I am developing feelings for my cousin... and I think she is too.

[PandaNikita]

This is a question that was posed earlier in the topic that I yet have an answer for except a little bit a both. I've known her since i was 5, and I really did like her as we grew up. I was in love with her personality and the fact that we were very alike. We both want to study in a field related to computer science starting from 14-15. But when we met last week, the girl I once knew became the gorgeous girl I know now. Did I like her more now, then say maybe 3-4 years ago? I think so....

You're 17 right now, just don't make a hasty decision. Since she is your cousin, she will always be your family. You have a lot of years left to live and experience. There will be plenty of people to meet and grow attached to, I wouldn't want you to end up confessing to your cousin and regretting the decision you made because you had some feelings for your gorgeous cousin.

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tell yourself it's just your hormones
it's just your hormones
it's just your hormones
it's just your hormones

repeat this every night

^good advice right there.

 

[Monster]

Well I hope you make an informed decision. I just want you both to be happy. Not going to beat the dead horse anymore. Good luck with your love life.

Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I hope that you are happy and thanks again..

So right now I am faced with this. If I were to never confess, I will end up not having to deal with this cousin-cousin relationship, but I potentially might be losing out on someone I am perfectlly content on living the rest of my life with.

If I were to confess, I may ruin the relationship between me and my cousin and potentially cause a disrupt in the family.

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I actually decided 30 minutes ago, but I am going to confess after all. I was actually constructing a confession message, but I am going to be very subtle with this. I can trust her not to tell her parents, but I am going to reveal that I am developing feelings for her and just leave it at that. My fate will be sealed with her reply.

I thank everyone for their input.

Whatever my fate will be, I am going to post it here...

 

[CR33P]

good luck

 

[PandaNikita]

Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I hope that you are happy and thanks again..

So right now I am faced with this. If I were to never confess, I will end up not having to deal with this cousin-cousin relationship, but I potentially might be losing out on someone I am perfectlly content on living the rest of my life with.

If I were to confess, I may ruin the relationship between me and my cousin and potentially cause a disrupt in the family.

- - - Post Merge - - -

I actually decided 30 minutes ago, but I am going to confess after all. I was actually constructing a confession message, but I am going to be very subtle with this. I can trust her not to tell her parents, but I am going to reveal that I am developing feelings for her and just leave it at that. My fate will be sealed with her reply.

I thank everyone for their input.

How long have you been talking to your cousin since you were "reunited" with her?

 

[Jas0n]

Let me tell you a secret.

Very few people have their lives figured out at age 17. Even fewer meet their life partners. Even fewer still have life partners that exist within the family.

 

[PandaNikita]

How long have you been talking to your cousin since you were "reunited" with her?

Just answered my own question by going back and reading haha

 

[Astro Cake]

I don't really see how this won't end in heartbreak and awkwardness.

 

[Misuzurin]

Her rejecting you won't be what destroys your relationship. It's when you break up and/or get caught sneaking around. If you keep it a secret, your family will be pissed. Maybe you should ask your parents their opinion if you are this serious.

 

[KelseyHendrix]

Oh god. I'm both excited and nervous for the follow up post, if there actually is one.

Good luck, man.

 

[Eldin]

Let me tell you a secret.

Very few people have their lives figured out at age 17. Even fewer meet their life partners. Even fewer still have life partners that exist within the family.

Yes, but at 17 none of us thought this unfortunately. ;c

@MonsterXA: Okay, could've guessed that. So basically, if she responds that she feels the same way it's on. Well, good luck with that.

 

[Disband]

Fo' Reals;

Is it love or lust?
Regardless of legalities, conjuring up connections between cousins is dodgy footing from a social acceptance standpoint. Unless you're willing to undergo the heartache for the love of your cousin then drop it and find someone easier. You're 17.

That's great advice, probably the best.

 

[nammie]

Let me tell you a secret.

Very few people have their lives figured out at age 17. Even fewer meet their life partners. Even fewer still have life partners that exist within the family.

^this

and @OP I thought this was a troll thread at first but uh if you're really gonna confess I hope you're sure she's really into you and not just being nice lol even then it's your cousin like.... there's millions of fish in the sea that aren't related to u.......

 

[Kiikay]

what did you mean by physical? o.o

 

[Monster]

^this

and @OP I thought this was a troll thread at first but uh if you're really gonna confess I hope you're sure she's really into you and not just being nice lol even then it's your cousin like.... there's millions of fish in the sea that aren't related to u.......

That's very true, but I am certain that she wasn't being nice... She would make frequent eye contact with me and during new years she held my hand during the fire works (@Kiikay, that kind of physical contact). Granted, we always held hands during July 4th when we were children.


Anyways, I sent my "confession", I had a feeling of regret instantly after I had sent it. But I no longer feel the regret anymore. I am both nervous and ecstatic... I am sorry if I am being arrogant by ignoring your advice even though I had asked for your advice here. As punishment, all of you can laugh at me if this fails. I am constantly updating my textfree app, even though it's only been 3 minutes...

 

[PandaNikita]

That's very true, but I am certain that she wasn't being nice... She would make frequent eye contact with me and during new years she held my hand during the fire works (@Kiikay, that kind of physical contact). Granted, we always held hands during July 4th when we were children.


Anyways, I sent my "confession", I had a feeling of regret instantly after I had sent it. But I no longer feel the regret anymore. I am both nervous and ecstatic... I am sorry if I am being arrogant by ignoring your advice even though I had asked for your advice here. As punishment, all of you can laugh at me if this fails. I am constantly updating my textfree app, even though it's only been 3 minutes...

What was your confession?

 

[Stevey Queen]

I was going to tell you there would be consequences and awkwardness if things don't work out. But looks like you went for it.

Good luck, I guess lol

 

[MozzarellaSticks]

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Don't do this, man. This will haunt you forever if you go for it.

 

[Monster]

What was your confession?

It has some personal things, some a bit embarrassing. I kind've did it cliche, narrative-wise. I started with my feelings when we first met till two weeks ago. Most noteworthy, I ended with this "I am sorry if you do not share the same feelings, but I had to let my feelings out in case I would regret it later. Whatever may happen, I would like us to remain cousins and moreover, friends . Thank you." And yes, I text in full sentences (I use a computer to text).

 

[Disband]

That's very true, but I am certain that she wasn't being nice... She would make frequent eye contact with me and during new years she held my hand during the fire works (@Kiikay, that kind of physical contact). Granted, we always held hands during July 4th when we were children.


Anyways, I sent my "confession", I had a feeling of regret instantly after I had sent it. But I no longer feel the regret anymore. I am both nervous and ecstatic... I am sorry if I am being arrogant by ignoring your advice even though I had asked for your advice here. As punishment, all of you can laugh at me if this fails. I am constantly updating my textfree app, even though it's only been 3 minutes...

Good luck.

 

[PandaNikita]

It has some personal things, some a bit embarrassing. I kind've did it cliche, narrative-wise. I started with my feelings when we first met till two weeks ago. Most noteworthy, I ended with this "I am sorry if you do not share the same feelings, but I had to let my feelings out in case I would regret it later. Whatever may happen, I would like us to remain cousins and moreover, friends . Thank you." And yes, I text in full sentences (I use a computer to text).

That's good that you confessed to her. Congratulations and good wording for the last sentence. Good luck! I hope you understand and take some of our advice though.