new versions of the same villagers...well, yikes.

My questions are:

Is this enough of a reason to reset or is it petty? It wasn't just a casual friendship, it was 10+ years long and this was a best friend so I'm heartbroken enough.

Should I just resign to getting new villagers and getting rid of the ones I've loved for almost two years (some of which I spent a long time looking for)?


Also, if I move some of these villagers to a different town, would they still talk about her in any way? I have 4 spots I could move them to in another town over time, but the rest I'd have to just abandon...


I'm just torn up. I love my villagers and I can work around my map issues, but the hurt I end up feeling having to hear them talk about her and ask about her, even if it's very occasional, bothers me. I don't know what to do...

(Also, please no being rude or those sort of 'suck it up' or 'stop being sensitive/get over it' replies. This friendship was a big deal for me and I couldn't explain it well enough to make anyone understand)

 

[Rosiechan]

A ten year friendship is a big deal and I can see why it would upset you (even if it's only mentioned in a game) personally if it was me I'd probably just try and remember the good times you had as friends, after all if you where friends for so long there must be plenty of good memories along with the bad. Let the villagers casual mentions of your friends relate to those memories and not the bad ones.

Of course if you don't think you can do that then I would think about replacing the villagers who bring your friend up. Hope this helps.

 

[Quill]

I could see how those memories would be unwanted. I'm not sure, but it makes sense to me that villagers would have a memory span of just a few people? Like if they spoke to 6 people or something, eventually they'd forget the first? Maybe before you do something drastic you could ask people to come over and talk to your villagers and see if that helps.

 

[Spooky.]

A ten year friendship is a big deal and I can see why it would upset you (even if it's only mentioned in a game) personally if it was me I'd probably just try and remember the good times you had as friends, after all if you where friends for so long there must be plenty of good memories along with the bad. Let the villagers casual mentions of your friends relate to those memories and not the bad ones.

Of course if you don't think you can do that then I would think about replacing the villagers who bring your friend up. Hope this helps.

Pretty much all of my villagers bring her up, since she's talked to all of them at some point, I think. It stinks too because I got Willow from her void and I ADORE Willow, but she's always singing her old town tune and I dunno. It kinda tears me up.

I try to think of good memories but then it still makes me sad because I miss her. I guess I can't win.

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I could see how those memories would be unwanted. I'm not sure, but it makes sense to me that villagers would have a memory span of just a few people? Like if they spoke to 6 people or something, eventually they'd forget the first? Maybe before you do something drastic you could ask people to come over and talk to your villagers and see if that helps.

Really? If that's a thing I'd gladly have people come over and talk to my villagers if that works. Then it'll just leave me with getting rid of the two villagers from her void, even though one of them is a favorite.

 

[Belle of Pripyat]

If you love your town otherwise, let the villagers move out one by one. You can have a fresh start by meeting (and hopefully falling in love with) "new" villagers. If the memories of your town bother you too much, though, resetting is probably the best option. This is why no one is allowed to talk to my villagers anymore...except for my own characters from my second town. It's no fun hearing the name of a former friend repeatedly. They'll never stop bringing up her name.

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I could see how those memories would be unwanted. I'm not sure, but it makes sense to me that villagers would have a memory span of just a few people? Like if they spoke to 6 people or something, eventually they'd forget the first? Maybe before you do something drastic you could ask people to come over and talk to your villagers and see if that helps.

That doesn't work. They bring up random names. Even if you met a person one time a few years ago, that name will be mentioned from time to time. They don't forget people.

 

[Quill]

D: That's awful when you really think about it. Nintendo obviously designed the game with interactive play in mind, you'd think they'd take into account something like this happening. Sorry my idea won't work

 

[Belle of Pripyat]

I have a feeling this sort of thing happens often and it can really ruin the game for people.

 

[Spooky.]

If you love your town otherwise, let the villagers move out one by one. You can have a fresh start by meeting (and hopefully falling in love with) "new" villagers. If the memories of your town bother you too much, though, resetting is probably the best option. This is why no one is allowed to talk to my villagers anymore...except for my own characters from my second town. It's no fun hearing the name of a former friend repeatedly. They'll never stop bringing up her name.

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That doesn't work. They bring up random names. Even if you met a person one time a few years ago, that name will be mentioned from time to time. They don't forget people.

The thing is, I run three towns and I'm also very picky, and I have most of my favorite villagers already and there are very few left that I actually like a lot.

If I move some of these villagers to another town, will they still mention her in that town as well?

 

[Rochelle]

I don't know how many people you would have to get to talk to your villagers to override their memory, but I think it would be quite a few, as my Molly in town talks about HEAPS of different people... and that's all from a former town, not my own!

I'm very sorry this is happening to you, I can't imagine its fun Good luck with whatever you do decide, and give yourself time to decide as well, I'd hate for you to reset and realise it was a mistake.

 

[Belle of Pripyat]

Perhaps you can reset your game and get your beloved villagers to move into the new town? (Not the same ones you have now, of course; "new" versions.) I think it's going to be a lot of work, but it might be worth it.

 

[Quill]

If you want only the villagers you already have, you could always do the 16 villager cycle for each... It will take a while, but if you can get those villagers moved out before your cycled in villagers move out you should be able to move them all back in pretty quickly once you complete the 16 villagers for the first moved out villager... that sentence doesn't make any sense. But what I'm trying to say is it's just as fast to do the 16 villager cycle for eight or ten villagers as it is for one, since each villager moved out will count as a cycled villager. That's what I'm doing in Solstice, after long inactivity/TTing lost me three dreamies.

 

[Spooky.]

I don't know how many people you would have to get to talk to your villagers to override their memory, but I think it would be quite a few, as my Molly in town talks about HEAPS of different people... and that's all from a former town, not my own!

I'm very sorry this is happening to you, I can't imagine its fun Good luck with whatever you do decide, and give yourself time to decide as well, I'd hate for you to reset and realise it was a mistake.

So even moving the villagers to my other town wouldn't stop them from talking about her?

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There are a few villagers in my town I wouldn't be super torn up about losing (Alli, Peck, Bunnie, maybe Fuchsia) but the rest I'm torn about. I know I could cycle, but I don't know it's it's worth it just for a person they occasionally bring up...Maybe I should just get rid of the ones who moved in because of her, and maybe get more people to talk to my villager just so that they bring up other people besides just her?

 

[Rochelle]

So even moving the villagers to my other town wouldn't stop them from talking about her?

No it doesn't, I'm sorry

 

[Spooky.]

Ohhh no.

I mean, I could always get 'new' versions of the same villagers but it's still not really the same? I've talked to villagers from my town in others people's towns and they still seem different. I don't know if that makes sense but like... "my" Marshal isn't the same as "___ person's Marshal" even though he's technically the same...

 

[Dorian]

First of all, I am sorry you had a falling out with such a close friend. My advice would be a complete and total reset. Your heart and mind need some downtime. To be constantly reminded of times you are trying to recover from is not the healthy way to heal. Start over. You deserve happiness and peace. It's a game. The villagers you love can always be brought into a new town. No they won't be the same ones, but you can start fresh with them. I hope you come to a decision that works best for you, sweetie. Hang in there

 

[Rochelle]

Ohhh no.

I mean, I could always get 'new' versions of the same villagers but it's still not really the same? I've talked to villagers from my town in others people's towns and they still seem different. I don't know if that makes sense but like... "my" Marshal isn't the same as "___ person's Marshal" even though he's technically the same...

I totally get what you mean, I was pretty sad to have to get a 'new' Chief and Skye, but it's better than the alternative of not having them!

First of all, I am sorry you had a falling out with such a close friend. My advice would be a complete and total reset. Your heart and mind need some downtime. To be constantly reminded of times you are trying to recover from is not the healthy way to heal. Start over. You deserve happiness and peace. It's a game. The villagers you love can always be brought into a new town. No they won't be the same ones, but you can start fresh with them. I hope you come to a decision that works best for you, sweetie. Hang in there

Also Dorian, very well said, I honestly think this may be your best course of action Namstar

 

[Spooky.]

First of all, I am sorry you had a falling out with such a close friend. My advice would be a complete and total reset. Your heart and mind need some downtime. To be constantly reminded of times you are trying to recover from is not the healthy way to heal. Start over. You deserve happiness and peace. It's a game. The villagers you love can always be brought into a new town. No they won't be the same ones, but you can start fresh with them. I hope you come to a decision that works best for you, sweetie. Hang in there

I mean, I do have two other towns, but I've almost totally stopped playing this town at all, and it was my first ever town. I've spent so much time and effort on it...maybe instead of resetting I let all my villagers go and start over? That way I keep my progress but I can still make a 'new town' with the same map - and no worries about store upgrades and everything. I don't know. I have so many items and bells and flowers I want to keep too...

 

[Dorian]

That would work too Sounds as if you found an idea that works for you! Well done, sweetie.

 

[Spooky.]

That would work too Sounds as if you found an idea that works for you! Well done, sweetie.

I hope it works. Maybe I'm just kind of over-reacting to the whole thing. It's not like they mention her constantly or anything but knowing they can...I dunno.

 

[ladylou]

I can understand how upsetting this would be for you, and it sucks that there's not an easy way to remedy it apart from resetting! Whatever you do, I hope you end up being happy with your town again and things get a little better