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[Lassy]

Do not continue on Reading if you are too young and not mature enough. I'm being serious, this is a weird situation for me.



Sooooo- my friend's sister killed herself last Friday evening. I am not really affected by it as I didn't see her sister for 2 years and I don't really know her, but if course my friend is deeply affected by it. I heard a lot of rumors about the reasons if her death, and I was worried about how much people were gossiping about it. Let's call the concern friend Juliet. Her best friend, let's name her bree, I told her about the rumors, asked if any were true and telling her I was really worried that if ever they were false that they might reach Juliet and hurt her even more. Then after school, I received a text from Juliet, she told me that she disappointed by the fact I was speculating about her sister's death and spreading rumors according to several people. I actually only told Bree and a good friend of mine who I believe would never betray me and isn't goody goody friend with Juliet. I'm pretty sure it's Bree, who deformed what I said to make me look like a jerk. She already make me look ridiculous when I said that 'Latino' is a term that people use to qualify South American people and she said I was lying and that The term used was Native American. (All because she's half American and I'm not a single drop of American but I lived there for a shirt time). So going back, I explained everything to Juliet but I doubt she believes even though she said 'thanks' as she only trusts Bree and only believes her. I seriously don't know how to face her tomorrow. I don't dare to tell this anyone because I'm afraid this is going to be not in my favor, hence why I am here guys, nobody plays AC in my high school :<

Oh joy. I have a really ****ty life and I'm bad at socializing hence why people can easily pick on me, I'm a pretty easy pray.


EDIT: (1st April) my next question is, how should I talk about this to Bree? I was thinking of texting her and telling her that this isn't Juliet's role to play the police and that she should have told me instead of making Juliet involved

 

[Kildor]

Do not continue on Reading if you are too young and not mature enough. I'm being serious, this is a weird situation for me.



Sooooo- my friend's sister killed herself last Friday evening. I am not really affected by it as I didn't see her sister for 2 years and I don't really know her, but if course my friend is deeply affected by it. I heard a lot of rumors about the reasons if her death, and I was worried about how much people were gossiping about it. Let's call the concern friend Juliet. Her best friend, let's name her bree, I told her about the rumors, asked if any were true and telling her I was really worried that if ever they were false that they might reach Juliet and hurt her even more. Then after school, I received a text from Juliet, she told me that she disappointed by the fact I was speculating about her sister's death and spreading rumors according to several people. I actually only told Bree and a good friend of mine who I believe would never betray me and isn't goody goody friend with Juliet. I'm pretty sure it's Bree, who deformed what I said to make me look like a jerk. She already make me look ridiculous when I said that 'Latino' is a term that people use to qualify South American people and she said I was lying and that The term used was Native American. (All because she's half American and I'm not a single drop of American but I lived there for a shirt time). So going back, I explained everything to Juliet but I doubt she believes even though she said 'thanks' as she only trusts Bree and only believes her. I seriously don't know how to face her tomorrow. I don't dare to tell this anyone because I'm afraid this is going to be not in my favor, hence why I am here guys, nobody plays AC in my high school :<

Oh joy. I have a really ****ty life and I'm bad at socializing hence why people can easily pick on me, I'm a pretty easy pray.

All you have to do is tell 'Juliet' the truth. And Bree is a b***. If anyone should be accused,it is Bree. Not you. Bree has no respect for Juliet at all. Bree already knew that Juliet's sister passed,and she still spreads rumors,and even points the blame at you. Also,I am sorry for Juliet's loss,it's quite terrible that happened to her sister. She must be really sad :c

 

[Lassy]

All you have to do is tell 'Juliet' the truth. And Bree is a b***. If anyone should be accused,it is Bree. Not you. Bree has no respect for Juliet at all. Bree already knew that Juliet's sister passed,and she still spreads rumors,and even points the blame at you. Also,I am sorry for Juliet's loss,it's quite terrible that happened to her sister. She must be really sad :c

I just don't understand the point of Bree to report to Juliet, it is aurally hurting her even more, to know that there are rumors -_-
This is going to be quite awkward -

 

[Animedan]

Do not continue on Reading if you are too young and not mature enough. I'm being serious, this is a weird situation for me.



Sooooo- my friend's sister killed herself last Friday evening. I am not really affected by it as I didn't see her sister for 2 years and I don't really know her, but if course my friend is deeply affected by it. I heard a lot of rumors about the reasons if her death, and I was worried about how much people were gossiping about it. Let's call the concern friend Juliet. Her best friend, let's name her bree, I told her about the rumors, asked if any were true and telling her I was really worried that if ever they were false that they might reach Juliet and hurt her even more. Then after school, I received a text from Juliet, she told me that she disappointed by the fact I was speculating about her sister's death and spreading rumors according to several people. I actually only told Bree and a good friend of mine who I believe would never betray me and isn't goody goody friend with Juliet. I'm pretty sure it's Bree, who deformed what I said to make me look like a jerk. She already make me look ridiculous when I said that 'Latino' is a term that people use to qualify South American people and she said I was lying and that The term used was Native American. (All because she's half American and I'm not a single drop of American but I lived there for a shirt time). So going back, I explained everything to Juliet but I doubt she believes even though she said 'thanks' as she only trusts Bree and only believes her. I seriously don't know how to face her tomorrow. I don't dare to tell this anyone because I'm afraid this is going to be not in my favor, hence why I am here guys, nobody plays AC in my high school :<

Oh joy. I have a really ****ty life and I'm bad at socializing hence why people can easily pick on me, I'm a pretty easy pray.

I would try to give advice to you but I am not good in social situations.

 

[Kildor]

I just don't understand the point of Bree to report to Juliet, it is aurally hurting her even more, to know that there are rumors -_-
This is going to be quite awkward -

Bree is not a real friend then. A real friend should NOT hurt his/her friend in anyway possible. Either Bree is dumb,or she is insensitive. Best thing to do is tell Juliet to avoid Bree as much as possible. Don't let her come to school first. Take her mind off things. It will help her alot.

 

[Krissi2197]

First off, I'm really sorry about Juliet's sister killing herself... It's probably hard on the entire family right now. :c

I really don't know what to tell you besides telling Juliet your side of the story. It's still recent, so she may be a bit hostile, but understand that her sister just took her own life... Maybe leave her alone for a bit to grieve, and come a month or so, try talking to her about the situation. If she doesn't believe you, then she isn't a true friend.

 

[Mewmewmewm]

Are South Americans usually called Latino...? Don't understand why she would be so eager to point you wrong on that anyway...
I'm really sorry for your friends loss though. It must be really hard on her, and I think she must be going through a lot right now. I recently had a friendof mine (I sadly never knew him to well) who lost his brother to a seizure right in front of him. When he finally came back to school at first he looked destroyed but with time he slowly got better. Now he's a very cheerful person （＾ν＾）

But I hope you hang on too. Bree sounds like someone I definitely wouldn't want as a friend. It sounds like she's just being rude to you for no reason at all which I think is ridiculous. I've had friends like that before. Usually what I do though is I just completely ignore them until their own ignorance makes them go away. Even if she spreads rumors about you, there's sadly not much you can do about It that I know of. Ignoring her seems to be your best bet until she finally just gets bored of harassing you.

As for Juilet, I would just try to be strong for her in these times. I would tell her the truth about what Bree has been saying and promise her that it really wasn't you. She sounds like a good friend, so I think she'll believe you. Just be positive.
even if Bree is a major jerkface...

Just try to hang in there until the storm passes. High school girls really don't have a very big attention span so eventually Bree will get bored of harassing you and being an all around bad friend. As long as your being a good friend though I think you'll be fine. (⌒▽⌒) you sound like a nice person and you really care for Juilet. Friends like that are not very common these days.

Hang in there and good luck!

 

[Lassy]

Bree is not a real friend then. A real friend should NOT hurt his/her friend in anyway possible. Either Bree is dumb,or she is insensitive. Best thing to do is tell Juliet to avoid Bree as much as possible. Don't let her come to school first. Take her mind off things. It will help her alot.

We have exams coming up in a month and she"s got a conditional offer from Cambridge, so for Juliet she cannot allow herself to skip school. And I doubt she'll listen to me to avoid Bree as Bree is like her best friend.

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First off, I'm really sorry about Juliet's sister killing herself... It's probably hard on the entire family right now. :c

I really don't know what to tell you besides telling Juliet your side of the story. It's still recent, so she may be a bit hostile, but understand that her sister just took her own life... Maybe leave her alone for a bit to grieve, and come a month or so, try talking to her about the situation. If she doesn't believe you, then she isn't a true friend.

Thank you for your piece of advice, I think it may be better to not talk to her at all, anyway, I think our relationship is pretty much destroyed.
I also a bit carried away as it seemed so not realistic, just like the movie scenario. :/

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Are South Americans usually called Latino...? Don't understand why she would be so eager to point you wrong on that anyway...
I'm really sorry for your friends loss though. It must be really hard on her, and I think she must be going through a lot right now. I recently had a friendof mine (I sadly never knew him to well) who lost his brother to a seizure right in front of him. When he finally came back to school at first he looked destroyed but with time he slowly got better. Now he's a very cheerful person （＾ν＾）

But I hope you hang on too. Bree sounds like someone I definitely wouldn't want as a friend. It sounds like she's just being rude to you for no reason at all which I think is ridiculous. I've had friends like that before. Usually what I do though is I just completely ignore them until their own ignorance makes them go away. Even if she spreads rumors about you, there's sadly not much you can do about It that I know of. Ignoring her seems to be your best bet until she finally just gets bored of harassing you.

As for Juilet, I would just try to be strong for her in these times. I would tell her the truth about what Bree has been saying and promise her that it really wasn't you. She sounds like a good friend, so I think she'll believe you. Just be positive.
even if Bree is a major jerkface...

Just try to hang in there until the storm passes. High school girls really don't have a very big attention span so eventually Bree will get bored of harassing you and being an all around bad friend. As long as your being a good friend though I think you'll be fine. (⌒▽⌒) you sound like a nice person and you really care for Juilet. Friends like that are not very common these days.

Hang in there and good luck!

We'll Bree is very weird, sometimes she acts like a *****, sometimes she's very sweet, so I'm really confused. I used to be good friends with her until she started to become more 'adult' and really changed. Now we're more like classmates.
How long did it take for your friend to recover?

 

[Mewmewmewm]

Surprisingly only a week. His brother was his best friend, he would even take him to play practice a lot. But I think the key to recovering for him was that he had so many friends from theater who supported him. I still see him around the halls with his friends and he's always smiling. The recover time probably varies from person to person, but we also had another cancer death this school year. Except for the girls best friend who took care of her the recover time was much longer because our school banned the support shirts that said "Caitlin's Crusaiders" on the back. ( we even got on Fox News.... ) I think the environment must affect how people recover, so as long as your being a good friend like you are now I'm sure she can recover well （＾ω＾）

 

[ransu]

just tell the truth and if they dont believe you tell it harder

can't go wrong with the truth yo

 

[sej]

This is a tough situation, Bree is horrible and she should respect her death and show some respect. It's horrible when someone doesn't believe you, when you know your right. Hope this turns out good

 

[KarlaKGB]

We have exams coming up in a month and she"s got a conditional offer from Cambridge, so for Juliet she cannot allow herself to skip school. And I doubt she'll listen to me to avoid Bree as Bree is like her best friend.

Skipping school would be a bad mistake, even though Cambridge are very understanding in pastoral matters. She should work towards it as Cambridge is a great place, these opportunities only come once.

 

[PurplPanda]

I am in a similar situation. My best friend, let's call her Stephanie, had a friend named... let's call her Laura. Stephanie had been depressed before, to the point of self-harm. However, Laura never seemed to be the type to do that, she tended to stay quiet and only talk to Stephanie. However, last week, Laura attempted to take her own life. This was a humongous blow to Stephanie, as none of us had been expecting. Stephanie and I are the only people who know that that's the reason, everyone else, including our teachers, has been told she broke her leg and is now in the hospital. The day Stephanie found out was the day the orchestra had their concert festival, and the festival was cancelled because Laura was the only bass and couldn't be there. When someone said it was stupid that they had to cancel, Stephanie started crying. The popular bunch came up to me and asked me what happened. At the time, I didn't know. The next day, my homeroom teacher wasn't there, and so I went to Stephanie's homeroom, and found her crying. I asked her what happened, and she told me the truth. She didn't tell anyone else.

I have found it best to ignore those who ask questions, and just to leave the friend alone for a few days. I'm sure she'll come around. Just send a few comforting text messages, and she'll be fine. And always tell the truth to Juliet on that topic, because if you don't, she'll find out.

 

[radical6]

Do not continue on Reading if you are too young and not mature enough. I'm being serious, this is a weird situation for me.



Sooooo- my friend's sister killed herself last Friday evening. I am not really affected by it as I didn't see her sister for 2 years and I don't really know her, but if course my friend is deeply affected by it. I heard a lot of rumors about the reasons if her death, and I was worried about how much people were gossiping about it. Let's call the concern friend Juliet. Her best friend, let's name her bree, I told her about the rumors, asked if any were true and telling her I was really worried that if ever they were false that they might reach Juliet and hurt her even more. Then after school, I received a text from Juliet, she told me that she disappointed by the fact I was speculating about her sister's death and spreading rumors according to several people. I actually only told Bree and a good friend of mine who I believe would never betray me and isn't goody goody friend with Juliet. I'm pretty sure it's Bree, who deformed what I said to make me look like a jerk. She already make me look ridiculous when I said that 'Latino' is a term that people use to qualify South American people and she said I was lying and that The term used was Native American. (All because she's half American and I'm not a single drop of American but I lived there for a shirt time). So going back, I explained everything to Juliet but I doubt she believes even though she said 'thanks' as she only trusts Bree and only believes her. I seriously don't know how to face her tomorrow. I don't dare to tell this anyone because I'm afraid this is going to be not in my favor, hence why I am here guys, nobody plays AC in my high school :<

Oh joy. I have a really ****ty life and I'm bad at socializing hence why people can easily pick on me, I'm a pretty easy pray.

first, how the hell does she think latino is for native americans wtf
second, brees a jerk
honestly i would tell juliet, but not right now. right now shes probably not in the mood and shes probably upset about her sisters death, so i would give her a while. maybe tell her when you shes in a better mood? but yeah i wouldnt tell her like first thing tomorrow.

 

[kite]

Sorry, this post ended up longer than I thought:

That is a very difficult and tough situation to bear with, for your friend to have to deal with the death of a loved one. People never recover from that, but have to keep living with that loss (though people will have to pick themselves up again to continue with their lives). It's most likely a sensitive topic for her, especially since it's recent. If anything, don't bring up anything about her sister (keep any such thoughts of her to yourself). Why her sister died is of no one's concern but her, her family, and her sister's close friends, as they knew the girl best. Just keep trying to show your support by keeping up a positive attitude or listening to your friend when she needs someone to talk to.

When it comes to that "Bree" person, try to deal with her neutrally. It's hard dealing with antagonistic people, but if you react negatively, then things can get worse. Stick to your guns and act confident in yourself, since people find it easier to mess with individuals who are unsure of themselves. If she says something you know is incorrect, don't keep quiet. Quickly rectify her with correct information, but if she insists, just do some online searches and show it to her. But then again, some people are just willing to even forgo and ignore legitimate sources just to sound like they know what they're talking about. Anyway, dwelling on such toxicity isn't good for you or anyone else... good luck. ;o

 

[Darumy]

I'm sure you had good intentions, but...

My sister tends to get into these situations a lot and I understand. At one point the miscommunication got so bad they basically all grouped up and told her she was a horrible person for "talking crap" when she never meant any harm. I can see how difficult it is to deal. My sister's friends were her world and the story is a lot bigger but not my business to tell so I'll move on another thing.


Please, please, please give your friend some space. I know you are definitely trying to look out for her but this kind of drama, she does not need right now. Try not to confuse her, or make her have to pick between friends when she's in a situation like this. I suggest you go talk to Bree and try to work it out civilly, or at least come to an agreement to back off for the time being. I don't know if you've ever had someone close to you pass away (suicide is even harder), but it's- I'm just going to say I'm surprised she didn't irrationally blow up at you for it, even though you aren't at fault. It's something people can't really understand until they experience it themselves, even kind words and gestures can feel like splinters. Something like this can really hurt, even if you don't mean it.

 

[Lassy]

I'm sure you had good intentions, but...

My sister tends to get into these situations a lot and I understand. At one point the miscommunication got so bad they basically all grouped up and told her she was a horrible person for "talking crap" when she never meant any harm. I can see how difficult it is to deal. My sister's friends were her world and the story is a lot bigger but not my business to tell so I'll move on another thing.


Please, please, please give your friend some space. I know you are definitely trying to look out for her but this kind of drama, she does not need right now. Try not to confuse her, or make her have to pick between friends when she's in a situation like this. I suggest you go talk to Bree and try to work it out civilly, or at least come to an agreement to back off for the time being. I don't know if you've ever had someone close to you pass away (suicide is even harder), but it's- I'm just going to say I'm surprised she didn't irrationally blow up at you for it, even though you aren't at fault. It's something people can't really understand until they experience it themselves, even kind words and gestures can feel like splinters. Something like this can really hurt, even if you don't mean it.

Wow you explained things so well! And I'm similar to your sister, I got a bit isolated because people always think I talk "crap" :/


I've got a question on how I should deal with Bree. I was thinking of sending a text, because She's always glued to Juliet. Should I reel her that she shouldn't have told Juliet about t but confronted me instead ? because it isn't Juliet's role to do the police at this point.

 

[HelloAnna]

just tell the truth and if they dont believe you tell it harder

can't go wrong with the truth yo

Fully agree with this! But always ask from the source, never anyone else. I say no longer trust Bree. Even if asking about rumours may be a touchy topic, it's far better than to ask those who don't even know. I hope everyone else gets their heads straight. You don't deserve this.​

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Edit: You can still be a friend, just no longer fully "trust" unless she proves herself otherwise.​