online / long distance friendships

My sister met her boyfriend online in 1997. (He lived an hour away.) They're still together today. Every relationship is different, of course, because people are all different. Some people you know in person are trustworthy and some aren't. The same is true for people you meet online. I tend not to stick with anyone for too long, no matter what our relationship status is because I'm someone who needs tons of alone time.
 
In my first forum i spaek with unknow people but they are like friends so a friendship relation is like a friend in a real life
 
Well. I am going to tell you guys a story. It is hilarious and wonderful. It changed a lot of people I know's view on online friendship during a time where meeting up with people online was a news story and people were TERRIFIED of it being some stranger out to murder you.. which I understand can happen obviously... but sometimes they are just another person like you, not wanting a weirdo, just seeking a friendship.

When I was very young.. like 12 or so, I was on a green day fan site. I know, I know...
And I met this girl and we talked almost everyday. We would write stories about the band or just anything really.
We got very close and would MSN message daily. We got to do video chat on there and it was so much fun.
We planned our summers doing this pretty much every day. My little brother even loved to come in and talk to her. She would say hi to my parents. I mean it was the best.

A few years of this went by. I was 16 and she was 15. Her mom said she could fly out for a week or so to spend it up here with me. She is from CO, and I live in WA. We were so happy.

She spend a week here. My family loved her. We went to the beach, we went to the mountains, we hung out and watched scary movies all day. It was amazing. We colored each others hair, took photos. We had a great time. We took SO MANY PICTURES.
We even wrote more of our stories, but this time in person ahhaa. It was so much fun.

A few more years go by, and I am now 19. I am getting married, and sent her an invite. She decides to come and stay for a week again. I am so happy. I spent the night before I am getting married in my childhood room with her on a cot next to me and talking to her the night before. It is one of my favorite memories.

Now, I am 22 and planning to come visit her this summer in CO.
We are best friends. I don't know what I would do without her. We facetime almost every day, if not at least texting or a quick call.

This all started from a Green Day website, with a person who I wouldn't have ever known.
We have the world in common. My husband met her and was like "Oh my god it is another Lauren in this world..."
It was crazy. My parents said the same thing and love her like a daughter.
Whenever I tell this story it makes people laugh at how it all started. This friendship is nearly ten years old and going amazingly strong. She is my best friend. Even though we don't get to see each other every day... I don't know what I would do without having this gem of a person in my life.
 
I have a couple of online friends that I have known and talked to for years now and I see them as actual friends although we've never met in person. I am more trusting of them than I am with my real friends
 
Mariah said:
I've never actually had a friend before, online or real life. It's something I hope to experience someday though.
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I wonder why

anyway, I trust both equally- I don't make friends with btches
 
Niemyx, i love you like a sister <3 you give me advice and it will probably help me when i am older.... you are like my big sister to me... never leave my life... Never Gonna Give You Up
 
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I don't feel much towards people online because I know they're completely different once they have to do more than typing.
You know, once the account is gone the friendship is as well. I spent a lot of time as a teenager with online friends and completely ignored the people around me because I thought I was so much better than anyone. Freaking teenage years. Now these virtual best friends don't exist in real life because they never did. However, I did make a real friend online that lifes very near, but only because of that. When we met up in real life we finally got to know each other.
I'm sure people can make healthy relationships online, but I think a certain kind of maturity and age is required for that to work. I used to work as a mod on sites aimed at teens (more like Neopets than an actual forum) and year-long friendship just disappeared after hacking/stealing attempts because it's just a fantasy, really. At least for teenagers who haven't learned common courtesy due to an internet addiction.
Just look at the group/club behaviour on here and how they treat people, ganging up on them. That is definitely not reality. I think this site is a good example for the problems because the userbase is really young too. At least the usual problem makers.
 
I have friends and I like them, but never get too attatched. Your friendship can blow up in a moment's notice.
 
Mm.. I'd say I trust both types of friends by the same amount, both can backstab you pretty hard, but they can be just as warm and friendly
 
I personally like online friends more than irl friends.
It seems like my IRL friends are always too busy to be with me, and they don't prefer to text so I barely have that much contact. We are all friends by like associate, so we do have a lot of fights and it gets frustrating at many times. Online, I get to choose who I want to be friends with, so there are rarely any fights within the group.
I personally believe that you won't find your perfect match in your hometown, wether it be best friends or boyfriend/girlfriends, so online is a great way to expand your horizon.

I mean both methods are great. Friends are great. As long as they don't stab me in the back, I'm cool with either. :)
 
I can't freaking MAKE friends irl because apparently people don't like people like me.
I think those people can go suck it.
Online friends are the only friends.
 
I like online friends better. My irl friends are always asking "Do you have snapchat? Instagram? Facebook?" They always want me to have social media, which my mom doesn't allow for safety reasons. But here, I have friends where I can just talk here. My irl friends, I can only talk to them at school because I don't have a phone, and of course they don't have an account here.
 
i only have one online friend tbh but she's pretty cool. we talk on skype and we've sent packages to each other in the mail before. she also sent me $10 in iTunes money for my birthday.
she knows some things about my real life that not even my irl friends know hahah
 
I have trouble opening up to people and finding common interests in person but I enjoy real life company more. So I guess my answer is I like real life friends that I also interact with online best.
 
Honestly, finding people who are as passionate about anime or games in my area is impossible. Even at conventions I don't tend to form any new friendships with people. Obviously there are some creeps online, but I mean sites like this is pretty rare to find one. I've made some really nice friends online and they've helped me through my problems a lot so I'm very thankful to them. It still is hard to find people to talk about anime with regularly.
 
there like any other group of friends. Some you'll out grow, some will turn to acquaintances. I have a few good irl and online friends so ts about the same.
 
online friendships are good when you have no irl friends to talk to. i wont trust them too much but i would trust them. an online friend of mine actually lied about her gender and pretended to be a boy like LOL
 
My only friends are on TBT lmao

I trust them completely, I've told them my address and other stuff xD
 
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