Discussion about Bullying - Share your story!

[Croconaw]

I used to get bullied a lot. I am in tenth grade now, and it just recently stopped. In fifth grade, I was always mocked because I stuttered. I had speech issues, and people kept talking like a robot so I would understand them. It greatly offended me. Back in seventh grade, I got an out of school suspension for three days for defending myself against a bully. I was called stupid in class and I told him to stop because he was being immature. The teacher suspended me for calling him immature. Also I had to go to court and I left with thirty days of community service cleaning up Philadelphia. I hated it. In eight grade, I got pushed inside a classroom and the students wouldn't let me out and they locked me inside. When the teacher came, he yelled at me for being inside a classroom when the teacher wasn't there. A few weeks later, my English teacher had to use the bathroom and she left her keys hanging on the door. One of the students unlocked the door while the teacher was in the restroom, threw the keys inside, and he quickly shut the door. He locked her keys inside the classroom! When the teacher came back from, she was angry that someone locked her keys inside the classroom because there was absolutely no way to get inside until the principal came to unlock the door. I was the one that got blamed for it. When the teacher asked who did it, everyone pointed to me instead of to the person that actually did it. I was pissed off. I got a detention for something I didn't even do. I came home crying every single day. I'm not even exaggerating.
Then I transferred school districts. This school is so much better and I don't think I was ever happy in school until now. My grades have improved and I've been taking more advanced classes since I've been able to focus more. I can't believe I didn't go to this new school in the first place, as I would be a better person today if I went there from the start. I have always heard that it gets better. That is completely false! Things don't get better unless you do something about it. I did something about it, and I am much happier with my life.

You know I still don't have friends inside school, but they're not bullies either. I have one friend but she lives outside of my school district. I see her in the morning everyday at my career school though. She's someone that I would consider a friend. Not these fake friends from the prior school district as well as the one I currently attend. I even joined a school program called Best Buddies. It's basically a program where people with disabilities can make friends. I have Autism and it's hard for me to make friends.

That was my story with bullying. Has it ever happened to you? You can discuss it here.
STOP BULLYING!

 

[Lauren]

I've been bullied from the age of 4 till about 16 ... I get the occasional taunt now here and there but my anger tends to scare them off now. Bullying caused me to go through a very dark time in my life and I find myself going back that way but I have to stop myself.

 

[BungoTheElf]

Back in seventh grade, I got an out of school suspension for three days for defending myself against a bully. I was called stupid in class and I told him to stop because he was being immature. The teacher suspended me for calling him immature.

How immature of that teacher But it really sucks when you get in trouble for things like that :/ I'm hoping that at least the bully got suspended as well, and I'm glad that it turned out better when you moved!

I don't think I've really been bullied but there are some racist people >:I Just because I'm asian doesn't mean I have pointy eyes :U
I'm probably bullied behind my back though..

 

[mariop476]

First day of 6th grade in the local middle school.
I'm being picked on by two hispanic guys. One small, one tall.
They ran at me from opposite sides and were trying to throw punches.
I grabbed each of their arms and smashed them together, then walked away.

I've never had a problem with bullies since then.

 

[Psydye]

That's the thing with bullies, you gotta stand up for yourself or they'll walk all over you! Not always easy I can assure you, but it is what it is...as for these "anti-bullying" campaigns, I don't get them....ultimately it's the individual who has to take action, not some social rights group....d-bags will be d-bags, regardless of "anti-bullying" campaigns, so a person has to eventually learn to stand up for him/her-self.

 

[radical6]

i see it happen all the time and its so annoying. my friend gets bullied rn i guess and stressing about people from school should be the very last thing to be worried about considering her current situation. the girl came up to us and i just got so annoyed that im just like why the hell are you here?? i said it outloud and she gasped at me and i said "seriously if youre going to treat us like trash ill treat you like trash" like frick off you lil crap??????????????


sure people have said mean things to me before but it wasnt really bullying to me
people dont really "bully" me because im kinda known for having an anger sometimes and if someone treats me like crap then ill treat them like the trash they are. when i was little i used to be really scared of what people thought of me sometimes. i guess i still am like that in some situations but most of the time i have no problem with it now. yes people do make racist jokes at me sometimes but tbh i dont really care anymore because i know its useless to get them to shut up


also i do think bullying campaigns have like no effect anymore really. schools teach it every year but it still happens because people do not care. it doesnt go through their heads and they will keep doing it anyway???? stop showing us old videos of bullying. kids will think its lame and not pay attention. we should scare them like if we find out ur bullying someone then guess what kid? ur going to jail u lil punk. have fun. that will scare them and make them cry i bet thats the 10000% best way to fight it maybe

 

[Stevey Queen]

I was beat up by some random kid in 4th grade because I apparently "insulted" these two annoying ass kids, and they started it. This random fat ass comes out of nowhere and is like "don't make fun of my friends", then attacks me.

Now I just get called a f*ggot occasionally (I am so it doesn't really bother me) and some of my friends will mock my voice and poke fun at my abnormalities.

 

[puppy]

i like to think my school isnt that bad when it comes to bullying???
i mean people are still pretty dang mean to each other but i haven't seen anyone singling another person out to ruin their life.
mostly people stick to their own cliques and dont talk to the others at all.

 

[Croconaw]

I get excluded quite a lot. Peple call me an autistic freak. ):

 

[Elijo]

You do know there is another bullying discussion, right? It's alright. The thread pretty much died anyways.

From first grade till nearly two months ago, I was verbally bullied. From fourth grade till two months ago, I was physically bullied. Reasons: I'm skinny, I'm too "intelligent", I have a autistic sister who is obsessed with Pokemon, I hang out with guys nearly all the time, I don't have a "sense of humour", I don't like One Direction or Justin Beiber or any of that pop trash, I am "weird", I'm too mature and serious, I'm weak, I don't have a boyfriend, I don't have a social life, I have speech issues... The list goes on! I have a feeling that people are bullying me behind my back.

 

[Psydye]

This reminds me...I REALLY hated high school!!! >.< I was really introverted...though not anymore I'm much more open and I try to make friends when I can or at least just be friendly towards people in general...after all cynicism breeds cynicism and optimism breeds optimism...

 

[Orogenes]

I got bullied on a regular basis between the 4th and the 9th grade, being accused of really ridiculous things like being "too smart" (?!), wearing 2nd hand clothing, not liking the "right kind of music" and then being yelled random "insults" like me being gay, sissy, geeky, etc. Thankfully, there were important factors that helped me got through it: 1) The bullies had some weird code of "honor" that they weren't allowed to resort to physical violence unless I lashed out at them first. I knew I would be worse than useless in a fight, so I ignored them to the best of my abilities (which pissed them of to no end!); it was far from a "solution" but I never got into a fight, so there's that. 2) I wasn't alone - me and my two best childhood friends were bullied as group, which meant safety in numbers and us being able to support one another, 3) I never once believed that I was inferior to them, so the mental bullying was frustrating and everything but it never got to me in a direct way.

Unfortunately, I had gone through some physiatric help when younger (I was scared of basically everything and not able to be left alone, having constant nightmares, anxiety etc.) and had just gotten out of it when the bullying started and I had start all over again (in a sense). The thing was I always had anger issues, not really that I couldn't control myself but quite the opposite - I controlled myself too well, never got angry but turned everything inwards. I got a really black outlook on life/humanity/the word in general and it first when the bullying stopped that I could start dealing with it. I do notice that even to this day I get really upset when thinking about all the memories, so I guess I'm not 100 % done with it, but I've made some major progressions and I'm quite a happy and healthy person now.

 

[Jake]

i am the bully

 

[Jennifer]

I was bullied from age 3 until I just dropped out of High School and took my GED instead. In Jr. High and High School, even the teachers got into it and it was just a terrible experience.

I was teased about everything--from looks (both how I looked, height, etc.), weight (which was due to medications), to things I couldn't control (how I breathe--allergies and asthma) and the level of which they did varied from name-calling, shunning me (eating alone at a table or in a bathroom), hitting me (though, this was the rarest--thankfully. Only happened twice and I was tripped once), trying to trick me, throwing stuff into my hair (always fun to shake out pen caps and paper balls after each class), to embarrassing me about various things.

A mixture of these things is probably why I'm so serious today, can't tell when people are joking/will always take things personally, and will never truly accept a complement or trust someone at this point. Thanks so much, school. -_- I don't think most people will ever realize that while they are laughing thinking I'm playing around, 90% of the time I'm actually really upset.

 

[TiensBlade]

So there are still discussions like these around...
Ever since I started school I got bullied, verbally. Usually just about my race, constantly calling me 'Ching Chong', or squinty eyes etc etc. The amount of times I just wanted to go and punch them, but I didn't, my brother had to step in sometimes and tell them off. I got physically bullied few years back, cause I was different, I liked different music to them, I was 'too' smart with computers and I knew way too much stuff about games, and they called me a '******' because I was 'nerdy'. Since I started high school, the girls are saying I'm 'too weird' or I 'should be wearing' proper clothes, strange because I wear school uniform and they wear revealing clothes....meh. I'm too quiet for their liking and they will often call me names thinking I didn't hear it, or they just keep trying to con money out of me, or just trip me over or something. I'm just everywhere, I'm hanging out with who I want to, I just like to be me, no matter what the hell they say about me.

 

[Zoe!]

Here it goes please don't judge me on my spelling from writing this cause im only 10 and im writing on an Ipad

I get bullied quite anbit but the problem is the bullys are who I thought where my friends amazing right? So yeh i used be with these group of girls i didn't really like some of them cause they where rude and stuff but I stayed with them cause my best friend Lucy was there but then they became mean and rude some of them took there phones in class and played them they swear and put the finger up at people so yeh then just today at school one my friends came up to me atlunch and said i went to give ambers headband back and them the other girl(the leader who thinks she pretty and epic cause shes got the guys) said to her what areyou doing so my friend said giving ambers headband to her and then the other girl said hurry up and piss off and leave us alone.. Then after being with those girls i left them this year cause they didn't even talk to me or include me in anything then Lucy left me for them and i told my mum and she was like wow so yeh then i came with my friends that im playing with now Ash Kaia And Sky so we came back yhis year and Sky was holdidays so she wasn't here so me ash and kaia where hanging outlike normal and being all niceanf friendly then when sky came back kaia left to go on a holiday and cause sky came back i dunno she just wasn't like she used to be she was acting like miss know it all and miss popular just cause everyone wanted tl see what she got and the funny thing is that me and ash thought she was are friend but she was ignoringua so yeh then theres this gorl named Caitlin no one likes her cause she has anger isssues so shes go angry this day me and ash went to check on her to talk to her and calm her down so we cold help her get through with it and we did so then me and Ash where playing this fun game wi some guys not the other guys i was talking about before then we saw this big crowd so me and ash went over there and guess what i heard skylia say to teankea come over and look what your missing out on its sooo funny me and ash thought that was soloo rude so me and ash went over to try and calm Catlin down again then me and ash told them alll to go away cause none of you are helping by standing and laughthing then they haylee and sky yelled at me then sky was like ohim trying to help the boys and im like in my head seriously your helping them by standing there laughing then teaneka said she was helping catlin and guess what she was doing standing there laughing so then me and ash saw caitling go walk off so we ran over to her to talk to her and calm her down and we did then me and ash wanted to tell the teacher so we wrote it all out to her( our teacher is the bestteacher ever she lets us do cooking play games and gives us lollies shes epic) so we did so she talked to us and that and stuff then kaia came back today we had a nic fun day planned for her to welcome her back but who does she go to skylia and olytalked to her most of the time then we where moving seats they sat next to each other and left me and ash out again and then today at sport cara my friend wanted to be my partner soshe did so ash was gonna goith teaneka butteaneka lefft her for rahana which was really rude soyen there is way more to this whole stor and there is way,ore times. Could tell you aout me being bullied

 

[Midoriya]

In Elementary school I threw fits all the time, and they eventually found out I have Aspergers (Mild Autism). Everyone was friendly, so it was still okay. Middle school was worse. There wasn't really such a thing as bullying, but people just excluded me because I was smart, not into what they were, and I remember sitting alone at lunch every day of middle school. Nobody even tried to cheer me up. Around that time I was getting cyber bullied as well. I was getting banned from many forums and MMORPGs' because certain people were getting me in trouble on purpose.
High school was better. Starting in 9th grade (I'm in 11th now), I switched from my old, public school district to private school. I like it a lot more than my old school district. I have a group of friends I hangout with at school. I'm friends with all my teachers as well, and my teachers, friends, and I joke around while getting work done. One of my teachers even came to my 16th birthday party last May at a baseball game. I don't have school on Fridays, just Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, and a half day of electives on Monday. What I like most is I'm taking classes that will actually help me in life, like World Cultures and Government Economics. I've done Karate for six years now, I'm an instructor at my school, and a black belt 1st degree (the belt after black belt). I remember there also being bullies at my Karate school who were older belts than me, and tried to beat me up. They made fun of how short and bad skillfully I was. I switched Karate schools a few years ago as well. Now I'm 6 foot 2, and I continue to practice Youn Wha Ryu, a combination of all martial arts. The people who used to bully me don't anymore. They quit a long time ago. I grew and overcame my problems over my lifetime. Now the people who used to bully me online and irl respect me, and I don't get cyber-bullied, bullied physically, or excluded at all anymore. There are so many people that try to end bullying. Bullying cannot be ended though. This world is fallen. There will always be bad people in this world. It is inevitable. But that doesn't mean we have to let it drag the rest of us down like a chain effect. Did you know bullies usually just do it because of bad experiences in their life. The reason they respect me now is because instead of trying to stand up for myself, I said one kind thing, and they stopped. It may seem a little dumb, but in reality, the phrase a little bit of kindness goes a long way is true. I have also effectively broken my Aspergers, I am more social than before, and all because I made a choice. Life is all about choices. There will always be people that make bad or good choices in the world. No one is born good or bad, but their choices determine how they will affect theirselves and others. For example, someone like Hitler wasn't born evil. He didn't just come into life and say, 'hey, I'm going to start a war'. No, his experiences made him make a bad choice, and in turn he caused suffering that possibly could have been given to him in a chain effect. Optimism is contagious as well though. If people stopped having pack mentalities, listening to what the media and celebrities say how they should live, and started being kind to one another then these negative chians would be broken. People may try to put you down in life, change how you live, and make you feel miserable. But we are all forgetting one thing. WE control our emotions. WE control our choices. WE control who we act like, not someone else. Don't ever let anyone tell you you can't be something you want to be. Just look at me. They all said I would never grow strong, I would never become a black belt, I would never be more social. But I proved them all wrong. And, if you try hard enough, you can do the same.

 

[Midoriya]

(Ugh, dumb double post glitch)

 

[Splash]

When I was 13 I stopped going to school because I couldn't deal with it anymore. People weren't extremely bad at bullying but the odd comments and stuff would bother me alot and in general people were hard to be around and I didnt really have many friends and the only way I was coping in classes was by hiding behind them and following them about. I ended up being moved to a class where I knew noone and then I just couldnt cope at all and I refused to go. I was dragged alot and the school threatened to taake my parents to court. Eventually I got transferred to a special class in a different school but by then i was like 15 and I still was being dragged alot because it was still super hard for me still. They ended up just giving up and leaving me alone cause I was nearly 16 by then though. I was seeing psychological services from when I was 13 and from then I was always just given social anxiety disorder as the problem until I was 18 and I got assesed for autism and diagnosed with highfunctioning autism. I still have nightmares about school and I cant stand people talking about it or really passing schools or seeing people in school uniforms.

I havent been able to do anything since I stopped going and I kinda cannot get over it I barely ever go outside or do anything and I dont know if I'll ever manage to do much ever. I still cant verbally communicate with my doctor apart from yes or no answers pretty much and I get super obsessive over stuff and like sometimes if its a movie or a tv show all I will do is watch it repeatedly for ages and I pretty much cant focus on anything else. My behaviour and mood is really bizzare though and it causes major problems. (As in I currently have no ds because I broke 2 within less than a month because Ive been having really bad angryfit things...and so because I broke them I have no way to play AC and because im kinda obsessive over it ive been really angry and stuff all the time right now and crying all the time and today I tried to go buy one myself but i cant cope with shops myself and my mum wont come with me because id have no money left and i waste to much money and i already broke 2 so yeah)


fdfjkjfjd so sorry for all of that~

 

[Bacon Boy]

Back when I was in grade school, I put on a lot of weight. Part of it was because of a genetic disease and the other part was because of terrible habits. Because of this I was bullied, beat up, and the like. This continued into about seventh grade. I was really depressed and I thought I had made some new friends, when they all decided to play around with my emotions. I will literally never forget the things they said. So, because of that, I tried committing suicide in seventh grade. Ever since then, I've struggled with depression. It's difficult and I've gone through counseling, but it's still difficult. I've lost a lot of weight since then, but I still suffer from that disease. I don't take kindly to bullying. If that ever happens to kids while I'm around, I stop it immediately. It's unacceptable and can never be justified. You can never justify treating another human as a lesser being. There are no exceptions to this. While I have a strong stance on bullying, my biggest cause is depression. It's a severely underrated problem in America and it pisses me off to no end when people make fun of people that suffer from depression, especially when they use depression as a source of torment.