Friendship Advice

[Gregriii]

yesss the most hated, annoying and emotionless user in tbt needs adivce about friendship

So here goes my history:

I have a tiny group of people wich I consider my only friends, I've been most of my life alone because I just can't open to people or make any friendship last enough because I'm petty and uh well you know (No it's not something I do on purpose IRL). But I found those girls, I like them all because they are amazing and the good thing is they accept me like I am. But then there is this girl who apparently hates me because I'm a prick and since she's like super important to them, they just told me "she dislikes you so you can't go with us" but not in a "go away get a life" way but rather a "we're sorry...". So the thing is I really have problems making friends and even though I could hang out with a diversity of people I know, they're special to me, I couldn't ask to hang to other people, because It would be too awkward for me (Anxiety :') ). They are literally the only friends i've had in my whole life.

Should I try to be nice with the girl? (The thing is I've tried, I also tried things like avoiding her. She's got a pretty strong ideas and morals that make her intolerant to other opinions so it may be HER problem, but still.

Or should I just stop talking with all of them and find new friends? (Explained why this is hard for me)

I know the reasonable thing would be being nice with the girl, but I've tried and tried.

Everything is pretty much because today I was supposed to hang out with them, but one told me they cancelled it and like 2 hours or so she recognised she was lying to me because she didnt want her (the one who hates me). It was kinda shocking for me, tbh. For the first time in forever I get a group of friends and oh boi **** happens

And yes I know I'm an ******* but I swear I haven't been one with that girl at all

 

[That Zephyr Guy]

If she's important to you stop being a prick to her.


Edit: By her standards - since you haven't actually explained anything you might've done that's bad.

 

[MayorSkittles]

Well you could just be upfront with the girl and ask her why she resents you. Of course I'd only do this if you have the mental willpower to withstand it all.

Other than that try and find ways to still hang out with everyone and if the girl is really important to the group tell them that she can come too and find some sort of way to hang with her as well??

Or you can her friends to ask her why she doesn't like you.

Idk I'm not that good at this .-.

EDIT: oh wait you said why. Uhh then try and work through it and keep trying

 

[Gregriii]

If she's important to you stop being a prick to her.


Edit: By her standards - since you haven't actually explained anything you might've done that's bad.

no she isnt important to me, the group is, but she specially isnt like idc about her at all the thing is she does hate me

and mmm let's see

she is that kind of person with super strong morals and ethics who thinks they're right ALWAYS

and the thing is I also got that kind of personality BUT we don't have the same opini?n on various topics, such as feminism and etc

You have probably seen my posts about that kind of topics and you can tell what I'm doing wrong, but, I stopped talking about things that can cause problems, and still nothing :c

 

[vel]

i always say: make friends not enemies. this might be very bad advice, but it helped me through tolerating terrible people: agree with what they say. don't fight it, just agree. at the end, it is one less problem to deal with. don't throw your morals or opinions away, but it is easier to have more friends than enemies. i'd say just agree and go along with it, or confront her about why she hates you. idk, if your group is that important, i would say just agree to disagree.