Child Abuse

[namiieco]

Me and my 5 other friends where at one of my friends house's and her (around 5) brother was there. I couldn't understand why her mum got angry because they were talking in Gujarati but she slapped my friends brother (like a proper slap) and she started to DRAG him across the floor. She left him in the hallway and walked off. A while after he started to cry and complain about something else again and the she said "Stop it or I'll throw you."
And after apparently (according to one of my friends) she held a lighted match near his mouth.
I told my dad and he is telling the nspcc

any... thoughts? idk

 

[visibleghost]

child physical abuse is awful, i hope your friend and their siblings are ok ):

 

[namiieco]

child physical abuse is awful, i hope your friend and their siblings are ok ):

I hope so too ;;

 

[nintendofan85]

I'm so sorry that happened to you.
One of my friends has had to deal with a lot of abuse from his mom. Two years ago, after he made a bad grade on a quiz in his English class, his mom beat him with the armrest that came off an office chair.

 

[namiieco]

I'm so sorry that happened to you.
One of my friends has had to deal with a lot of abuse from his mom. Two years ago, after he made a bad grade on a quiz in his English class, his mom beat him with the armrest that came off an office chair.

Damn, I hope he is doing okay now :c

 

[nintendofan85]

Damn, I hope he is doing okay now :c

Sadly, his relationship with her hasn't gotten any better.
She yells at him a lot and because his grades weren't good this past school year, she's transferring him to another school in my area that she says is "better for dumb people like him" even though he's actually really smart. He was in gifted classes in elementary and middle school.

 

[namiieco]

Sadly, his relationship with her hasn't gotten any better.
She yells at him a lot and because his grades weren't good this past school year, she's transferring him to another school in my area that she says is "better for dumb people like him" even though he's actually really smart. He was in gifted classes in elementary and middle school.

Shouldn't his mother be reported?
Anyway, I hope it gets better for him one day.

 

[AquaStrudel]

I'm so sorry that happened to you.
One of my friends has had to deal with a lot of abuse from his mom. Two years ago, after he made a bad grade on a quiz in his English class, his mom beat him with the armrest that came off an office chair.

Me and my 5 other friends where at one of my friends house's and her (around 5) brother was there. I couldn't understand why her mum got angry because they were talking in Gujarati but she slapped my friends brother (like a proper slap) and she started to DRAG him across the floor. She left him in the hallway and walked off. A while after he started to cry and complain about something else again and the she said "Stop it or I'll throw you."
And after apparently (according to one of my friends) she held a lighted match near his mouth.
I told my dad and he is telling the nspcc

any... thoughts? idk

Jesus, that's brutal. Hope things can resolve and get better.

 

[namiieco]

Jesus, that's brutal. Hope things can resolve and get better.

Thank you, me too c:

 

[nintendofan85]

Shouldn't his mother be reported?
Anyway, I hope it gets better for him one day.

I think she should, but according to him he doesn't know what to do about it.

 

[namiieco]

I think she should, but according to him he doesn't know what to do about it.

Yeah, you (or him) should definitely report her.

 

[Fleshy]

Oh wow, that's horrible, the fact that she done it while other's were there is very telling. It's awful because you don't know if worse happens when other people aren't there.. but at least if they are taking action against their mother, there's witnesses. It's awful to think like that, but many claims won't be taken seriously. You done the best thing by telling someone, I hope the police/nspcc/whoever do something about him and that her children are okay, child abuse destroys your life. Seeing ashe's only 5, hopefully he can get away from her and things will be resolved, then he might not remember much of it in his future. Have you spoke to your friend about it? I'm not sure, she might need some support, specially if action might be taken against her mother, it's a hard time.

It's probably mostly due to my own past, but it's hard not to cry when I hear things like this, the thought of things like that happening to another child, it hurts me so much. That abuse of strength and power is so so disgusting. I'm 19, and I could never, ever imagine hurting a child, ever. I don't know why doing something like that even crosses someone's mind, honestly. I don't know, it's just seriously upsetting.

 

[ams]

You need to tell an adult to call CPS immediately. Where I'm from it's illegal for an adult aware of child abuse to NOT report it. I'm assuming it's the same where you're from.

 

[namiieco]

You need to tell an adult to call CPS immediately. Where I'm from it's illegal for an adult aware of child abuse to NOT report it. I'm assuming it's the same where you're from.

Yeah, it's been reported. Hopefully things will turn out okay in the end

Oh wow, that's horrible, the fact that she done it while other's were there is very telling. It's awful because you don't know if worse happens when other people aren't there.. but at least if they are taking action against their mother, there's witnesses. It's awful to think like that, but many claims won't be taken seriously. You done the best thing by telling someone, I hope the police/nspcc/whoever do something about him and that her children are okay, child abuse destroys your life. Seeing ashe's only 5, hopefully he can get away from her and things will be resolved, then he might not remember much of it in his future. Have you spoke to your friend about it? I'm not sure, she might need some support, specially if action might be taken against her mother, it's a hard time.

It's probably mostly due to my own past, but it's hard not to cry when I hear things like this, the thought of things like that happening to another child, it hurts me so much. That abuse of strength and power is so so disgusting. I'm 19, and I could never, ever imagine hurting a child, ever. I don't know why doing something like that even crosses someone's mind, honestly. I don't know, it's just seriously upsetting.

My friend said shes fine but I don't know.
I felt like crying after watching her mum hurt her brother. My other friend literally burst out into tears and another one was crying in the toilet because she was so scared...

 

[Llust]

i have mixed feelings about it. truth be told, nearly all of my asian friends, including myself, have been abused as kids. but as we grew up, the abuse cooled down. possibly because our parents figured we were mature enough and didnt need it. however, i'd say we all turned out fine. its rough discipline, but it gets us doing what we need to do. dont get me wrong, we were definitely hit for a reason. if the parents have no reason to discipline them, thats where the issue is. child abuse is wrong, but i mean sometimes its necessary

 

[ams]

i have mixed feelings about it. truth be told, nearly all of my asian friends, including myself, have been abused as kids. but as we grew up, the abuse cooled down. possibly because our parents figured we were mature enough and didnt need it. however, i'd say we all turned out fine. its rough discipline, but it gets us doing what we need to do. dont get me wrong, we were definitely hit for a reason. if the parents have no reason to discipline them, thats where the issue is. child abuse is wrong, but i mean sometimes its necessary

Culture is not an excuse for abuse.

 

[Fleshy]

child abuse is wrong, but i mean sometimes its necessary

Hurting a child is never, ever necessary, no matter what.

 

[Llust]

Culture is not an excuse for abuse.

never said it was. i was unclear about that

 

[namiieco]

A parent should never resort to abuse. It doesn't help the situation and can physically and emotionally damage a child if it carries on.

 

[Acruoxil]

I've gone through abuse myself as a kiddo, and trust me it sucked. Now that I'm an adult now it's pretty much non existant, but yeahhhh it was bad.

I hope your friend's brother is okay you should report to the right authorities asap.