I'm posting this here because no one here knows me IRL, and other boards that I am a member of will do nothing but mock me and be ***holes about the whole thing. TBT peeps seem to be more gentle about things.
First, a little set up. I'm a 34 year old male, engaged to the love of my life. I live in the US, she is currently in England at university for her master's degree. Before she left, we had a conversation and decided that while she was away, we would be in an open relationship. We set down very few rules, the main one was that we always tell the other when something happens. Another one was nothing romantic, just NSA sex. When she was home for the holidays, we decided to keep the openness going.
The current problem:
The GF of one of the other guys she has had sex with messaged me on Facebook tonight just to talk (I'm still not sure how the friendship from them came about, don't ask). I mentioned something that I though she would know, since they are in an open relationship too. Turns out she didn't. She ten mentioned to me that my finacee had mentioned something to her BF about having broken all of our rules in one night. She apparently went on a romantic date with someone, and then spent the night with him. I just found this out less than an hour ago, and it is still processing. I don't know what to think or do.
Other issues:
The openness was initially my idea, but I really have no game. I really don't know if I will be able to take advantage of being able to have sex with someone else while she's gone. She has taken advantage of it several times since she left.
First, a little set up. I'm a 34 year old male, engaged to the love of my life. I live in the US, she is currently in England at university for her master's degree. Before she left, we had a conversation and decided that while she was away, we would be in an open relationship. We set down very few rules, the main one was that we always tell the other when something happens. Another one was nothing romantic, just NSA sex. When she was home for the holidays, we decided to keep the openness going.
The current problem:
The GF of one of the other guys she has had sex with messaged me on Facebook tonight just to talk (I'm still not sure how the friendship from them came about, don't ask). I mentioned something that I though she would know, since they are in an open relationship too. Turns out she didn't. She ten mentioned to me that my finacee had mentioned something to her BF about having broken all of our rules in one night. She apparently went on a romantic date with someone, and then spent the night with him. I just found this out less than an hour ago, and it is still processing. I don't know what to think or do.
Other issues:
The openness was initially my idea, but I really have no game. I really don't know if I will be able to take advantage of being able to have sex with someone else while she's gone. She has taken advantage of it several times since she left.