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[SaltedKaramel]

When i host diy crafting giveaways, which are always free, i always write "tips appreciated". Because why not? I mean what I say I don't need tips. But at the same time I still want to obviously show my appreciation for those who do. I cant watch my screen all the time and write "Thank you" to everyone who do decide to tip.

 

[astoria]

i don't see how the literal words "not required" make you think you have to tip.

It’s like being at a restaurant, tipping isn’t mandatory but everyone does it so you don’t feel like a jerk. By someone mentioning tips it makes some people feel obligated to do something and overthink.

 

[R. Planet]

Someone is nice enough to not ask for anything and you take offense to it?

 

[absol]

I always feel obligated to leave a tip and I think I subconsciously decide to pay more than I'd do when it's required to pay.
Wondering what's actually more profitable in the end - setting a fixed price or letting people decide for themselves?

I'm not necessarily annoyed with 'tips appreciated' though, I just feel like the choice is between being rude vs being decent

 

[Reploid]

While I’m sure the majority mean well when using said phrase, I see where the OP is coming from. Imagine if you went out to a restaurant and before you ordered, your server said this to you. Wouldn’t that leave a bad taste? I think it’s one of those things where it isn’t necessary to say you appreciate tips, because it’s implied. Who doesn’t appreciate tips?

 

[astoria]

The pressure to leave a tip can probably be connected to the cultures that we all come from. In the American/Canadian context, it's considered rude to not leave a tip at a restaurant or when receiving a service, but in Japan for example, tipping is not expected at all (and actually leaving a tip might be considered rude!). When I was travelling in Europe, in some of the countries that I went to, tipping a small amount was expected, but not if the service was poor and not to the same extent that it is in the United States.

I personally don't find it rude for people to say that tips are appreciated, but I would find it rude if they get mad at people who don't choose to leave a tip at all. After all, they did say tips appreciated. I sometimes also find it helpful if people leave general lists about what kinds of tips they like because I worry less about giving them something they might not want.

The first part is my exact thoughts, that’s why I’m feeling this way.

 

[Insulaire]

I personally don’t like receiving anything without paying for it in some way. As Fang says, “No freebies in this life!” So unless I was specifically instructed not to by the host, I’m always happy to pay or tip something, or provide a service like watering flowers, in exchange for visiting an island for something I want. Seems more than fair to me.

 

[leming]

I am a person who posts "tips appreciated" but not necessary lol. I truly mean they aren't necessary but if someone can let me catalog a wishlist item, which doesn't cost them anything because they get to keep the item, then it's a win-win for both of us! Not trying to make anyone feel like a jerk, just would love to catalog some items I'm missing while helping other players out!

 

[Matt0106]

I mean I don't mind, because I mean, so long as they are asking politely and tastefully, then they won't get mad if you don't (If they do, then they take tipping a little too seriously). I would say the only thing that is a little annoying is mandatory entry fees.

 

[telluric]

The only thing I have a problem with is people who ask for high entrance fees and then have the gall to say "tips appreciated." I love to tip generously. Who cares if someone saying they appreciate tips puts "pressure" on you to tip. Its just fake video game money, I have nothing to lose giving them a 99k bag of bells (or whatever amount) because they were nice enough to open their gates for me.

 

[shaymoon]

I.. have no idea why this would annoy someone? You don't have to tip, it's not there to make you feel bad for not tipping; it's there for the people who usually tip and want to make sure they'll accept their tip when they drop it off. Simple as that, but to each is own I guess.

 

[seliph]

It’s like being at a restaurant, tipping isn’t mandatory but everyone does it so you don’t feel like a jerk. By someone mentioning tips it makes some people feel obligated to do something and overthink.

yeah this isn't comparing apples to apples here, it's expected in restaurants because waiters need to make a living.

if you feel required to tip when it's clearly outlined that you don't have to, that's a you problem that you need to work on.

 

[Hesper]

Appreciated is not the same as necessary. I'm not about to hunt anyone down who's visited me for Zucker crafting something, or whatever, and didn't leave me anything. I just put it there so people know it's appreciated (literally what it says on the tin), if they leave me something and don't say anything while I'm sitting in the villager's house so I don't know to thank them in-game.

This is a personal problem. If you feel pressured by people expressing gratitude in advance...

It’s like being at a restaurant, tipping isn’t mandatory but everyone does it so you don’t feel like a jerk. By someone mentioning tips it makes some people feel obligated to do something and overthink.

And actually, "everyone does it" because servers--at least in much of the US--are paid way beneath minimum wage. Without tips, at my old theatre-waitstaff job at a dine in that shall go nameless, there were a bunch of days where I wound up making only 28 dollars or less (my worst was 11 dollars/8 hours!!) for 7 hours of work, because there were so few customers to begin with or their orders were small or nonexistent. I was Employee of the Month and repeatedly recognized and thanked by repeat customers in the lobby, so it certainly wasn't a me problem lololol. While legally they had to recompense us if we made below minimum wage, that only applied to an entire pay period, and therefore you could have a good weekend and the weekdays would still be completely worthless and not pay you for your time getting Karened out on.

*stares into the middleground* No, ma'am, I have nothing to do with your debit card declining, that is 100% on you...

 

[Mairen]

"tips appreciated" and "tips required" are two entirely different things in my opinion. though I totally get the "tips appreciated" can make me feel pressured like I either have to leave a tip or I'm gonna seem like a selfish jerk or something >.<

 

[astoria]

I’m changing the title of the thread then. I’m not offended about people posting about tips, I just wanted to see if anyone else felt pressure to tip. And I mostly mean on discord in the chat where it’s like “no fee island visits” every text there has something that says “tips appreciated” or talking about tips before they post their code or say to DM them for the code to visit their island

 

[Luxen]

Not at all. It's just a simple reminder that it's entirely optional to tip and it shouldn't even negatively impact you in the first place. The last time I opened my gates on here I had visitors who tipped and others who didn't, yet I still thanked them all the same for taking the time to stop by. I wasn't expecting to receive anything in return back then.

I would much rather have someone mention "tips appreciated" in their thread than going to an island blindly and possibly upsetting someone on the off chance that they just don't want to accept any tips at all (which may or may not go both ways, if you happen to be someone who personalizes tips for each visit).

 

[mirukushake]

I pretty much always write tips appreciated because people generally tip but there are some people who don't want anything when they host. So I write it so people know I'm okay with them, and it's also okay not to leave anything. I guess since I literally always tip (unless stated otherwise), I don't feel pressured because I was going to do it anyway?

 

[Santana]

No one is holding a gun to their head and forcing them to leave a tips. Regardless of whether anyone leaves a tip, I promise I will treat them with the respect they deserve

 

[Mary]

You changing the title makes our posts look off-topic.

 

[Cnydaquil]

sometimes if i need nmt i kindly say if your decide to tip nmt only please! i only do this when im desparate and need nmt for a villager hunt!