"Wow..." I say, tearing up a bit at her story. "I don't understand why people just keep adding to your problems... why doesn't anyone ever let you rest?"
I say, growing shocked, "Whaat?! It is not your fault. It's bad enough you had to go through all that but it's even worse when you think it's your own fault."
I take a deep breath. "Sorry for getting a bit loud there. I'm just very surprised..."