They just want to let you know that it would be nice to get a tip if you have the means to do so, but you can still come for free if you cant. Like i cant even think of a nicer way for them to put it lol. They have every right to charge for their time but they didnt, so let them have this optional tip thing at least. If you are trading with others in this fourm but cant tip them, you can leave them a good feedback. That might make you feel more at ease about not being able to tip them?
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oh don't feel pressured into changing the title >.< I totally understand what you mean by it. I think people are being a little harsh by saying "if you have a problem with someone saying "tips appreciated" then you have issues you need to work out." I mean... this week I was super low on bells (less than 10,000), and didn't have a lot of time to do fishing or bug hunting to really get more. I honestly wish I had a bunch to spare to leave a payment for every island I visit, but I didn't. It certainly leaves me feeling guilty. It doesnt mean I have a problem I need to work through though. So don't let the others get you down!
Well that wasn’t my point, my point of creating this thread was to see if anyone shared a similar opinion to me feeling pressured to give a tip when someone posts about them. Also how can it be off topic when my first post remains the same? I just edited it a little. My point still stands.
I usually give tips at least 20k bells per visit, idk I just feel wrong not giving anything but there are instances I do not give anything like if it's a giveaway or something, but getting diys from villagers and such I usually tip
I've literally never felt pressured to tip unless someone says tips are required. I always tip now anyway because I like making people happy (I couldn't for a while though ; v ; )but even if I didn't no one's ever made me feel bad or came after me because I didn't.
Ah, it must be different where you’re from. Where I live, servers make minimum wage, so don’t need to rely on tips to make a living. It’s like this, if everybody understands and feels that tips are appreciated, why even say it? Go on, next time you’re offering a service, don’t even mention it. I guarantee people will still tip because that’s the kind of community we have.
I agree a lot with what Mary says. I really don’t want to come off as rude, instead just being completely honest. It’s ok to have feelings, even petty ones. However we shouldn’t have to rationalize it and accept it. Its ok to realize that maybe these feelings are ok, but don’t try to shift it so that it looks like we are being aggressive. I don’t think that any of this makes you a terrible person, in fact I’m sure that whoever you are, you are lovely. But please don’t do this to us
I agree with this. I personally try to tip whenever possible even if tips aren't mentioned if they're providing a free service for many people for hours at a time. I think that if someone is receiving a free service and they have the means to tip then they should tip. I've noticed that this community is very "do good for other people without expecting anything in return," but isn't that the point of tipping? To provide someone with extra compensation when they didn't expect it?
Sudsofsplash
Pocket Egg
Tips appreciated but not required is what I always say. I also always say to tip what you can, and if you can't afford it, then don't feel like you have to tip.
I understand feeling annoyed when people say stuff like for turnips "Give me 50% of your turnip money as a tip" but like GUESS WHAT!!! You don't have to go to those people!! There's loads of people who don't ask for entry fees or high end tips!
I have no idea how this annoys you like at all - Because if you feel like you HAVE to give the person a tip, but you don't actually cause they said they were appreciated but obvs not required and...well not giving a tip is kind of rude but like you don't have to leave a huge tip LOL
My question for you, have you ever hosted anything on your island? Like letting people come over to talk to Celeste or when a villager is crafting a popular DIY? Cause boy is it a complete pain....The loading screens, having to keep an eye on people who sneak around, the people with bad internet ruining it for everyone.... It's nice to get tips, but I never think people who don't leave tips are the absolute worst, unless they were rude LOL
I've hosted and co-hosted turnip spikes and I never asked for tips, I always say "tips appreciated but not required" because while it's nice to give tips, you don't need to, especially if you can't afford to! I actually had to tell people to stop tipping because they were giving WAY too much!!! Like I don't mind people taking 10 trips, but like tipping once is enough for me! You don't need to give 99k every single time lolol
It's not annoying, or well shouldn't be annoying, to say "tips appreciated" but what you described in your post is actually not really that, it seems to be more people who ask for expensive items or large sums of NMTs or IGBs as tips. And honestly? The only people I see that do that are the people on Turnip Exchange who say they don't have "entry fees" but instead the entry fees are actually the tips they ask for LOL
I understand feeling annoyed when people say stuff like for turnips "Give me 50% of your turnip money as a tip" but like GUESS WHAT!!! You don't have to go to those people!! There's loads of people who don't ask for entry fees or high end tips!
I have no idea how this annoys you like at all - Because if you feel like you HAVE to give the person a tip, but you don't actually cause they said they were appreciated but obvs not required and...well not giving a tip is kind of rude but like you don't have to leave a huge tip LOL
My question for you, have you ever hosted anything on your island? Like letting people come over to talk to Celeste or when a villager is crafting a popular DIY? Cause boy is it a complete pain....The loading screens, having to keep an eye on people who sneak around, the people with bad internet ruining it for everyone.... It's nice to get tips, but I never think people who don't leave tips are the absolute worst, unless they were rude LOL
I've hosted and co-hosted turnip spikes and I never asked for tips, I always say "tips appreciated but not required" because while it's nice to give tips, you don't need to, especially if you can't afford to! I actually had to tell people to stop tipping because they were giving WAY too much!!! Like I don't mind people taking 10 trips, but like tipping once is enough for me! You don't need to give 99k every single time lolol
It's not annoying, or well shouldn't be annoying, to say "tips appreciated" but what you described in your post is actually not really that, it seems to be more people who ask for expensive items or large sums of NMTs or IGBs as tips. And honestly? The only people I see that do that are the people on Turnip Exchange who say they don't have "entry fees" but instead the entry fees are actually the tips they ask for LOL
Personally, I don't feel a pressure to tip. I take people by their word and if they say it's not necessary, then usually I don't. I just like chatting them up and helping them if they ever need it, but when I visit their island and see that they're league aheads then I feel like anything I could give them would be really insulting. I should probably get into the habit of tipping because I can now, but I just don't think about it when I'm on their island.
Thanks, I just had to change it so it comes across as more clearer. I understand the majority of people are outraged that I’m talking about this or saying that I have a problem if I get mad about people talking about tips, but I’m not mad?? I get it. There’s several posts that aren’t agreeing with me but I don’t understand why people go into a topic they don’t agree with. Like a topic called “does anyone like the gorilla villagers” and the majority or the posts were saying “no” like they made that thread to find out who liked gorilla villagers not just to hear people say the opposite.
voltairenism
the mac propaganda representative
My personal experience is that most people asking for tips are expecting tips. So yes, I feel very pressure to give them.
That's why I mostly don't ask for tips when hosting, so when people tip I feel very happy!!
That's why I mostly don't ask for tips when hosting, so when people tip I feel very happy!!
Are you serious? I’m not even doing it to make anyone look bad and I don’t see how changing the title makes the posts off topic??? My OP is the same. I changed it so people can easily see what point I was trying to make and for people to stop being hostile because I put the word “annoyed”
Not outraged, just attempting to clarify/ defend saying "tips aren't necessary but are appreciated." In no way am I taking issue with you as a person, I just disagree.
Edit: and I apologize if the off-topic thing came off as harsh/accusatory. That was not my intention.
Edit: and I apologize if the off-topic thing came off as harsh/accusatory. That was not my intention.
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actually this is SUPER important. I used to think people who required fees for visiting their neighbors or whatever were absolutely crazy, like I even talked to a friend about how wild it was that people wanted others to pay to talk to a villager who was giving out DIYs.
but then I started hosting and holy crap, it. is. stressful. having to sit through endless cutscenes, giving out codes, keeping track of who's already visited and who needs to come next, showing people where to go... and I haven't even hosted turnips yet (because I never get good prices lol rip), I can't imagine what that is like.
needless to say, I totally understand why people charge fees now lol. I try not to (unless I have a specific goal in mind and need bells/NMT for it), but honestly if you're gonna make someone sit through cutscene after cutscene of people flying in, I think you should try to make it worth it for them (if you can afford it!).
Sudsofsplash
Pocket Egg
Same with the comment I made! I am not personally attacking OP, I just am curious why they feel this way! Because honestly as someone who does EVERYTHING for free, I only get income from tips from events I host - Not that I'm even in need of the money LOL
(After selling 30million worth of turnips I have not needed bells since.)
im gonna guess this was referencing my post but there's a difference between feeling guilty about not tipping and being annoyed at users not requiring tips because you feel pressured
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