Bullying

[Chipl95]

My story about bullying is pretty much lifelong.

I was bullied by my first-grade teacher and roommate and her daughter. My teacher picked on me for having a disability and regularly wrote notes to my mom to complain about my behaviour. Most of the behaviour was a result of my disability, but she thought it was just me being a brat. As for the roommate, she would call me and her daughter an idiot, *******, all sorts of ugly language. Then, because she smoked like a chimney, my pet bird died one day. She left the body for me to find.

The rest of elementary school was mostly fine, except for bullying by daycare teachers. They would tell me I was spoiled for wanting a blue cup for juice. Once I had a huge adult daycare teacher wrestle me to the ground because I refused to hand over a toy. And I had another teacher grab stuffed animals from my hand and scream in my face. Plus I decided I disliked my birth name, and they would regularly refuse to honour my wishes to not be called that. They even went as far as to say I wasn't allowed to sign birthday cards under my chosen name. (One of the workers even said "I should just cut your name out. Do not sign a card with that name again.") I simply stopped signing birthday cards after that incident.

Grade six, I left that daycare and still did experience bullying. In school, I had the principal picking on me and my mom because she didn't like an autistic 12-year-old walking home from school alone. And there was one kid who bent my fingers back, punched me, you name it. All because he decided not to be my friend anymore. Since I was bullied in school, I turned to the Internet and message boards. I was bullied by a lot of members on there, but I did manage to make some friends. Shout out to any of those friends who are reading this.

Middle school brought some really severe bullying, both in school and on the Internet. The first day of middle school (Grade seven), a kid was spreading a rumour that I wanted to make babies with a stuffed animal I had. The online bullying from grade six continued, with new people joining in. I joined more and more boards and with the friends came bullies and people who victimized me. Some adults would cheer on my bullies, who were also kids like me. One example I remember was once, I posted a story where a kid said I had an IQ of one. Internet guy said Cheers on the guy bugging Chipl95 Plus there was one kid who would make up stories to tell teachers just to get me in trouble. And my final example from grade seven- a teacher wrestled me to the ground as punishment for needing help on something.

When grade eight came, I got into online gaming. I was regularly called a slut, hoe, and baby ****. This was also when the in school bullying got worse. Kids would come up to me and say "I want your laptop. Give it to me or I will kill you." The death threats began in general. Someone sent me a Facebook message saying "I will get you, you little freak!" I did not report this. All the bullying combined to make me consider suicide as an escape. I never attempted it, but I seriously considered ending my life.

Has anybody on here experienced bullying in any capacity?

 

[Stella-Io]

Looking back on it as an older person, I'd only consider what I got in elementary and my 6th grade year of middle school (all done by the same guy) teasing. He would point out my physical features and make me feel self conscious, which didn't help my already low self esteem.

But on your level, no. All of those people you mentioned are completly grotesque and horrid. They truly are the scum the world has to offer, and I'm sorry you encountered so many of them in your life. Each and every one of them can rot in ****.

 

[Aniko]

Yes I was, as a kid. I didn't get why at the time, I started elementary school a few weeks after moving in a new town and because of that, I didn't have my school card yet, some books and my mom had forgotten to pack my lunch, so it was a memorable first day. Instead of calling my mom, the teacher yelled at me and made me kneel in a corner and I pretty much stayed there for 2 years. Well I was punished almost every day because other kids were talking to me or pulling my hair and I apparently "I" was disrupting the class. I had no friends at all, other kids were rather mean, putting ice in my boots, stealing my stuff, threatening me, calling me names, beating me at the bus stop and so on... The teachers were not really better and my parents just ignored it.

At first I was sad and depressed and then I joined the dark side.... I put snails in the coffee of my teacher before kneeling in my favorite corner. I had the great pleasure of vomiting on the shoes of that teacher who forced me to drink milk even if I had a note from my parents telling her that milk made me sick. I also got rid of my mean babysitter telling my dad she was smoking and doing stuff with her BF on the sofa (even I couldn't sit on that sofa..) And this and that.. I slowly started getting revenge on people, which wasn't the best thing to do.

Later, I figured out they thought I was just an easy scapegoat, they always take kids that are already ostracized for not fitting the mold, kids with less power. I was the new kid with no friend, a bit weird, so they took their frustration on me. I wasn't alone, there were others like me, being different, but it wasn't just their difference that made them bullied, either they didn't fight back, either they had nobody else to support them, making them vulnerable and easy to "deal" with.

 

[Disneyfangirl23]

I don?t like talking about my experiences of when I was being bullied it just brings back bad memories.

 

[Arjh]

Sadly this resonates with me.

I've been bullied my whole life, right from primary school to being bullied in my job. I don't really want to go into details but it has caused me extremely low self esteem & to hate myself.
How are supposed to like yourself when people are constantly putting you down and saying how awful you are.

 

[abc123wee]

I think we're all glad that you're still here <3 No matter how hard it gets, life is still worth living.

 

[Aniko]

People bullying others are often people with problems, low self-esteem and are powerless themselves, they need to crush others to feel better.

 

[Midoriya]

Really only in public when I was in middle school. But it was moreso exclusion. Everyone excluded me and I sat by myself at lunch pretty much every day of public middle school. I changed to private school for high school though and everything has been a lot better since then, including university. I’ve made a lot of acquaintances and a best friend that I hangout with at various times throughout the year.

As far as online goes, I’ve been bullied in a fair number of MMORPGs (and in Discord servers for them) and at some sites in the past by some... pretty toxic people. People would call me a hypocrite when I wasn’t, got onto me for things I didn’t do where someone else actually started it, and went after me as well when I had literally done nothing to agitate them at all. All of this made me just end up hating the MMORPG scene after having played them since I was young, and now I just stick to single player and online Nintendo games. But bad times never last! Starting this year my life has benefited so much from the change and I feel better as a person. I’m just really glad to have TBT as a safe haven because everyone here is so nice and sweet, including the staff.

 

[Dim]

Yes I was bullied for being being awkward/weird/keeping my mouth shut. Everything I did people would put me down for it, even my own brothers. Some people actually think bullying helps social skills but no, it doesn?t.

 

[Ditz]

I'm super sorry you've all been bullied and I really sympathize with you guys, I've been bullied as well. I'm glad you're all here!

I was bullied for my weight all through-out school. I used to be really skinny, and when I was around 9 / 10 I started binge eating as a result of trauma. I gained a lot of weight, and not only did my family comment on it but also my peers. All of a sudden I was ugly, I was called fat multiple times a day as an insult. This started to progress in middle school, but I had gotten into anime and online gaming pretty hard so I was known as the "weird fat anime girl". Boys started asking me out jokingly, and then would say "I'm just kidding, you're fat and ugly." This continued on and I tried to ignore it but it really affected my self esteem. I have always been a really shy person, but as a result of this I really stopped talking to people and trying to make friends. Bullying took a toll on me and I just stopped caring, I got depressed and eventually had to start inpatient services. After I got out I started working out and eating better, lost weight, but my self esteem was never the same and I don't think it ever will be. I try every day and it's definitely better than it was, but I need to work on it still.

 

[bonucci]

First of all, I'm sorry to read about all your experiences. I'm really glad we're all able to talk about this, and hopefully eventually move on. I've been bullied as well, and I'm glad we're all still here to help each other out with it. You aren't alone!

I was bullied really badly, being a third culture kid. I moved countries as well as countless schools because no matter where I went, I was picked on, either for not speaking the language or just being different in general! It's crazy how some kids can be so cruel for no reason. I was bullied for a lot of other reasons that to this day I still can't discuss it because it still affects me greatly, but I'm working on my own healing and forgiveness.

 

[namiieco]

ive never been bullied and ive never been the bully. im school im always the quiet kid that everyone forgets exists lol

 

[RedTropicalPeachyFish]

I have a question though. Does harassment count as bully? Or it only means typical bullying like during childhood from dumbass little people?

 

[Shellzilla_515]

Ouch. Why do those teachers you mentioned make your life worse? It's very shameful that those kinds of adults feed fuel into the flames rather than to solve it. Thank goodness you've managed to pass those hardships. They're just temporary and think of that always when you get onto another bumpy road in life.

 

[visibleghost]

i was bullied as a kid. it got better when the main bully switched schools in 7th grade. i don't even know why they bullied me but whatever.
i was also targeted by the school counsellor which was Wild lol but basically she made everyone say mean things about me and presented what tvey said to me as if it were all problems that i had orthat were my fault. she said it was for self improvement but i don't see how presenting anonymous insults from the class to an 11 year old in front of a bunch of people would in any way lead to self improvement. that woman was terrible at her job, i think she just worked with kids because she liked to be mean and cause drama.

People bullying others are often people with problems, low self-esteem and are powerless themselves, they need to crush others to feel better.

sometimes people just suck for no reason and even if bullies did have issues why would that even matter to victims of bullying

 

[Kalle]

It's sad to read that you've experienced such difficulties with ignorant or simply stupid and hateful individuals, but know that you're a unique person that has a lot to live for (and a lot of good people to meet that appreciate you). The answer to stop bullying can vary, but as an adult in a workplace you have to report things to HR as they happen. Do not wait until work is over and do not talk to anyone other than HR. If that doesn't resolve things, or if the bullying is severe, consider taking legal action. Do not tell people you are considering this step, just do it. Threats will be met with doubt. It's important to understand your rights and for shameful people to be put in their place.

 

[Croconaw]

I was bullied throughout my entire childhood.

 

[nintendofan85]

I was bullied almost constantly from 1st to 8th grade. It sucked. That being said, it sounds like you had it much worse than I did.

 

[kiwi-strawberry]

i haven't really been bullied, but your story makes me realize how lucky i am to not have gone through bullying. i guess i'm.. i'm actually not really sure what to say... this is just so god**** disgusting. i was so angry reading your post; not for you of course, but for those disgusting horrible people in your life. i'm not at all religious, but i hope these people rot in **** and have terrible, miserable lives. these people literally deserve to suffer for the way they treated you. you did absolutely nothing wrong, and were just trying to live your life and be happy, but they wouldn't stand for it. i'm so proud and happy that you managed to live through all that, and i sincerely hope that things are better now <3

 

[raeyoung]

Bullying is something I've experienced, but not in an intense fashion. I was and still am often teased by my male peers for being "unattractive" and single (never had a relationship rip). I am often teased for looking like a boy (even though I'm not entirely sure where that came from ;; ) and when I was much younger, I was diagnosed with ADHD in first grade, so in kindergarten I went without meds and had bad behavior problems which made my reputation very poor throughout my old school district, so I've only experienced the first two things as of recent. Your story makes me feel very angry cuz bullying is something I cannot tolerate. I really hope things are better nowadays because bullying is never deserved.