hey, uh...

[Watchingthetreetops]

I'm in need of advice. Or help. Or something.

So...as some of you probably know, my work environment is less than appealing. I posted about this a long time ago, when I first started and got some really great advice from you guys about bullying and how to just...well...keep going. The easiest thing to do is get another job, but unfortunately this is a small town, and that just isn't possible.

So, I clocked into work the other day. Not five minutes after, I hear someone say loudly, I look like I need a punch in the face. When I turned around, he went on to say that I look like, and I quite: 'you should be pregnant and barefoot. On a dirt floor.'

I felt...violated. Disturbed, describes it best. I'm worried about going back. I called in sick the other day so I didn't have to go back. I took three days off. I just...feel disgusted. I mean....I get that not everyone is going to like me. That's to be expected. But I don't want anyone...ANYONE to talk to me about what I look like, pregnant, unless they are my significant other or my doctor.

So...I called corporate and spoke with HR. I told them about the previous incidents that I've had. The HR person said something along the lines of: well, if you can't come to us then we won't be able to help you, even though I contacted them when someone DID actually hit me on the back of the head. Tomorrow, the director of the area is coming in. I'm going to talk to him, as well. I'm going to be transferring to a different store 800 miles away soon, because I'm moving back home. So...it's not like I'll have to deal with this for much longer. I just...feel so disgusted. I don't even want to go back. I'm going back because I have to. My 'last day' is on March 12th, and I think...maybe I should just leave it up to hr, now. Because...well, I'll be gone within less than a month.

What do you guys think about this? What should I do? I just...really need some help.

 

[MapleLeafKangaroos]

Just try to ignore it, obviously no one is helping you about this. Or tell the person who told you this that it bothers you that they are saying these things about you. Or just throw back a nasty insult about them and walk away. That's what I'd do.

 

[Spongebob]

Ok real talk, just ignore em, you're leaving soon anyway right? You can probably make at least a little bit longer. Also don't try to throw back any other insults at them, no matter how much you want too because that can prob make it worse.

Edit: People are hitting you? Call the ****ing police or someone that can do something about it. Because that just ain't right!

 

[Dy1an]

I'm in need of advice. Or help. Or something.

So...as some of you probably know, my work environment is less than appealing. I posted about this a long time ago, when I first started and got some really great advice from you guys about bullying and how to just...well...keep going. The easiest thing to do is get another job, but unfortunately this is a small town, and that just isn't possible.

So, I clocked into work the other day. Not five minutes after, I hear someone say loudly, I look like I need a punch in the face. When I turned around, he went on to say that I look like, and I quite: 'you should be pregnant and barefoot. On a dirt floor.'

I felt...violated. Disturbed, describes it best. I'm worried about going back. I called in sick the other day so I didn't have to go back. I took three days off. I just...feel disgusted. I mean....I get that not everyone is going to like me. That's to be expected. But I don't want anyone...ANYONE to talk to me about what I look like, pregnant, unless they are my significant other or my doctor.

So...I called corporate and spoke with HR. I told them about the previous incidents that I've had. The HR person said something along the lines of: well, if you can't come to us then we won't be able to help you, even though I contacted them when someone DID actually hit me on the back of the head. Tomorrow, the director of the area is coming in. I'm going to talk to him, as well. I'm going to be transferring to a different store 800 miles away soon, because I'm moving back home. So...it's not like I'll have to deal with this for much longer. I just...feel so disgusted. I don't even want to go back. I'm going back because I have to. My 'last day' is on March 12th, and I think...maybe I should just leave it up to hr, now. Because...well, I'll be gone within less than a month.

What do you guys think about this? What should I do? I just...really need some help.

Just ignore the bully. Bullys bully people because they want to get reactions

 

[Watchingthetreetops]

You're all right. It's just...the whole pregnancy thing really disgusted me. It's just...gross. I'm giving up a lot of my shifts, because...I'm just not going to work like this.

 

[Belle of Pripyat]

NO ONE has the right to put their hands on you. Ever. I'm appalled that adults would behave that way. I would've not only complained to all of the managers and higher-ups about the verbal abuse, but I would have called the police if someone touched me. Keep complaining and make notes of every incident. You might also want to talk to a lawyer about the harrassment and abuse. Your bosses aren't doing their jobs in creating a safe work enviroment, so go over their heads. They'll take it seriously when the police get involved.

 

[Dy1an]

You're all right. It's just...the whole pregnancy thing really disgusted me. It's just...gross. I'm giving up a lot of my shifts, because...I'm just not going to work like this.

Try to get that kind of stuff off your mind, think about other things and push the bad memorys away.

 

[Nightmares]

Honestly, I would have called the police ages ago lmao

 

[meowlerrz]

First off, I'm sorry you've had to experience that. The person doing that to you deserves to be fired. Have you talked to the manager about the employee directly?

I hate that I keep hearing about HR not doing anything for workers that experience harassment like you have. It's super annoying and it makes me question whether these people care about their workers or who they hire for that matter since obviously that person as no self-control or regard for others. I understand your reasons for not wanting to return to work, that person is a disgrace. But luckily you will be leaving so for your last few days there you can get through whatever anyone throws at you with the knowledge that soon they won't be able to torment you anymore and you'll probably (hopefully) never see them again.

Also, if you don't plan on seeing them again I'd say have fun on your last day and make it worthwhile by getting back at the person or just calling them out on what their doing. I hate hearing stories like this and it makes me mad that workers can't record it or anything and expose these people. Good luck to you!

 

[Belle of Pripyat]

Honestly, I would have called the police ages ago lmao

Exactly. I don't understand why everyone is saying to ignore the bully. Didn't you all read this part?

So...I called corporate and spoke with HR. I told them about the previous incidents that I've had. The HR person said something along the lines of: well, if you can't come to us then we won't be able to help you, even though I contacted them when someone DID actually hit me on the back of the head.

Someone hit her. You don't ignore that; this isn't middle school. Adults go to jail when they put their hands on other people.

 

[Nightmares]

Exactly. I don't understand why everyone is saying to ignore the bully. Didn't you all read this part?



Someone hit her. You don't ignore that; this isn't middle school. Adults go to jail when they put their hands on other people.

I was literally just gonna type this out

 

[jiny]

call the police. he shouldn't hit you. no one should hit you. im sure they will do something about it and you can go back to work just fine.

 

[seliph]

Where do you live I'll beat them up

 

[Spongebob]

Wait people are hitting you? Call the ****ing police or someone that can do something about it.

 

[seliph]

Even if people aren't hitting you verbal harassment is still harassment, it ****ing sucks that workplaces are such garbage when it comes to dealing with that and instead employees have to just smile and sit through it.

 

[Dy1an]

i know this is a bad problem but this got deep

 

[p e p p e r]

wow, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I'm shocked that this could go on in a work environment, how is this guy still employed? Also it sounds like the company you work for is awful, any proper place would have fired him by now... Maybe you should talk to a lawyer about this or at least contact OSHA & report this right away (since your HR seems useless) Your employer will have no right to fire you over this either

Here's an article about workplace violence & your rights
https://www.osha.gov/SLTC/workplaceviolence

You can find your local OSHA office here or
call this number 1-800-321-OSHA (6742)
https://www.osha.gov/html/RAmap.html


good luck with this & it's definitely not something you should ignore.

 

[KarlaKGB]

remember

HR isnt about protecting the employees

HR is about protecting the company

 

[LinkToTheWorld]

I also don't understand the comments saying to ignore. This sort of thing cannot and should not ever be ignored. It is harassment at work. The moment HR didn't do anything for me I would have been straight to the police and a higher authority (not sure what area you work or where you are?).
This sort of thing is not okay and by ignoring it you're basically giving them a green card to carry on and possibly take it further.
Honestly, it's the kind of behaviour I'd expect from the kids I work with, not grown adults. I can't believe what I've read. I'm so sorry this has been happening to you x

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The company also needs reporting. Most places have some sort of higher authority where you can report incidents for investigation.
Do you have something like that where you are now?
Really, even if you're leaving soon, I'd still report them. This company should not even exist if they are allowing these kinds of things to go on.