The internet is wierd

[Watchingthetreetops]

I have these urges to search for people I haven't seen in years all of a sudden and it's really bad for me. I'm fighting the urge as best as I can, so I came here. Everyone here has always been so nice to me. Have you ever wanted to search someone that you haven't seen in a long time? When did you stop, and why?

Help me not search the people I used to know. Distract me, bell tree people.

 

[Ookami]

A giant friendly mushroom!

 

[visibleghost]

yeah i have. lol idk what it is for you, but for me the people always were people who hurt me, my abusers, or people i obsessively hated (basically all were really bad for me to look up), and it was really hard for me to stop looking them up. when i think of them now i just try to think about something else.

some stuff i did to stop myself was to delete my internet history so i had to write the url in every time i had an urge to look them up, which might sound a bit "meh" but it took more effort to look them up and gave me more time to think about it and change my mind.
distract myself by doing other stuff.
also everything i had that reminded me of them i just got rid off. that sounds a bit dramatic, but i stopped being on the same forums as those people, i avoided songs that reminded me of them etc. not super easy but yeah. also trying to make things i associate with them not be associated with them anymore, which can be hard but uhhh yyeah h..

so now i don't think about any of them too much and i haven't looked any of them up in a long time, which is way healthier for me. idk if this was a bit extreme but Hey Whatever.


but for the moment jsut distract yourself with something. the urge will hopefully go away soon.

 

[piichinu]

u spelled weird wrong

 

[ams]

I usually just do it and honestly I usually feel pretty good about my own life after I've seen what they're up to.

 

[guardgirl]

ive been friends with a lot of toxic people that made me feel awful for putting myself first sometimes, and i eventually learned that its okay to cut people like that out of your life completely, but whenever i did, id feel this intense guilt for leaving them alone even though staying with them was ultimately hurting me. its still a really messy situation. so once i finally gathered up the courage to let them go, id constantly be checking their social media to make sure they were still okay. one of these people was my very best friend. we swore up and down we would leave our homes and get an apartment together after we finished school, but life got in the way. she grew to be really toxic and i couldnt keep holding her hand through everything because i have my own life to deal with. ive recently started to stop checking on them because it was hurting me to do it, and they have to learn to fight their battles alone. its hard, for sure, but going through with it just isnt worth it.

 

[Hopeless Opus]

i have had urges to make up with a few people but those connections have completely died now and i feel nothing more toward them.

as for looking people up i do that sometimes when i'm REALLY bored. then i remember why i hated the person so much lol

 

[Stalfos]

u spelled weird wrong

Maybe they spelled wired wrong?

 

[SilkSpectre]

Look to the future, don't dwell in the past.

 

[vel]

i usually don't fight my urges, i want to see how they look rn to know if they look as hot as i do after i dropped their dead-weight butts.

 

[piichinu]

Maybe they spelled wired wrong?

The internet is lit XD

 

[Watchingthetreetops]

Well, fighting the urge was successful. It's mainly exes and people who hurt me quite a bit that I'm tempted to look up. It's no use, and only makes me feel guilty. It's really hard for me to come to terms with forgiveness, and guilt. But It gets better with time.

So, threat successful. I think we can all agree, though, that my spelling was /not/ successful. xD

Weird. that's how you spell that.

 

[visibleghost]

Well, fighting the urge was successful. It's mainly exes and people who hurt me quite a bit that I'm tempted to look up. It's no use, and only makes me feel guilty. It's really hard for me to come to terms with forgiveness, and guilt. But It gets better with time.

So, threat successful. I think we can all agree, though, that my spelling was /not/ successful. xD

Weird. that's how you spell that.

good job on fighting the urge !!