Opinions and Veiws on Autism

[Beary]

I posted on another thread that the use of the word "********" as an insult was just as bad as using "gay" as an insult. Then I noticed people using "********" on that same thread. :/ It especially bugs me when people understand why one is bad, but think another is fine.

I hate the insult ********. People just don't understand how horrible it is.
This site does a nice job explaining it. http://www.r-word.org/r-word-effects-of-the-word.aspx

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I have a few friends with mild autism, but it has never affected the way I view them. They can be a little awkward in social situations (but to be honest, I'm not the best with people myself) so we sometimes have to help them out, but it isn't anything major. They're ridiculously intelligent (They're twins) but essentially they can be a little oversensitive about things or get angry very quickly. (I have bipolar disorder, not autism) I can be the same, so I suppose that I can relate and I don't really find their rapid mood changes weird like other people do.

One of my best friends's older brother (He's like..21?) has severe autism, and she loves him, but he makes her life hell. She can't ever have friends around to her house and she struggles to get any work done because he is ridiculously violent and disruptive. He struggled through school (He was misdiagnosed as a child and therefore couldn't qualify to get into a school that would support him properly) and now can't get a job, so he is home all of the time. Her family can't afford to pay for a re-diagnosis so he can go to the proper therapy, and my friend is now stuck doing everything for him. (Re diagnosis is apparently like ?400-?600 or something)

The effect it has on the families in the more severe cases must be horrible. But I think people need to differentiate between those mild and severe cases, and not immediately stereotype someone who has autism to be totally out of control. It's not always that way.

Yes.
This.
So much yes.

 

[Jellybean23]

I've posted that link sooooo many times, just not here. It usually doesn't do much good, unfortunately.

 

[Beary]

I've posted that link sooooo many times, just not here. It usually doesn't do much good, unfortunately.

Yes. I managed to get into a pretty bad argument over somebody on IRC...

 

[Princess Weeb]

I hate the insult ********. People just don't understand how horrible it is.
This site does a nice job explaining it. http://www.r-word.org/r-word-effects-of-the-word.aspx

it's a medical term please stop guys omg fFS

 

[Beary]

it's a medical term please stop guys omg fFS

People don't use it as a medical term when they insult people.

 

[Jellybean23]

Moron, Imbecile, and Idiot were also once medical terms. Using medical terms as insults has been around for a while now. I'm guilty myself of using idiot and moron (I think everyone is guilty of that as well) , but at least they aren't current actual medical diagnoses.

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To say something like "That boy suffers from mental retardation" is fine. To say something like "omg, you are so ********!" or "that's so ********" is not.

 

[Princess Weeb]

Moron, Imbecile, and Idiot were also once medical terms. Using medical terms as insults has been around for a while now. I'm guilty myself of using idiot and moron (I think everyone is guilty of that as well) , but at least they aren't current actual medical diagnoses.

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To say something like "That boy suffers from mental retardation" is fine. To say something like "omg, you are so ********!" or "that's so ********" is not.

I think people should just stop seeing people as say their health problem, race, gender or sexuality.. etc.

Someone who is autistic isn't defined by their autism. They aren't just an autism sufferer, there is so much more to a person than that.

I can't stand it when people refer to others by things like that. Is that really all they can see in a person? That they're autistic? That they're gay? That they're of a different religion or race..etc?

It's ridiculous.

 

[Jellybean23]

That's just how it works, unfortunately. My kid is the kid with autism. I am the mom of the kid with autism. Can't talk about a friend without being asked "Oh, the gay one or the (insert race here)" one? I either try to get through to them or just cut them from my life. But it's reality that people are labeled.

 

[Princess Weeb]

That's just how it works, unfortunately. My kid is the kid with autism. I am the mom of the kid with autism. Can't talk about a friend without being asked "Oh, the gay one or the (insert race here)" one? I either try to get through to them or just cut them from my life. But it's reality that people are labeled.

Unfortunately my dad/granddad are both fairly racist people (I'm still unsure if they're jokingly) and my dad constantly makes jokes about people with mental disabilities and tells me "It's just a phase" or "It's just hormones" if I have a depressive swing around him.

He also made self harm jokes about one of my best friends (She doesn't have diagnosed depression because her parents are vile which probably caused it in the first place) when she used to frequently self harm, but it's much better now.

People never saw her/see her as more than depressed or the "emo kid that cut herself" and it irritated me so much because people really don't understand what it is like to be in the situation of the people they are mocking. If you constantly label someone as something or abuse them for being that way they will never have the confidence to make themselves more, and to do more. It's horrible.

 

[Jellybean23]

Unfortunately my dad/granddad are both fairly racist people (I'm still unsure if they're jokingly) and my dad constantly makes jokes about people with mental disabilities and tells me "It's just a phase" or "It's just hormones" if I have a depressive swing around him.

He also made self harm jokes about one of my best friends (She doesn't have diagnosed depression because her parents are vile which probably caused it in the first place) when she used to frequently self harm, but it's much better now.

People never saw her/see her as more than depressed or the "emo kid that cut herself" and it irritated me so much because people really don't understand what it is like to be in the situation of the people they are mocking. If you constantly label someone as something or abuse them for being that way they will never have the confidence to make themselves more, and to do more. It's horrible.

My grandmother and uncle are absolutely racist and definitely not in a joking way (not that that is any better!) and I live in an area that is something like 97% white and bible thumping (with a lot of confederate flag displaying going on too, even though we're in Pennsylvania)

So anyway, here it is ok and accepted to label people, because those 3% don't belong. Gay doesn't belong. Muslims, Buddhists, and Jewish people don't belong. If I had the means I would take my kids and get the heck out of here because as much as I raise my kids to not label people or judge on differences, I worry that just being around it so much will rub off on them.

 

[saehanfox]

I have it myself. I'm high functioning - I look normal but occasionally mess up when it comes to socializing and tend to offend people unintentionally
That's something people need to understand about autistic people. Some are not in good control of their emotions and will act subtly rude or have a hard time interpreting other people's feelings

 

[Jellybean23]

My son definitely has a hard time interpreting emotions. He assumes a person is his best friend two seconds after meeting them and talks to a person he just met like they've known each other all their lives. That's usually where people get weirded out, which compounds the problem because he doesn't pick up on "weirded out" cues. He is definitely improving though, but he still wants to be friends with the whole world. (wouldn't it be nice if we all could, though?)

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Oh, and I just want to add that I personally think his friendliness one of his best attributes. Just saying that it's been a hard road for him learning to make true, loyal friends.

 

[Jawile]

My cousin Eric has autism, and he isn't very high functioning. He has to live with my Grandmother, and it's kind of hard for him to talk. We all think he's great, though. He's super nice and he loves Elvis, but we can't communicate with him too well.
I used to think that people with a form of autism were strange and I shouldn't be around them, but I was young at the time, and now that I'm older and more mature, I know that they're just like us, but different in their own ways.

 

[kite]

I have some acquaintances who have autism. I still unintentionally stare when I'm talking with someone who looks different with people I barely know... >_> The few people I know are rude and nice like any other person.

 

[Mewmewmewm]

I think people who discriminate against people who they find "different" is just stupid. Some people are just...ugh. We have several people who have autism in our school and they are honestly some of the nicest people I have ever met. You wouldn't even notice if they didn't tell you. However sometimes ill hear some kids talking and I'm just, UGHHHH
*grumble grumble grumble*
But if anyone makes fun of you for it or anything of the sort, just remember.
They're just idiots who probably watched too much school days.
[if anyone gets that reference you get a cookie （≧∇≦）]

Sigh, why can't we all just get along and treat everyone with some amount of respect?

 

[MrPicklez]

So many fellow Asperger brothers and sisters ;-;

My friends used to make fun of me and call me "Mayor McCheese" in High School cause they said I had ass burgers. I've been told so much that I was incredibly smart as a kid despite all of my problems. My doctor said it was why my ADHD, my depression, and my anxiety was is bad as it is. At least I'm not alone on here <3

 

[saehanfox]

So many fellow Asperger brothers and sisters ;-;

My friends used to make fun of me and call me "Mayor McCheese" in High School cause they said I had ass burgers. I've been told so much that I was incredibly smart as a kid despite all of my problems. My doctor said it was why my ADHD, my depression, and my anxiety was is bad as it is. At least I'm not alone on here <3

lol, people complimented me on the same thing in elementary school, they keep calling me smart but that's all they respected me for

 

[MrPicklez]

lol, people complimented me on the same thing in elementary school, they keep calling me smart but that's all they respected me for

I know exactly how you feel. Being in 3rd grade and reading at a 7th grade level. People thought I was so weird :/

I had a notebook of impressively drawn owls that I used to draw in every day. Still wish I had it...

 

[Darumy]

A close friend has autism! She`s high functioning but still had trouble job searching and was treated differently in school and etc.


She never mentions it nor her extreme depression. I found out a few months into being friends with her, and I was like ``huhwha`` because it was pretty unexpected (likely due to the fact we`re online friends). She said she`s gotten better over the years. Otherwise, I don`t think much about it either. She despises people who use mental illnesses as an excuse for anything as a result.

ok actually, too personal and probably not all mine to say. 8`D tl;dr: won`t lie, we clash, but she`s literally the best so who cares

 

[Leopardfire]

I have a close friend IRL who has a twin brother with Aspergers and a little brother with Autism. Her twin can be a bit pushy and loud at times, but I'm fine with it since I know he isn't act that way on purpose. I don't interact with her little brother much, but I've never been annoyed by him. People can't help who they are, especially when it comes to disorders.

I also want to add that the twin can create amazing cartoons and AR codes on Animal Crossing. I couldn't never draw they way he does with a stylus.