Online dating

[Born2BWild]

I am 28 years old, and never been with anyone in my life barring a couple of high school girlfriends, so I'm honestly thinking about trying online dating (a free site, as I'm too broke and/or cheap to pay for anything). The only problem is, I'm a little apprehensive, and quite nervous. After all, I've never thought of myself as a very attractive person, so I'm leery about putting my picture on the internet. I don't think I'm all that interesting as a person either.

On the other hand, I'm not going to meet anyone in this small town who isn't already married or the slightest bit interested in me. I'm extremely shy, and don't really know how to approach girls to ask for dates, as I've never done it before in my life. To top it off, I'm very lonely, and would like a significant other to possibly spend the rest of my life with.

Anyone have any thoughts? Should I just bite the bullet and try it, or is it a total waste of my time?

 

[Justin]

Try TBT.

Okay this sounds like a joke post, and it mostly is, but you would be surprised how many relationships I have seen come out of this forum.

But really for real, go for it? It can't possibly hurt you. Just broadening your opportunities.

 

[Lady Timpani]

I know a couple people who have had success using online dating. I don't see how it could hurt.

 

[Eldin]

Like others have said, it can't hurt! Normally I'd say try to get out and meet people at functions and such concerning your interests, but if you're shy and would find it easier meeting people online, go for it! No harm in trying it out anyways. c:

 

[MisterEnigma]

I don't think you'll have any worse of a time dating online then in real life. People always say that people can lie and fake their lives and identification online, but I've come across far more liars in person than I have on this forum and otherwise, surprisingly. Just go for it and open up. Good luck!

 

[Princess]

Try TBT.

Okay this sounds like a joke post, and it mostly is, but you would be surprised how many relationships I have seen come out of this forum.

But really for real, go for it? It can't possibly hurt you. Just broadening your opportunities.

Two people who met on this site, even got married this past year
Love can found anywhere, so don't limit yourself! (unless it's illegal then limit yourself)

 

[Radda]

Uhm I would meet someone in real life,(paranoid because of ID channel)

 

[EmmaFrost]

I met my boyfriend on Twitter and we've been together years now. I say give the online thing a go. Don't try too hard. Don't expect anything. Just be yourself, but at the same time, don't go into it writing how you think you're uninteresting etc on your profile, you know? People respond well to confidence.

 

[Saylor]

It couldn't hurt to at least give it a try. I know tons of people who've been in successful relationships with people they've met online, and I originally started talking to my first relationship online after meeting through a mutual friend, so I definitely think you should go for it. Good luck!

 

[Mango]

DONT
DATE
YOUR FRIENDS
WORST IDEA ITLL RUIN IT ALL

 

[EndlessElements]

I don't think you'll have any worse of a time dating online then in real life. People always say that people can lie and fake their lives and identification online, but I've come across far more liars in person than I have on this forum and otherwise, surprisingly. Just go for it and open up. Good luck!

pretty much sums up what i was going to say.

i do want to add to be careful, but that's a given with anything.

 

[Shimmer]

I'd try it!

I'd try on forums rather than dating sites though. To me, it seems a tad safer. ^^; After all, I met my boyfriend on a MLP forum.

 

[EndlessElements]

I'd try it!

I'd try on forums rather than dating sites though. To me, it seems a tad safer. ^^; After all, I met my boyfriend on a MLP forum.

yeah, that isn't a bad idea at all. at least on a forum you have time to befriend the person and get to know them more, finding out if there's more there or not before jumping into the whole dating aspect.

 

[Feloreena]

You've got nothing to lose by giving it a try. If you don't like it you can always deactivate your account, so you might as well try out a free site/app. All of my past relationships have started online (met them through games or through online friends) so it's definitely a way to meet people with generally more similar interests to you. Just take the necessary precautions and it shouldn't be a bad way to date. Good luck in finding your special someone.

 

[Jake]

maybe you should try it with a hot boy instead like idk maybe me??

 

[Born2BWild]

Thank you guys for the positive feedback. I'm going to at least try making a profile on a free site, and see how it goes. If nothing comes of it, nothing comes of it.

maybe you should try it with a hot boy instead like idk maybe me??

Sorry buddy, but I don't swing that way.

 

[Jake]

Sorry buddy, but I don't swing that way.

you will never know unless you try m9

 

[Nuclear Bingo]

Lol be brave man. women love it when a man is secure in his own masculinity. Embrace yourself, don't take things seriously, and go for it! that's my advice

 

[Tao]

I don't see the harm in dating websites. You can't really rely on 99% of the free ones though. There's only 2 free ones that I use/used properly and only one of them has gotten more than just speaking online (though it didn't last long).

I personally don't see the difference between meeting girls online and meeting girls in a bar under the influence of alcohol. In fact, I would prefer to meet girls anywhere other than a night out, and online means you've likely already found a mutual interest if you meet on a forum or in a game simply by being on that website.

In fact, I met up with 2 girls I met online when I was 16 who I had been talking to for a few months (in a friendly way, not sexual) and we've ended up being pretty close friends for the past 7 years as well as having a relationship with one of them at a certain time.

I guess the only thing I can say is 'be careful' though since it's hard to really judge somebody online entirely if you haven't met them in person. They aren't necessarily lying to you, just that they could act like a very different person when you meet them in person.
From my experience, the only people I've met with have only been 'wrong for me' just because of the way they act etc. in person that I couldn't really know about via messaging.



But really, if you want to do it, go for it! The only thing I would say is that you need to learn to message them first (if you already wouldn't). Aside from girls getting tons of messages from other guys trying to sex them (which might mean your messages are lost in the bulk), a lot of people are very hesitant about sending the first message, so it's best to suck it up and become the guy who messages first!

 

[KiloPatches]

Steven, I strongly discourage it. Forum dating and online dating. I have seen both go horribly wrong. You're my friend, and I want something more fulfilling for you. You deserve better than heartbreak and long distance relationships that keep you wondering if theres something there.