No I want them to ping me instead of up and leaving but at the same time I want them to want to stay. I have some undesirable villagers I want to ping me instead of them.
THIS. I get sort of nervous if they haven't given me that "I'm thinking of moving" ping in a long time.
But yeah, I DO relate to that sinking feeling. One time I pushed the wrong button and asked them to go, when it was a villager I wanted to keep. Yikes! I think I shut it down without saving or something like that. It was terrible.