If you could choose, would you rather your future spouse/datemate/soulmate be exactly the type of person you think they would be, like all the traits you've thought of as desirable, or would you rather meet someone who is nothing like the person you wanted to be with in your head but is still equally as good?
I guess, what I'm saying is: would you rather get together with exactly the person you want or someone who is a complete surprise?
A surprise. That's what my relationship with my boyfriend started out as. We talked online, and when we met in person he was nothing like I imagined. He was waaaaaay better. And I love him for that.
That's a tricky one. Probably a complete surprise, because I feel like, in any kind of relationship, what you think you want is below what's achievable.
That's hard to say since I don't really have an idea of the type of person I'd want to be with, I just think whoever I like at the time is ideal and each of the girls I've liked/been with have been totally different from one another yet I developed feelings for each of them all the same. So I guess now that I'm thinking about it I like to be surprised lol. I never really know what I want exactly and if I find someone who makes me happy that's good enough for me, even if they may not have been what I'd imagined!
If they were exactly the type of person I think they'd be, I might as well be dating a robot because then I'd wouldn't have to be surprised by anything they do. I like finding out more about myself, and the people who I'm close to.
haha I don't know, I don't think there is anyone out there who is as good as your mental ideal person. Everyone is human and everyone has flaws. . . I guess what I'm saying is, my "ideal" person would never cause me grief, and no matter what other aspects differ, and whether I'd prefer a surprise in some ways, every real life person is going to be troublesome in some way, and so. . . not as good! D:
So like a few months before I met my boyfriend I did a Amas Veritas with all the things I wanted in a significant other, I still have the pages written down somewhere, all the traits I wanted in my S.O. and then he came into my life. It was pretty magical tbh, because I never thought it would actually work, but my intent was there and he came along. =D So I guess the best part of having him was that I never expected him to match up with my dream guy, but he totally is.
I'm not fussed either way. Even though there are certain traits in people that I'm more attracted to, I just care more about how nice they are. If they're abusive or just rude all round, then I don't want to be in a relationship with them.
uhh idk. as long as theyre good and we're great friends i don't really care?? i also don't really have any kind of idea of how i'd like a soulmate or w/e to be like so uhh yeah ..,
