Self-esteem
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Izzy Reincarnated
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like chocolate or something. it boosts your serotonin. maybe thatll help idk
tinytaylor
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don't care about what people say, it's not as easy as it sounds but care less. enjoy your life bc you're granted one (unless your religion states otherwise) and remember you're fab and everyone else is basic xox
Izzy Reincarnated
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Thinking positive is a good one.
Honestly, I've had a low self esteem for a while. The only way I get rid of it is by talking to friends I guess. Get your mind off it. People complimenting me doesn't make me feel any better because I feel like it's put of pity. But if you can find something you love and want to continue getting better at, then it will probably help your self esteem. That's how it works for me, anyway. But I've always been a perfectionist and negative about myself so I never have a good self esteem. But yeah, if you feel like you have no talents then get good at something. Everyone is good at something. Just continue to work in whatever you choose and once you see how far you've come you'll be happy.
I have really bad self esteem issues too sometimes and I'm really sorry you're feeling the way you are. It's hard to get over but I've found that hanging out with friends or family, just doing something to take your mind off things really helps a lot. Distract yourself. You seem like such a nice person and you shouldn't feel so down on yourself.
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My advice would be to try and pinpoint what things makes your self esteem low.
I personally go through some crazy fluctuations in my self esteem. Sometimes I feel great about myself but other times I hate myself and just want to be someone else. Over time I've come to realise that there are certain "friends" that will try to make you feel bad, sometimes in a subtle way so you don't even notice it's happening. So my advice would be to cut these people out of your life. I know it's easier said than done but it makes a huge difference. My mum was also contributing a lot to my low self esteem by constantly telling me to eat healthier and exercise more in order to not gain weight. I told her that what she was saying was giving the impression that she thought I was fat and it was hurting my self esteem. She said that she just was looking out of my health and didn't mean to upset me but agreed to stop saying those things.
Another big thing is Facebook. For me, it can totally destroy my self esteem, especially if I'm already having a bad day. If you're scrolling through your newsfeed and you notice that a particular post makes you feel bad about yourself, hide all of the person's future posts. It can be hard sometimes because you sometimes want to know what the person is doing (such as ex friends or girl/boyfriends or a crush that doesn't feel the same way) but try to exercise some self control. You should even unfriend them if you can't help but keep checking their profile. It will make you feel a lot better, trust me.
I personally go through some crazy fluctuations in my self esteem. Sometimes I feel great about myself but other times I hate myself and just want to be someone else. Over time I've come to realise that there are certain "friends" that will try to make you feel bad, sometimes in a subtle way so you don't even notice it's happening. So my advice would be to cut these people out of your life. I know it's easier said than done but it makes a huge difference. My mum was also contributing a lot to my low self esteem by constantly telling me to eat healthier and exercise more in order to not gain weight. I told her that what she was saying was giving the impression that she thought I was fat and it was hurting my self esteem. She said that she just was looking out of my health and didn't mean to upset me but agreed to stop saying those things.
Another big thing is Facebook. For me, it can totally destroy my self esteem, especially if I'm already having a bad day. If you're scrolling through your newsfeed and you notice that a particular post makes you feel bad about yourself, hide all of the person's future posts. It can be hard sometimes because you sometimes want to know what the person is doing (such as ex friends or girl/boyfriends or a crush that doesn't feel the same way) but try to exercise some self control. You should even unfriend them if you can't help but keep checking their profile. It will make you feel a lot better, trust me.
Liquid Ocelot
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But
you're
12.
Like, you haven't even done anything yet, and no one expects you to be the best at anything. You're 12. Literally my age backwards. Boost your self esteem by picking up a hobby that doesn't involve playing games and get a juice box or something.
Peer pressure isn't that easy to deal with, y'know.
lol treating her like a 6 year old
but beary boo stay strong gurl idk
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Doesn't mean someone can't feel bad. Age means nothing. It may just be all the hormones going crazy making them feeling insecure but I don't know how they feel, they're asking for help and that juice box comment is kinda mocking their age.
I'm not encouraging you to use any illegal drugs but if you are so self-aware and have such low self-esteem there are drugs that can be prescribed by doctors, I've never used any but antidepressants could help and they're recommended by people online (obviously not by a doctor and the doctor can decided if there's a medication you could take)
Liquid Ocelot
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Peer pressure to what?
Dude you're way more literate than half the 12 year olds I know. You have zero things to worry about. Just keep doing whatever.
Oh wow I didn't realise you were so young! Maybe some of my advice won't apply to you then.
I know from experience that being 12 isn't a walk in the park for everyone. Just know that a lot can and will change for you and you might not even realise how awesome you are yet! Seriously, you could discover in the next few years an awesome talent you didn't realise you had. You might suddenly start doing great at school (like I did). Also puberty can sometimes be very kind appearance wise! I know it's hard but try to hang in there and be careful of the people that you are becoming friends with. Your friends can have a huge impact (positive or negative) on your self esteem.
Elaborate?
Peer pressure to what?
Liquid Ocelot
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Of course she can feel bad. But ffs, 12-year-olds usually have some figuring out to do. It's not abnormal, and telling her she needs anti-depressants at this point is just ridiculous. Being 12 sucks. It's unfortunate, but being a young person just sucks.
Idk what else to say.
When other people do amazing at things, you want to strive to be just as amazing as them, right?
It's like unintentional peer pressure that makes you feel like you can't do anything, that these other people are better then you and you can never be as great as them.
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I already take medicine for my anxiety.
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Eh, I don't think age is that important. I'm 13 and I'm on anti-depressants. Maybe she does need them, who knows. It's best she gets diagnosed with depression before any of that though. But yeah, maybe she has a hard life.
Edit: oh read it wrong. She didn't want them to begin with. nvm
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Liquid Ocelot
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But that's why you work on your skills. No one's a genius right away. Even if it seems like it. Calm down, man. You'll get there. Your first attempts at something don't need to be perfect.
Also, you're 12. P sure nobody expects a masterpiece.
