Do I have a problem?

[chillv]

THIS PROBLEM IS DEAD, I HAVE MOVED ON TO ANOTHER ONE!

http://www.belltreeforums.com/showthread.php?123694-Do-I-have-a-problem/page2&p=2229311#post2229311

Well for one, I feel that the internet has lowered my self-esteem. I still feel like I am capable of things, but I have way too many pessimistic thoughts about myself. So far, I have been called names and said negative things to on the internet. I always think about those negative things and names and sometime say in my mind "what if what they say about me is true" especially if I end up in or think about certain situations that "I think" illustrates what they are talking about.

I have been praised before, and I do get praised at times in real life. However, because I get the exact opposite on the internet often, I think if overrides any praise I do get. In fact, I can't remember much praise I have gotten so far in my life.

I usually don't even expect to be said anything nice on the internet and I be surprised when someone says something nice to me.

Whenever, I have a bad experience on the internet (or in real life like an argument with someone), and I end up feeling sad or angry in the end, I try to do something to make myself feel better. I even seem to have full conversations with myself about the experience, or as I would call it, "ranting to myself".

Anyway, do I seem to have any problems here?

 

[Jake]

yes. go see a therapist

 

[kasane]

Maybe Internet has led you to be a bit anti-social?
And people on the internet aren't always nice, I mean, just look at cyber bullying on FB and other social media websites. Besides you wouldn't even know who they are irl and I usually tend to ignore these people.
A therapist is recommended, or if you want to talk to someone (parents, close friends, etc.) who do care for you.

 

[Fearthecuteness]

Yeah. You should not be taking everything everyone says on here so literally because they don't know you. If you find it that hard then don't go on the internet.

 

[Hype]

I know it's hard to not take things seriously at times but you shouldn't be offended by something a random stranger says to you. The only peoples opinions that should matter to you are the ones that are close to you and usually they are the ones the will lead you on the right path.

 

[Stevey Queen]

You don't seem to be a very confident person. I don't say that to be mean, just saying how I see it. I wouldn't worry too much about what people say about you on the internet. Just ignore them. They are probably immature 8 year olds anyways. You know who you are and what you are like babe. If someone says something about you and it's not true, than obviously disregard their comment. And if it is true, and you don't like it, than do something to change it

 

[chillv]

Yeah. You should not be taking everything everyone says on here so literally because they don't know you.

Well, this really doesn't apply to anything here at all. [S{(thinks about my cyberbullying thread)[/S] No! Even though that was a bad experience and I was sort of hurt afterwards (And sadly you were part of it), it doesn't really matter since a mod got to bottom of it and even defended me.

Anyway, it mostly had to do with things being said to me on other forums. More specifically the Super Mario Boards and Gamefaqs.

Also, I think was a little bit dramatic with what I was trying to say. I still think highly of myself (but not too much ), and I am not depressed or anything. These things don't bother me as much as you think they do. However, they still do bother me. Also, the stuff I said is true, but it isn't as extreme and as you think it is. I don't think I need a therapist. However, I do think I need to stay away from the forums I mentioned as much as possible.

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You know who you are and what you are like babe.

Um, I am a DUDE!

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Maybe Internet has led you to be a bit anti-social?

Um, I am an introvert. Although I do know people and have freinds, I am not able to be around them that much. Not to mention that I don't like being around other people for long periods of time. I usually get sick of them and start wanting space after days. That's one reason why I like the fact that I have my own room and no siblings bothering me and getting on my nerves (I do have a sibling though). However, I that doesn't mean I don't enjoy company to have fun with and talk to. It just means I don't enjoy that kind of stuff for too long. I enjoy a balance between space and company.

 

[SockHead]

I could call you name or be rude right now, I mean it's so easy for someone to do that. Once you get that, the insult doesn't really hold much weight. Grow some thick skin and you'll be fine.

 

[Cazqui]

Well for one, I feel that the internet has lowered my self-esteem. I still feel like I am capable of things, but I have way too many pessimistic thoughts about myself. So far, I have been called names and said negative things to on the internet. I always think about those negative things and names and sometime say in my mind "what if what they say about me is true" especially if I end up in or think about certain situations that "I think" illustrates what they are talking about.

I have been praised before, and I do get praised at times in real life. However, because I get the exact opposite on the internet often, I think if overrides any praise I do get. In fact, I can't remember much praise I have gotten so far in my life.

I usually don't even expect to be said anything nice on the internet and I be surprised when someone says something nice to me.

Whenever, I have a bad experience on the internet (or in real life like an argument with someone), and I end up feeling sad or angry in the end, I try to do something to make myself feel better. I even seem to have full conversations with myself about the experience, or as I would call it, "ranting to myself".

Anyway, do I seem to have any problems here?

Word of advice, take noting on the internet seriously because everyone on the internet acts as if they have gained some type of magical power in which they're an all-knowing deity, mainly because they can't say anything negative to someones face. SO the internet if basically *******s outlets to be just that.

 

[Celestefey]

Basically as the others have said: Don't let anything anyone says to you on the internet get to you. They don't know the true "you", they just saw a single post by you and they feel like they can tell your whole life story just from that one single post. They don't, obviously. You need to stop letting what they say get to you, or spend some time away from the internet, because clearly you can't cope with the things they say to you. :c

 

[Redacted]

OK

 

[rosiekitty405]

Ok a few things^^

1.(Note:not ment to be rude when I say this. Just stating it) It's the internet
It's filled with kind people,friends,trolls from under the bridge(those are nastay XD),and
Immature little kids(that probably just discovered the internet and social media
And they don't know the fact everything they say is permanent and affects the
Fact if they can get a future). So keep that in mind. And if the people being a-holes
Are probably just random a-holes...

2. I understand how you feel I'm pretty sure. I've opened and closed my Facebook
many many times,I've quit this site for 1-2 week's,and other random things.
So if it's bothering you take a break from the site that's bothering you and
Go back when you want. If its not better when you go back then... I don't have
Anything for that .-. Also people bothering you? Once one rude or crappy post comes
Up. If you can tell it'll be rude. Close the window. Shut off the computer, and do something else.

3.Since your introverted it probably makes you an easy target(it made me a very vulnerable and simple
Target) and being an easy target means. Drum roll please. The arses win. So with that
In hand if you read something on a forum with active and responsible mods(such as the ones here)
Ignore it. Just click that little report button,say what's wrong,and let the internet take its
Course. I don't recommend talking back to whoever is bothering you because you don't
Want to risk getting YOURSELF in trouble to for a flame war, a spammy argument,etc.
Just let it flow. That's what the report button is for and is a beautiful creation ^^

[Intermission with classy elevator music]

4.Okay so some of my best advice I will give you is this. Before joining a site
Go around as a guest for a few days and look and see how some posters attitudes
Are. Is there tons of negative people? Is there tons of happy and positive people? Or is
There just flat out arses everywhere? So take a look around and find that out while asking
Yourself questions like those. Also like what Giantmushroom said. Stay away from Reddit
I've been on there and probably the worst internet experience ever. I ran into
A lot of rude people,trolls,etc.

[WARNING: Extreme pep talks beyond this point!]

5. BOOST YOUR ESTEEM \^O^/!!!!GO TO THAT AWESOME MIRROR,LOOK THAT WONDERFUL
REFLECTION,AND TELL IT "I'M AWESOME!,I'M BEAUTIFUL!,I'M INTELLIGENT!,AND I'M BETTER THAN
WHAT THEY SAY I AM!!!" COMPLIMENT AFTER COMPLIMENT!!!

6. DUDE! YOU ARE YOU!!! IGNORE THE CRAP THEY SAY! IT'S JUST BULLCRAP!
\^O^/! WHO CARES ABOUT WHAT THEY SAY!WHO CARES ABOUT THEM! YOU ARE
YOU! IF YOU WANT TELL THEM!"Ok I DON'T WAKE UP TO IMPRESS YOU AND I AM ME
SO WTH ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT \^0^/!"(NOTE: only do if you don't mind getting
In trouble on the site possibly since that may be considered rude...)

7th and final paragraph! TALK TO SOMEONE!!! If its a friend or someone talk to them^^!
Just get it off that mind and bury it with new thoughts!!! It may be hard but you can do it!!!
Why? BECAUSE YOU ARE YOU AND YOU ARE PERFECT! WE ARE ALL PERFECT!!!
DO THE THING YOU LOVE! GO FIND A LITTLE OLD PERSON AND HELP THEM! TRUST ME!
YOU WILL FEEL REALLY NICE AFTER THAT(I did at least...)!

Concluding statement:SCREW THE HATERS,SCREW THE TROLLS,SCREW THE ANNOYING KIDS!!!
YOU ARE YOU!!!

Well that didn't just feel like one of those cheesy elementary school videos...

 

[Mary]

^^ this.

Also, Jake was kidding...

Being on the Internet raises my self esteem. People here are kind and open minded, not quick to judge. I like helping people. Even if it's through a game, it makes me feel like I'm doing something right.

 

[chillv]

Okay, I think I want to address another problem since the other has been resolved. (Thanks everyone, btw)

Maybe Internet has led you to be a bit anti-social?

This will be the base for the problem. I don't believe the internet has led me to be that way. It is mostly my introvertedness and shyness. However, I do believe real life experiences and internet experience has led me to do so. Also, please I don't think it will be a good idea to take all of this severely since I am writing this overnight and I tend to be dramatic during this time

First, I have had many experiences of arguing with people online whenever I express an unpopular opinion. This has also happened a couple of times in real life too. As a result, I usually don't express my opinions at all if I think they are opinions people will not agree with. In fact, if I meet someone and want become freinds with them or at least get to know them, if they seem to have interest in the opposite stuff or opposite views, I simply draw back from doing so to avoid conflicts like that.

Second, because of all of the arguments on the internet an a couple in real life, I sometimes wonder if I am a person who really isn't fit for having freinds and such.

In addition, whenever I look back at bad at experiences that "I think" illustrates bad traits "I think" I have, I sometimes have these weird questions about myself such as "Am I a nice person?", especially when I am told certain things about myself.

I also think I have become a bit easily-offended or silently confrontal. What I am trying to say is, because I have been said so many rude things to on the internet to begin with, I feel like I take offense to the simplest things someone says to me, especially criticism. Speaking of that, I seem to get a bit frustrated with certain things more quickly than I used to and I seem to react very negatively towards things such as misfortune. For example, I could lose at a game or not succeed at something after several attemps and feel down or angry or a mixture between the two. Now these aren't abnormal feelings, but they happen way to often and quickly than I remember them doing so.

 

[Cress]

The Internet has usually pressured me into keeping my opinion quiet, and if I do say it, I'll be bashed with hate comments everywhere without 1 good one. I made a Top 10 Worst Pok?mon Cards video a few years ago (2010 maybe?) and there were 2 cards on there that I hated and apparently there were these 2 guys who thought that it's impossible to win without them. (I don't feel like listing the cards unless you really want me to.) I made the video private, and that is nowhere NEAR the only time it's happened. People bashed me on this other video because I POLITELY corrected someone that Rotom was not a legendary, and 5 people called me an idiot and I even gave facts and sources on why Rotom isn't a legendary, and they went and made up their own fake sources thinking I would just change sides that easily. I should just stop commenting on YouTube. Or stop talking about Pok?mon. Maybe both. XD I also feel like the only person that has been bashed here.
Anyways, real life and internet life are complete opposites, but also very similar. When someone says something you THINK is rude on the internet, don't act first. Since you're not talking in person, they might have jus been sarcastic. And post something that is actually rude back, and then a fight starts and you didn't even understand that they didn't really mean it. That's I think how most fights on the internet start, so you're not a bad person, and I don't think 70% of the people on it are, it's just misunderstanding that leads to fighting. (Other 30% are hackers, trolls, etc.)
Hope that helps!