I am now in a relationship with my second cousin, however....

[Lady Timpani]

I think dating any type of cousin is wrong. This guy shares a great grandparent with his girlfriend, so yeah it's definitely incestuous (which is against the law for obvious reasons).

Am I the only one that finds what this guy is doing to be wrong and sickening?

I'm not sure if I'd go so far as to say "wrong and sickening" , but I'd never date any of my cousins, no matter how far removed they are. It'd just weird me out, and... Okay, maybe I would find it sickening haha. Especially if the cousin in question was as close to me as OP says the two families are.

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I think part of the reason I feel I can't judge/ my judgment makes no difference is because it's over and done with. OP has to live with the consequences now.

 

[KarlaKGB]

hey if ur both above the age of consent then watever HAVE FUN just dont have kids

 

[Jarrad]

I'm not sure if I'd go so far as to say "wrong and sickening" , but I'd never date any of my cousins, no matter how far removed they are. It'd just weird me out, and... Okay, maybe I would find it sickening haha. Especially if the cousin in question was as close to me as OP says the two families are.

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I think part of the reason I feel I can't judge/ my judgment makes no difference is because it's over and done with. OP has to live with the consequences now.

Exactly, dating a family member (no matter how distant they are) will earn you a crude reputation amongst your family.

 

[Selky]

I'm not sure if I'd go so far as to say "wrong and sickening" , but I'd never date any of my cousins, no matter how far removed they are. It'd just weird me out, and... Okay, maybe I would find it sickening haha. Especially if the cousin in question was as close to me as OP says the two families are.

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I think part of the reason I feel I can't judge/ my judgment makes no difference is because it's over and done with. OP has to live with the consequences now.

I wouldn't really say it's wrong in the sense that they believe they have feelings for one another. Not really going to judge another's romance. It's up to them. The op does sound young though which relationships tend to not be so lucrative majority of the time.

I think like someone else pointed out...the main grey area is kids. Studies show gene pools closely related are more prone to health and devlopment issues. So if they had a child, it could be potentially worrisome for the child's medical development or health. But it's no one's issue except their own so if things progressed to that point it's their life/decision I suppose.

So I guess in the end it's two consenting people making a unified choice and having the outcome to deal with together. None of my business. If they're happy, cool. Though honestly this whole thread topic feelings like trolling lol.

 

[unravel]

I find it weird tbh but whatever its uhhh "love" right?

 

[Lady Timpani]

I wouldn't really say it's wrong in the sense that they believe they have feelings for one another. Not really going to judge another's romance. It's up to them. The op does sound young though which relationships tend to not be so lucrative majority of the time.

I think like someone else pointed out...the main grey area is kids. Studies show gene pools closely related are more prone to health and devlopment issues. So if they had a child, it could be potentially worrisome for the child's medical development or health. But it's no one's issue except their own so if things progressed to that point it's their life/decision I suppose.

So I guess in the end it's two consenting people making a unified choice and having the outcome to deal with together. None of my business. If they're happy, cool. Though honestly this whole thread topic feelings like trolling lol.

I get where you're coming from. Like I said, I personally would not date my cousins, and now that OP's made his choice, it's kind of a moot point for me or anyone else that's not in his family to really say anything about it/ try to argue with him. Any consequences (positive or negative) are his to deal with now. Ultimately, it's none of my business.

And I hope they're not planning on having kids at 17, lol.

 

[MrPicklez]

Seriously, how has no one made a Roman joke yet?

Also, congrats?

 

[Sanaki]

I think dating any type of cousin is wrong. This guy shares a great grandparent with his girlfriend, so yeah it's definitely incestuous (which is against the law for obvious reasons).

Am I the only one that finds what this guy is doing to be wrong and sickening?

Nope you're not.

 

[radical6]

umm.... i mean at least UR not first cousins, which is illegal but anything past that is okay in some states? I still consider this incest but um.. I don't think you guys are gonna have children at this point but uhhhh... idk what to say

 

[Brackets]

i don't find it as strange as if you were 1st cousins (i have no idea who my second cousins even are) but surely your family will find this odd

 

[Stevey Queen]

My cousins aren't even blood related (; guess I'll get to work on that now since I'm feeling inspired.

Good luck with your relationship. Though I think your aunt is wrong to out you guys so soon. I mean we don't even know how serious this relationship will be. It will make things awkward if things don't work out.

Well, it will be awkward either way. Please keep us updated.

 

[Princess Weeb]

Congrats! ^_^
Whatever happens at the meeting, don't let other people dictate your life, your feelings and your relationships, especially as you said you're 17. Regardless of what they say, stuff happens. Things might go wrong, but you'll learn from it. From what I gathered before you had little experience with your cousin growing up so I don't think there's much of a powerful family feeling.

The risks of birth defects or illnesses or whatever are not even close to as high as people think they are, the likelihood rises from like 2%-4% so that's not a problem, not like it would be for you guys for a while anyway.

 

[Alienfish]

Congrats! ^_^
Whatever happens at the meeting, don't let other people dictate your life, your feelings and your relationships, especially as you said you're 17. Regardless of what they say, stuff happens. Things might go wrong, but you'll learn from it. From what I gathered before you had little experience with your cousin growing up so I don't think there's much of a powerful family feeling.

The risks of birth defects or illnesses or whatever are not even close to as high as people think they are, the likelihood rises from like 2%-4% so that's not a problem, not like it would be for you guys for a while anyway.

People probably think it's omg so high because they read about brothers and sisters woohoo and incest-related stuff.

 

[Princess Weeb]

People probably think it's omg so high because they read about brothers and sisters woohoo and incest-related stuff.

tbh who cares though are we forgetting that we are animals
what someone else does or likes is none of my business, as long as it's all consenting.

 

[Jarrad]

Congrats! ^_^
Whatever happens at the meeting, don't let other people dictate your life, your feelings and your relationships, especially as you said you're 17. Regardless of what they say, stuff happens. Things might go wrong, but you'll learn from it. From what I gathered before you had little experience with your cousin growing up so I don't think there's much of a powerful family feeling.

The risks of birth defects or illnesses or whatever are not even close to as high as people think they are, the likelihood rises from like 2%-4% so that's not a problem, not like it would be for you guys for a while anyway.

You do realise that simply being incestuous can spawn the presumption for others that it's okay to be in a relationship with one of your family members? You do realise that what you've just wrote is basically promoting incestry, translating into "it's okay to have a close relationship with one of your family members, this includes having sex with them, because the odds of birthing an inbred with defects is low."

 

[Frances-Simoun]

You do realise that simply being incestuous can spawn the presumption for others that it's okay to be in a relationship with one of your family members? You do realise that what you've just wrote is basically promoting incestry, translating into "it's okay to have a close relationship with one of your family members, this includes having sex with them, because the odds of birthing an inbred with defects is low."

Even if I don't agree with incest of any sort, it really isn't our business so you shouldn't worry about what is being said as "right or wrong" since your wrong, could be right for me and so on and so forth.

 

[Jarrad]

Even if I don't agree with incest of any sort, it really isn't our business so you shouldn't worry about what is being said as "right or wrong" since your wrong, could be right for me and so on and so forth.

I literally have so much hate for the stupid phrase "It's none of your business". Yes, it is. It's everybody's business, since you decided to make it public. This guy made a thread telling everybody that he's dating his cousin, and yet when people have things to say about it some people have the audacity to say that "it's none of your business" He posted this thread so that we can discuss the subject.

I'm wrong? How am I wrong? What am I wrong about? Everybody's entitled to their own opinion.

 

[Princess Weeb]

You do realise that simply being incestuous can spawn the presumption for others that it's okay to be in a relationship with one of your family members? You do realise that what you've just wrote is basically promoting incestry, translating into "it's okay to have a close relationship with one of your family members, this includes having sex with them, because the odds of birthing an inbred with defects is low."

Literally who cares???
Noone is forcing you to do it, or look at it.
If it makes people happy, then it's not my problem. Pretty sure if noone ever had been in incestuous relationships you wouldn't be here :")

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I literally have so much hate for the stupid phrase "It's none of your business". Yes, it is. It's everybody's business, since you decided to make it public. This guy made a thread telling everybody that he's dating his cousin, and yet when people have things to say about it some people have the audacity to say that "it's none of your business"

I'm wrong? How am I wrong. What am I wrong about? Everybody's entitled to their own opinion.

They made the thread asking for advice. You can have an opinion, but clearly it affects them more than their relationship should to you.

 

[Disband]

Woah there this is the second time hur hur weird side of TBT again...

I didn't say that -.-

 

[Jarrad]

Literally who cares???
Noone is forcing you to do it, or look at it.
If it makes people happy, then it's not my problem. Pretty sure if noone ever had been in incestuous relationships you wouldn't be here :")

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They made the thread asking for advice. You can have an opinion, but clearly it affects them more than their relationship should to you.

That's like saying if something doesn't directly affect you then "why should you care?"
No. It's not "if it makes people happy then why is it an issue" You do know that incestry is illegal, right? Do you even know what it's like for a child to grow up knowing he/she is an inbred? Knowing that he/she was created from an illegal act of love and will live the rest of his/her life knowing that they're a product of something disgusting.

What you wrote literally made no sense. In the future, only reply to my comments if you can actually speak sense. I hate having to try to translate posts into proper English.