I need friend advice?...

[Bunnilla]

So I have a best friend, um we've been friends for like 1 year and a half now? Well everything was fine, until like starting yesterday she started ignoring me. I'm not sure why, but starting yesterday she doesn't talk to me or barely does (only when she needs to answer a question) or tries to avoid me. She doesn't do eye contact and when I try asking her what is wrong or if I did something, she just avoids me/acts like she didn't hear anything. I'm not sure what I did exactly, the only thing I can think of is us kinda laughing at her because she didn't wanna sit down on a bench in yesterday morning with us because it was wet and only a little bit. My friends that are friends with her have tried asking her why she ignores me but she doesn't answer them. One of my friends in a class had said she said this joke to her: "When you avoid your friend by going to talk to your other friend." or some variation like that. I don't know what to do I've tried talking to her but she just faces the other direction. I can't think of anything major that would have made her mad at me, we joke around with each other and almost never serious.
Does anyone have helpful advice? I'm not sure if this is the best place to ask but it's better than nothing.

 

[Corrie]

I'd give her space for now. She seems ticked and might need to cool off for a bit. Give her a week or so and then try to talk to her again. Let her know you didnt mean to hurt her and that you still want to be friends. If she still ignores you, then I guess you have no other choice but to move on and hang with other people until she figures it out. You can only do so much.

This same thing happened to me and my friend in grade 5. We were neighbours and we were the best of friends. One day, she started behaving the same way as your friend and it really upset me. Apparently she ended up being permanently mad at me because I told her Spyro the dragon was a guy and not a girl. -shot- she ended up moving away so I ended up moving on. Hopefully you two dont end up like that though. Just telling ya my experience so you know you arent alone. ^^

 

[Bunnilla]

I'd give her space for now. She seems ticked and might need to cool off for a bit. Give her a week or so and then try to talk to her again. Let her know you didnt mean to hurt her and that you still want to be friends. If she still ignores you, then I guess you have no other choice but to move on and hang with other people until she figures it out. You can only do so much.

This same thing happened to me and my friend in grade 5. We were neighbours and we were the best of friends. One day, she started behaving the same way as your friend and it really upset me. Apparently she ended up being permanently mad at me because I told her Spyro the dragon was a guy and not a girl. -shot- she ended up moving away so I ended up moving on. Hopefully you two dont end up like that though. Just telling ya my experience so you know you arent alone. ^^

The give her some space is what I felt like I would get, it is good advice lol
But I know her, and when I went around her I would see her smiling when I tried asking her xD I think if she's still mad tomorrow then after Saturday and Sunday she might be good again or at least try to talk.

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It's not complete ignoring, but she just doesn't talk to me idk or talks to the people nearby me but not me

 

[kylie32123]

Well....I have to agree with Corrie on this one. It's best to give her space, let her reach out to you when she feels she is ready. But don't make it seem like you are ignoring her- When you see her, smile and let her know you acknowledge her presence. She will open up when she feels comfortable with it.

 

[Bunnilla]

Oh yeah forgot to mention the give her some space has a minor difficulty in my 8th period b/c her desk is literally next to mines..

 

[Chicha]

I'll also agree with Corrie. If she doesn't talk to you after a week or longer than that, then it's best to assume the friendship is over. It sucks but unfortunately that's how life can be sometimes. Has she been like this with you before or with another close friend?

In my experience, I had a friend that would always ignore/avoid others if she was upset but wouldn't tell anyone why. Eventually, we found out she'd spread nasty rumors about the person she was currently annoyed at & played victim if anyone called her out. Turns out she was extremely immature & got enjoyment from hurting others. If your friend's like this, drop her. With any type of relationship, it works both ways. Communication is key to any relationship.

Hope it all works out for you, though! Try to focus on hanging around other friends and avoid her in conversation. If she wants to reconcile, she'll look for you. Life's too short for unresponsive friends.

 

[Bunnilla]

I'll also agree with Corrie. If she doesn't talk to you after a week or longer than that, then it's best to assume the friendship is over. It sucks but unfortunately that's how life can be sometimes. Has she been like this with you before or with another close friend?

In my experience, I had a friend that would always ignore/avoid others if she was upset but wouldn't tell anyone why. Eventually, we found out she'd spread nasty rumors about the person she was currently annoyed at & played victim if anyone called her out. Turns out she was extremely immature & got enjoyment from hurting others. If your friend's like this, drop her. With any type of relationship, it works both ways. Communication is key to any relationship.

Hope it all works out for you, though! Try to focus on hanging around other friends and avoid her in conversation. If she wants to reconcile, she'll look for you. Life's too short for unresponsive friends.

I know her very well, she would never do that. She's the typical nerd in the corner like me that's why we are such good friends (bonded over anime, vocaloids, acnl, pokemon, and 3ds stuff in general) She's never been like this, if she got mad at me it would usually be like a text fight and like the next day we would be fine and just resume normal life. This is why the situation is so strange, it's just not something for her to do. I'm going to see how it plays out tomorrow and go from there. I know communication is key which is why I've tried getting to the heart of the issue to try to fix it, but she doesn't want to talk or anything.

 

[nintendoanna]

i think she'll talk to you eventually if she has a problem with something you specially did but tbh if you don't know what you did wrong maybe someone else told her about something that wasn't true ? i think rn she's just trying to make you annoyed lol so don't let her see that ur bothered by it (basically like everyone said give her space) and maybe she'll budge and try talking w ur other friends to see if she said anything to them
not exactly helpful but that's what i would do in that situation and i've been through it on both ends

 

[Bunnilla]

^ gotcha, I'm pretty sure she can tell what is true though about me, I just have to see how it will play out tomorrow b/c rn I have no idea

 

[Mints]

i would personally just keep to myself until she wants to reach out to you again. one of my friends ignored me and my best friend once and i had no idea why. i didn't ask her why or make a big deal out of it because there's no point in wasting time on someone who wouldn't spend a second on you.

 

[Bunnilla]

Guys I texted her rn, she said it seemed like I was flirting with this guy who I'm close friends with and that he was making fun of her and I did nothing?... anyways I think we are good now lol

 

[Chicha]

Guys I texted her rn, she said it seemed like I was flirting with this guy who I'm close friends with and that he was making fun of her and I did nothing?... anyways I think we are good now lol

Aw well, good! How silly it was all about a guy. Glad it got worked out.