LGBTQA - Discussion and support.

[gem83]

I have a question for you all.

If your sexuality is something other than straight, do you feel the need to alert your parents or "come out?" Why or why not?

Nope, partly because it's not their business and partly because they are the least accepting people in the world, especially when it comes to LGBTQA+.

 

[Ghost Soda]

I have a question for you all.

If your sexuality is something other than straight, do you feel the need to alert your parents or "come out?" Why or why not?

Not really. They already know because I don't keep it a secret or anything and they're very supporting. I never felt the need to make a whole announcement about it. And if I make any friends, I probably won't bother bringing it up unless I'm interested in them or they hound me on it.

 

[eggs]

this MIGHT sound homophobe or something nlike that but that's NOT the intention;

Why the community at first is called "LGBT" (u can add Q and A)?? Transexuality is not a sexuality + I don't see why asexuality is not one of the basics. You can like boys, girls, both or none

GLAAD (a prominent LGBT organization) says it better than i can:

"GLAAD stands firmly with the transgender community and unequivocally rejects the outrageous and destructive idea that the ?T? be removed from LGBT. For decades, transgender people have worked alongside lesbian, gay, and bisexual people to advance equality for everyone, often leading the way in the movement for full equality and acceptance. Many trans people are also lesbian, gay, and bisexual ? they are an inextricable and invaluable part of the LGB community. At a time when anti-LGBT activists continue to attack the basic rights and protections essential to all of our lives, we must stand together, rather than succumb to the ruin of divisiveness."

tl;dr: although yes, transexuality is not a sexuality, it's still a major part of the community. transsexual/transgender people advocate for many of the same things gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, etc people do.

and as for the asexuality bit, asexuality =/= not liking boys or girl. you can be asexual and still like other people. i think you're getting "asexual" mixed up with "aromantic". aromantic = not being romantically attracted any gender, whereas asexual = not being sexually attracted to any gender.
being aromantic and/or asexual is seen as very "unnatural" in society, especially western countries, resulting in little to no representation in the media, invisibility, and so on and so forth. however, i'm not aro/ace myself, so i don't want to get too much into that.

 

[Ghost Soda]

His/Her friends don't know that he/she's gay, if you read the comment properly.

It's easy to say stuff like "Stop being friends with X because of what he/she does/said." and honestly it's not helpful at all. In highschool/college or whatever this kid's in, it's not easy to make friends. Friends at those phases of life are luxuries that not everybody gets to have, so you should cherish whatever relationships you have with people and only work on strengthening them, not dismissing people because of what they don't know.

Keep them as friends. If you're truly close to them and feel comfortable telling them that you're gay then do it! I wish my friend came out to me earlier than she did because I know for certain we would be so much closer had she done so (and vice versa, I'm sure). If they accept you for who you are then that's good! If they don't, then explain to them why it's bad to judge people based on their sexualities, and even then if they're still uncooperative then the best case scenario would be to just un-friend them if there's nothing else you can do to help aid their ignorance.

Good luck!

I didn't say "leave you friends b/c they don't know you're gay", I was telling them that if their friends leave them because they're gay, then they're *******s. (the friends, not op)

 

[Jarrad]

I didn't say "leave you friends b/c they don't know you're gay", I was telling them that if their friends leave them because they're gay, then they're *******s. (the friends, not op)

You said "get better friends"?? :s

 

[00jachna]

Sigh... my dad is very homophoic (and racisist, for that matter), I wonder how he will react when he finds out that I'm gay.
I don't think it's very obvious that I am gay since I don't really do all of the stereotypical gay things.

I don't plan on doing a big announcement or anything, buuuttt.... what if I bring home a BF for christmas or something in the future?
That ought to be intresting

 

[Knopekin]

I have a question for you all.

If your sexuality is something other than straight, do you feel the need to alert your parents or "come out?" Why or why not?

I told my parents when I had a girlfriend and they were fine about it. The same as they were when my sister brought home a boyfriend. It wasn't 'coming out' as much as it was 'telling them about someone in my life'.

They've been incredibly supportive after my girlfriend of nearly four years left me a few months ago, and I'm really sorry for people who don't have parental support, because I don't know what I'd have done without mine :<

 

[visibleghost]

Sigh... my dad is very homophoic (and racisist, for that matter), I wonder how he will react when he finds out that I'm gay.
I don't think it's very obvious that I am gay since I don't really do all of the stereotypical gay things.

I don't plan on doing a big announcement or anything, buuuttt.... what if I bring home a BF for christmas or something in the future?
That ought to be intresting

wow that sucks
I hope your dad changes his mind, it's really uncomfortable to have to be around someone who can't accept or respect other people, especially if you're one of the people they can't accept or respect

 

[radical6]

this MIGHT sound homophobe or something nlike that but that's NOT the intention;

Why the community at first is called "LGBT" (u can add Q and A)?? Transexuality is not a sexuality + I don't see why asexuality is not one of the basics. You can like boys, girls, both or none

uhhh....

because trans women helped in stonewall. stonewall is one of the biggest moments in LGBT history and trans women helped largely in that

trans people seem to be often lgb too. trans experiences are very similar to lgb experiences as well..

we wouldnt have the lgbt movement we have today if it wasnt for trans people lol..

 

[Knopekin]

The application for my current job had a equalities and diversity section on the application (they ask your age, dis/ability, maritial status, etc.) and under 'sexual orientation' transgender was one of the options.

I'm leaving soon, I might send them an email to let them know how wrong they are.

 

[visibleghost]

The application for my current job had a equalities and diversity section on the application (they ask your age, dis/ability, maritial status, etc.) and under 'sexual orientation' transgender was one of the options.

I'm leaving soon, I might send them an email to let them know how wrong they are.

wow eugh..., that sucks, i hope they're just not informed and will change it if you let them know.

 

[oath2order]

The application for my current job had a equalities and diversity section on the application (they ask your age, dis/ability, maritial status, etc.) and under 'sexual orientation' transgender was one of the options.

I'm leaving soon, I might send them an email to let them know how wrong they are.

Maybe they thought LGBT was just sexualities.

 

[radical6]

you know Group Health is taking a lot of steps rn especially with doctors and psychs/therapists to be more LGBT inclusive

i mean they got like all the sexuality **** down, even asexuality to aromantic

but transgender was labelled mtf and ftm and while i understand some people like those terms i find them kind of insulting because it technically implies before you transition (which not all ppl can do btw) ur a guy/girl

anyway theyre putting the lgbt poster stuff like everywhere which is nice

 

[Chris]

The application for my current job had a equalities and diversity section on the application (they ask your age, dis/ability, maritial status, etc.) and under 'sexual orientation' transgender was one of the options.

I'm leaving soon, I might send them an email to let them know how wrong they are.

I find it bizarre that they'd even ask that on a job application form.

 

[device]

I find it bizarre that they'd even ask that on a job application form.

why is it bizarre?

 

[Chris]

why is it bizarre?

For the vast majority of jobs a person's sexuality is completely irrelevant to their professional life, so it seems unnecessarily intrusive to ask IMO.

 

[gem83]

For the vast majority of jobs a person's sexuality is completely irrelevant to their professional life, so it seems unnecessarily intrusive to ask IMO.

so they can know who to hate on more easily Nahhh Idk... Maybe for jobs that offer healthcare, they'd have to know if you're trans to know if you're on hormones or not??? I have no idea, that's a huuuuge stretch lol. I agree that it's needlessly nosy. Also the fact that transgender is not a sexuality.

 

[PastelPrincess]

came out to my family as a lesbian a few years ago and they still have not let me come home....
i am originally from korea now living in america

- - - Post Merge - - -

today marks 3 years since i've seen my little sister

 

[oath2order]

came out to my family as a lesbian a few years ago and they still have not let me come home....
i am originally from korea now living in america

- - - Post Merge - - -

today marks 3 years since i've seen my little sister

**** your parents kicked you out of the country?

 

[Shimmer]

The application for my current job had a equalities and diversity section on the application (they ask your age, dis/ability, maritial status, etc.) and under 'sexual orientation' transgender was one of the options.

I'm leaving soon, I might send them an email to let them know how wrong they are.

I heard that them asking your marital status and sexual orientation is illegal.