Dealing with racism?

[Aloha]

So like lets say I know someone really close to me whose mom is racist against me and doesn't like me personally...Their mom said that Chinese people eat cats and have no table manners.That isn't true.Not all Chinese people eat cats or don't have table manners -__-

 

[jesughs]

A lot of people I know have to deal with racism from one or both of one of their friend/significant other's parents as I know a lot of interracial couples. Usually they just have to live with it, as most people like that are very stubborn and not likely to change their hateful ways. It sucks, but sometimes that is all you can do. If I were you, I'd just try to go on being the best you can be and maybe then your friend's mom will see that you're a good person and that her false, unbelievable accusations are wrong. But if that doesn't happen, she's the one who will have to deal with it, not you. Who her child's friends are is not up to her.

 

[AndyB]

Ever since I have seen this video I have always thought it was so powerful.

Spoiler

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeixtYS-P3s

 

[TheObscure]

If you're having to start a thread and cry about it, then you're doing something entirely wrong when dealing with racism. You either put a stop to it yourself or don't care about it. In the 21st century when racism is still abound, and you have to get pity from others is no way to deal with it.

So stop being such a spaz because you can't do anything about it through your own actions.

 

[Furry Sparks]

If you're having to start a thread and cry about it, then you're doing something entirely wrong when dealing with racism. You either put a stop to it yourself or don't care about it. In the 21st century when racism is still abound, and you have to get pity from others is no way to deal with it.

So stop being such a spaz because you can't do anything about it through your own actions.

Yes, some kid can totally deal with the gigantic worldwide problem such as racism on their own. And if they can't, they shouldn't care about it. I mean, it's only people telling you that you're worth less as a human than others.

You sure sound like a white middle class male who has never had to deal with any kind of oppression in their life.

 

[Nicole.]

Ever since I have seen this video I have always thought it was so powerful.

Spoiler

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeixtYS-P3s

He has a very vaild point there which I never even thought of!

 

[oath2order]

If you're having to start a thread and cry about it, then you're doing something entirely wrong when dealing with racism. You either put a stop to it yourself or don't care about it. In the 21st century when racism is still abound, and you have to get pity from others is no way to deal with it.

So stop being such a spaz because you can't do anything about it through your own actions.

She's not being a spaz, and she's not asking for pity. She's asking for advice on how to deal with it.

Aloha, you say she doesn't like you personally. Does she act purposefully rude to you, or is it just her beliefs of stereotypes?

 

[Kaiaa]

I don't understand racism. I just don't get how you can hate someone because of their heritage, I mean seriously.

Unfortunately, racist people will NEVER change. There is nothing I could say or anything you could do to change the way she feels. I'm very sorry that she treats you like that, but some people are just ignorant. Your best bet is to stay friends with your friend but not go over to their house.

If you can't change the way people treat you because they are nasty/rude and ignorant than you shouldn't have to put yourself in those kinds of situations. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are, not for the color of your skin or your heritage.

 

[Wish]

I am a mixed Asian, so I get racism alot too. However there is no reason why it should offend you, represent your heritage.

 

[TheObscure]

Yes, some kid can totally deal with the gigantic worldwide problem such as racism on their own. And if they can't, they shouldn't care about it. I mean, it's only people telling you that you're worth less as a human than others.

You sure sound like a white middle class male who has never had to deal with any kind of oppression in their life.

It's obvious that one person wouldn't put a stop to racism completely, but dealing with one racist that's giving you **** is the least you can do. I don't really get where you're trying to go with the "it's only people telling you that you're worth less as a human than others." part though. People are *******s, if you can't deal with them, then you're only living up to what they're saying about how worthless you are.

And as for the "white middle class male who has never had to deal with any kind of oppression in their life" part; sure I'm white and just barely middle class, but I live in small apartment in a terrible neighborhood with people that will **** talk you if you're not black or Mexican.

 

[Purrl]

It's obvious that one person wouldn't put a stop to racism completely, but dealing with one racist that's giving you **** is the least you can do. I don't really get where you're trying to go with the "it's only people telling you that you're worth less as a human than others." part though. People are *******s, if you can't deal with them, then you're only living up to what they're saying about how worthless you are.

And as for the "white middle class male who has never had to deal with any kind of oppression in their life" part; sure I'm white and just barely middle class, but I live in small apartment in a terrible neighborhood with people that will **** talk you if you're not black or Mexican.

You're trying to justify being an ******* because people have been racist to you also?
Read the damn OP, Aloha clearly states the issue is with the mother of a close friend whom he/she considers dear, this is a little different to people you can just shrug off and walk past on the way to your doorstep in your so called "gangsta neighbourhood"
To point out someone is being a "spaz" on a forum is childish, it seems to me those mean scary "racist" people you have to put up with get to you a lot more than you are letting on, seeing as you just tend to pass the baton by insulting someone else.

OT:

Aloha, sadly some people are just incredibly set in their ways and it's a little like religion... they just won't budge from their beliefs/views. Talk to your friend perhaps, set the ball rolling and see where you can take it.

 

[jesughs]

It's obvious that one person wouldn't put a stop to racism completely, but dealing with one racist that's giving you **** is the least you can do. I don't really get where you're trying to go with the "it's only people telling you that you're worth less as a human than others." part though. People are *******s, if you can't deal with them, then you're only living up to what they're saying about how worthless you are.

And as for the "white middle class male who has never had to deal with any kind of oppression in their life" part; sure I'm white and just barely middle class, but I live in small apartment in a terrible neighborhood with people that will **** talk you if you're not black or Mexican.

I don't understand your post at all. Like honestly it does not make any sense. "dealing with one racist that's giving you **** is the least you can do." The least you can do for who? What? Elaborate more. Racism is a big deal. It IS, like Furry Sparks said, people telling you that you're worth less as a human than others. Not all humans can deal with hatred, bullying, and the like as well as other, does that mean they are worthless scum? This era is no longer the era of the "survival of the fittest", "everyone who can't do this is weak" mindset. If someone is an ******* and I can't deal with them, that does not mean that I'm fitting their description me. THEY are the worthless one for trying to make another person feel worthless. How could you think otherwise?

 

[Bacon Boy]

Why do I feel like there's a "my life is worse than yours" fight coming out of the post above me? Sorry, I posted that late. That was in reference to The Obscure.

Racism is wrong. Everyone faces it in one form or another, whether they know it or not. To elaborate, you never know what people think of you. Even strangers as you pass down the street. I'm encountered racism and sexism many times in my life, and they're both sadly still in existence and probably will be for quite some time since some people still perpetuate hate. I don't know how to help you here, friend. I'd like to say it gets easier, and I've experienced the same thing. The thing I've found, that if they're not violent about it, the more you hang around their kid, the more they realize that they were wrong. Hearing "you're one of the nicest white people I know" was kind of a great compliment. It won't always work that way, but it is worth a shot. But like I said, only if the parent isn't violent about it. There's no sense in putting yourself into danger.

 

[Prof Gallows]

Since a lot of people decided to yet again turn this thread into a "Let's yell at this guy" thread, I'm closing this.


If someone is OBVIOUSLY trolling, don't fall for it. All you're doing is spamming up an otherise beneficial thread.
Think about it more next time guys.