Oh yeah, I should also mention that you probably should check which dateable characters appeal to you more. You don't need to date in either game, but it's a great and probably THE most fun part of both games. I personally like the boys in RF4 more than the girls and in HM:ANB it's the other way round. Note that you can somewhat genderswitch; HM:ANB lets you crossdress (you will unlock the same haircuts and clothes for both genders) while RF4 lets you switch your character sprite to every other in the game after you finished the second part of the plot, so you can switch to the sprite of the protagonist-gender you didn't choose. So basically all marriage-characters are available and you can still have your character the gender you want it to be, even if it's only seemingly so.