are you confident in your overall appearance?

[DarkDesertFox]

I honestly could tone up a bit. I rarely work out. I don't really care what people think of my appearance most of the time. That's kind of a flaw of mine though since I sometimes go out without shaving and let my hair grow too long without getting it cut.

 

[kikiiii]

don't worry, i also feel like this.. like i look in the mirror at home, and i think i look nice. but once i go out i compare myself to other girls and im like wow i am nothing compared to them

geez, its a relief to hear that other girls have this problem. its very very hard for me to feel confident when im out of the house (and this leads to me hardly ever wanting to leave the house!!) its so tiring to constantly compare yourself to others. especially if you've taken time to look nice, think u look great, and then realize that it all feels like a waste. bluhhhhh

 

[riummi]

i dunno if anyone else can relate, but usually i only really feel confident when im at home or whatever (even still, this is rare. im hardly ever confident??????) but once i leave the house i cant help but compare myself to everyone else that eventually my very small sliver of confidence just flushes down the drain. being at school is mentally exhausting because of this

mm yes especially at school
there are many athletic, smart and beautiful girls

 

[tae]

you people complaining about not being able to gain weight suck lmao

don't be a prick just because you wanna weigh less.
not being able to gain weight and be healthy is just as bad as not being able to lose weight / keep weight off.

**** right off.

 

[inkling]

Im pretty picky with myself and it depends on the day really and the time period in my life. im into beauty so i don't go to hard on myself. I know when I'm taking care of my skin, and when im not, I know when I'm eating healthy and when I slack. But I always know how to make myself look nice and attractive at least. Its one of those thing I had to work really hard towards...its part of my inner life. Its not about not giving a damn what people think (which is difficult for me bc people always comment on my looks in some way or another) but more about just acceptance and beyond that...growth. And seeing beauty in the world. And being yourself too!

Others have mentioned comparing yourself to others. Well, I used to do that a lot and its something you have to go through. Eventually, I began to appreciate others beauty though and admire it. This is a type of respect you give others and yourself at the same time. Comparing yourself to others is like banging your head against a wall. Admiration and appreciation other people and of differnt types of beauties and looks allows you to be inspired and let's others effect you and get ideas in a positive way. Loving and respecting yourself and loving and respecting others is something that kinda has to be done at the same time. Logically.

 

[Twisterheart]

I got bullied a lot in school for "being ugly" so I don't have very much self esteem. I don't think very highly of myself at all, and it seems as though I only find more things to hate.

 

[ShinyYoshi]

I've been bullied almost my whole life for my physical appearance and things I can't change without surgery. It's really taken a toll on my confidence and even at 21 years old its almost impossible for me to like what I see when I look in the mirror. I try to wear clothes that I really like and wear makeup and try to make my hair look nice, but at the end of the day I just don't like what I see.

Maybe if people had just left me alone about my appearance I'd feel differently, but I just can't. But I'll survive. I'm not looking for sympathy or help from this thread. Just sharing my thoughts.

 

[focus]

meh. i like how my body's turning out. it's been rlly hard for me recovering from an eating disorder and i'm finally happy w my bod wooo!! but i'm not too confident about my face. small mouth n eyes, big nose, and especially my teeth. but at the same time i wouldn't change anything you feel? it's like idk i kinda love them but not rlly

 

[boujee]

my body is a temple That's why people come to worship it.
JK! That sounds fcking conceited.
I'm overall confident in myself. I think I get more work up over an outfit than my physical attributes. I remember coming to school in this granny sweater and I swore people were going to talk about it. Instead I got people complimenting how cute I looked and I told them I felt like sht and they looked at me and laugh while saying "emerald even at your worst you look your fcking best". That made me happy. I do need to eat more healthy though.

 

[kassie]

i dunno if anyone else can relate, but usually i only really feel confident when im at home or whatever (even still, this is rare. im hardly ever confident??????) but once i leave the house i cant help but compare myself to everyone else that eventually my very small sliver of confidence just flushes down the drain. being at school is mentally exhausting because of this

100% can relate

- - - Post Merge - - -

don't be a prick just because you wanna weigh less.
not being able to gain weight and be healthy is just as bad as not being able to lose weight / keep weight off.

**** right off.

i'm actually happy with my weight? lol.

are you always this aggressive or

 

[helloxcutiee]

Yeah, I'm pretty confident on how I look.
I just hate my nose.

 

[tae]

are you always this aggressive or

i just think it's pretty ****ty of you to say people who have a hard time gaining weight suck. : ^)

 

[kassie]

i just think it's pretty ****ty of you to say people who have a hard time gaining weight suck. : ^)

i'm sure you know what a joke is right

i'm aware that skinny people who struggle with gaining weight is a real issue.

 

[helloxcutiee]

YES I LOOK QUEEN AF YALL JEALOUS

Yas gurl slay!

 

[Mango]

ya

 

[toadsworthy]

oh my lord no, I have like zero confidence in so many ways.... I have nice legs and good style, and thats about all I will say

I've had a lot of rejection in my life and I'm pretty sure I'm scarred for life. Pair that with trust issues, a family who doesn't understand you, and just terrible friends makes life pretty crappy right now

 

[visibleghost]

not really. i usually dress in baggy clothes to hide it lmao

i sometimes llike the way i look but most of the time i dont ;;

 

[Celestefey]

Um, sometimes I suppose... I can be a little self-conscious/insecure at times. If I dress up in nice clothes and stuff, I can feel pretty good about myself, but if I don't feel like I'm dressed in a 'presentable' way, I just feel pretty gross/ugly. I'm also average weight but I feel like I've gained quite a lot of weight recently, and whilst I know that's mostly down to me being a teenager and hormones and growing up, it still really brings me down at times, for whatever reason. I've never been slim, yet all of my friends have and so sometimes when they talk about it it does feel like they are showing off - I know one of them does it, anyway - so that makes me feel bad for whatever reason. Just because I may carry a bit of extra weight around my stomach or my thighs, does not mean I am ugly, but, I do believe that I am a lot of the time. One of my friends used to make fun of me for it before lmaob but... like I said, I'm an average weight. I know I'm just being stupid and if I could tell myself to not care and just be confident and beautiful in my own way, I would, but there's just some sort of mental block that tells me otherwise.

 

[emmareid]

yeah, I fluctuate between 'I'm a sea queen who deserves to be worshipped' to 'pls don't look at me I'm an ogre'

 

[Kapriznyy]

I think everyone has those bad days where they just want to hide in the house, avoid mirrors and try not to be seen by anyone. It's unfortunate that it's so common though.

Personally I'm pretty content with how I look. I'm happy with myself until someone tells me I'm wrong to be happy with myself, basically, and that's a whole other problem of its own. But if you stuck me in front of a mirror right now I'd be cool with things as they are.

I think I like my eyes and lips most. But I'm one of those weirdoes who thinks all the differences from body to body are interesting and admirable, rather than having an ideal body to aspire towards. I love the variations from person to person. I have short stubby fingers for example, and I think they're cute, but I'll meet someone with piano fingers and think they're cool too, or knobby knuckles or super pronounced lines in the palms or anything really! But it doesn't make me insecure about my own, I just appreciate the differences.

...
I will always wish my hair was thicker though! That's the exception. And sometimes my eyelashes grow really straight instead of curling, but that's annoying, not an aesthetic issue.

I dunno. I should be asleep and I'm definitely rambling but it all boils down to this: I think it's really great how we all have the same basic template for our bodies but we have such vastly differing features despite that, and that attitude definitely extends to how I see myself.