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This is random but I've been thinking about it a lot lately and I have to get it off my chest. Sorry if this is silly or annoys anyone! /cries

There was actually a girl on this site whom I was very close to at some point around 2014-2015ish. The last time I spoke with her was right before Christmas in 2015. It was complicated keeping in contact bc we both stopped frequenting this site and I know that she had a lot of struggles in real life but considering I have a lot of difficulties with friendships, it's just so sad to have it end without a single word. I can't even write to her or anything bc she closed everything off.

She sent me and my girlfriend all of her collectibles so I don't think she was simply trying to break away from our friendship...but she just disappeared from the site without a word. I can't help but wonder if I might have upset her somehow, or if something happened that I was ignorantly not privy to. I do wish I was a better friend to be at least a little aware of her circumstances.

I was wrapped up in my own issues that we fell apart but I do think about her a lot. Not in a creepy obsessive way but more like...Man, I really miss that connection we had. She was like a pen pal I looked forward to hearing from.

I dunno if she'll ever see this but I miss you Jean. ♥ Thank you for the friendship you gave me when I needed it most.

SORRY FOR THE MUSHYNESS AND IF THIS DOESN'T GO HERE GUYS. SOBS.
 
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awwh this brings back the feels `n`
friendships and relationships in general over the internet can be so fleeting, because it's not like you can drive over to their place and ask to talk. if someone chooses to cut ties with you, they can do so with a few clicks of a button and there's not much you can do about it :c

i've had lots of both irl and virtual friendships end over the years, and for different reasons. most of my irl friendships end because i'm just a bad communicator, and i take up to 2 weeks to reply to a text sometimes lol. but a lot of the time my online friendships end due to a change in personality that leads to clashing with the person or group of people. it's life, and there's still a ton of people to be met and friendships to be made!
 
awwh this brings back the feels `n`
friendships and relationships in general over the internet can be so fleeting, because it's not like you can drive over to their place and ask to talk. if someone chooses to cut ties with you, they can do so with a few clicks of a button and there's not much you can do about it :c

i've had lots of both irl and virtual friendships end over the years, and for different reasons. most of my irl friendships end because i'm just a bad communicator, and i take up to 2 weeks to reply to a text sometimes lol. but a lot of the time my online friendships end due to a change in personality that leads to clashing with the person or group of people. it's life, and there's still a ton of people to be met and friendships to be made!

Yeah it's kind of why I distanced myself even further from the site for a long while. It just made me sad to think there wouldn't be a PM waiting for me like before.

And it's so true. Unfortunately bc I'm so introverted irl, online friendships are about all I can safely have without having too big of a break down if things get overwhelming. It's not like I'd stalk her or anything, I respected her wishes but I do still miss her greatly!

I understand all too well about the bad communication thing, I sometimes find myself having difficulties responding even to my texts from close family bc it's taxing on me for some reason or I'm easily forgetful, etcetc. Thank you for the nice encouraging words though! ;__; I look forward to any friendships that may come my way haha. I'll always cherish each and everyone of them, regardless of how they might end.
 
Aww this post made me really sad :c im so sorry you lost your friend!
I hope that some how she sees this post. maybe one day she will come on tbt to look at your account? and perhaps see this thread you never know, that would be pretty cool.

I don't think i've ever had a friendship end that way?
My bestfriend from middle school started to make new friends and ignore me, then the next one was just a bad person who I don't talk to anymore (this was kinda recent) , and if she did talk to me I would probably just ignore her anyway! currently don't have a bff :c
 
Aww this post made me really sad :c im so sorry you lost your friend!
I hope that some how she sees this post. maybe one day she will come on tbt to look at your account? and perhaps see this thread you never know, that would be pretty cool.

I don't think i've ever had a friendship end that way?
My bestfriend from middle school started to make new friends and ignore me, then the next one was just a bad person who I don't talk to anymore (this was kinda recent) , and if she did talk to me I would probably just ignore her anyway! currently don't have a bff :c

oegkrjhi Aaaa I'm so sorry for making you said. She was such a sweet person and I can only hope everything is alright on her end.
That'd be pretty sweet, if ever the chance, I'd love to be reacquainted again!

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. The feeling of replacement is terrible and stings a lot. I'm so sorry for your bad run-in with friendships but I'm sure we'll both one day find some that are meaningful and that lasts! ; v ;
 
I'm really sorry you lost your friend! Having a friendship end is terrible. :(

My most recent best friend (and probably the closest I had) who I had for a little over two years suddenly stopped talking to me halfway through ninth grade. We literally went from super close to not close at all in less than a day. She just abruptly replaced me with someone else one day and started acting as if we never met and she never really said anything about it. My real life friendships always end no matter what I do, probably because I'm just really shy and don't have a lot of interests in common with anyone, so I'm used to it at this point, but this one hurt a lot worse than the other ones.
 
My friendship of nearly 7 years has recently abruptly ended. We were super close for ages, and then this year she started changing so much. She started becoming a bit obsessed with her looks, became very manipulative and some of that was due to mental illnesses. I was willing to support her for a while there, until she kinda just kept me in the dark about things and wouldn't tell me anything. It made it so difficult to continue talking to her since we had nothing in common anymore and everything was so superficial. We were talking once every few days or so for a long time, until both of us completely stopped talking to each other a few weeks ago.

For me it wasn't a sad experience like most people here, because it was more of a weight off my shoulders and there was a lot of toxicity in this friendship. It isn't even sad to look back at old photos of us together and all the memories we've shared because when I look back I see a different person in the photo. Sorry guys went a bit deep there...

I lost all my middle school friends in 7th grade because they all found new, better friends. I've lost quite a few online friends over the years because we've all gone our own ways, and that's a little bit sad looking back on because we used to talk so much!

I hope ya'll find some fabulous friends <3
 
Sorry to you and all others who have lost a friend x

This has just happened to me recently. My best friend and I lived just a couple streets apart so we hung out very often. Ive know her since I was 5. About a month ago I moved in with my boyfriend and we live across town from where I did before, so Im not so close to my friend anymore.

Its like the day I moved out a switch turned off. Ive made every effort to drive over to see her and hang out but she either cancels last minute or doesnt even reply back to me. She doesnt drive so its not like she can just up and come here either. Ive offered to pick her up and show her my new place but no dice. We went from talking all day everyday to barely at all. And I havent seen her for over a month now.

I dont even know why me moving had anything to do with our friendship crumbling, but she doesnt make an effort with me anymore.

Ive talked to her about us disconnecting lately and why its happened and she never has a clear response for me. Just "we'll hang out soon" ..but we never do.

Its super heartbreaking...
 
I only have one really close friend, and I'm okay with that because it means I can avoid situations like this. Me and my best friend talk every single day, and will probably date when we eventually get to meet in real life.
 
yeah a close friend moved back to hong kong in 2012 and because we couldnt meet face to face and bc of the time difference we kinda just stopped talking. we follow each other on instagram tho but we havent actually talked since she moved
 
I had an extremely close friend that I met at a guitar class when I was a junior in high school. She got me a job where she worked and we'd go do dinner at IHOP super late at night. She'd also write letters to me and send me packages while I was at boot camp. I still have the dragon charm she sent me with my dog togs. Unfortunately I guess she got tired of me and disappeared without even saying goodbye. I doubt she'll read this but if she does, I miss you Angela. I really do.
 
I ditched my group of friends as soon as we finished school because they were crap
 
I've had a lot of IRL and Internet friendships end abruptly.. It's really sad, especially for close internet friends since you can never know what happened to them and it's incredibly hard to even TRY to find out.
For IRL friends, I used to have a ton of them, then we just stopped talking and now I only have 2. Even these two, we don't really talk, but once we meet in person, we pick up where things left off.
I wish internet friends were also like this-- Where you can just pick off where you left things, but there'll always be that awkward stage where you have no idea what to say ; ;
I hope this doesn't happen again to any of you online! I'm not an easy person to talk to both online and in person, but I do try, so if any of you need someone to talk to, I'll try my best! :)
 
I'm sorry for the loss of your friendship. Especially since I'm an introvert too, so I know how much it is a struggle to reach out and make a good and close friend... only to loose it.

I think it's an issue inherent problem with this digital age and social sites/apps. It's so easy to get caught up with one's life, or loose interest in a particular site (for one reason or another), and not log onto it for a while. Or forever. And while I do realise that the individual that leaves doesn't intend for any ill will, for those left behind, it feels like mourning for a friend while not knowing the answers. Personally, every time it happens it makes me want to withdraw from the world and not socialise, while at the same time making me wish I had a friend to talk to.

You do your best to move on and wish the best for their life, but at the same time, memories of that friendship can be painful.
 
This is random but I've been thinking about it a lot lately and I have to get it off my chest. Sorry if this is silly or annoys anyone! /cries

There was actually a girl on this site whom I was very close to at some point around 2014-2015ish. The last time I spoke with her was right before Christmas in 2015. It was complicated keeping in contact bc we both stopped frequenting this site and I know that she had a lot of struggles in real life but considering I have a lot of difficulties with friendships, it's just so sad to have it end without a single word. I can't even write to her or anything bc she closed everything off.

She sent me and my girlfriend all of her collectibles so I don't think she was simply trying to break away from our friendship...but she just disappeared from the site without a word. I can't help but wonder if I might have upset her somehow, or if something happened that I was ignorantly not privy to. I do wish I was a better friend to be at least a little aware of her circumstances.

I was wrapped up in my own issues that we fell apart but I do think about her a lot. Not in a creepy obsessive way but more like...Man, I really miss that connection we had. She was like a pen pal I looked forward to hearing from.

I dunno if she'll ever see this but I miss you Jean. ♥ Thank you for the friendship you gave me when I needed it most.

SORRY FOR THE MUSHYNESS AND IF THIS DOESN'T GO HERE GUYS. SOBS.

Wow, I'm so sorry ;n;
I hope you reconnect somehow!
I dropped off a friendship suddenly multiple times. 1st was all my friends from the first state I lived in when I moved. We actually kept in contact for about 2 years, and then suddenly stopped. I tried to call recently, but they must have gotten new phones, or thought I was spam or something.
Another time, I had a friend in 5th grade, who came over about every weekend, and we were still pretty tight in 6th grade. But, after that year, we just literally stopped saying hi, or even making eye contact to each other, as we had completely different classes. We eventually went to different high schools, and dropped off completely, but then I saw him at a football game in freshmen year, as our schools were playing against each other. We kinda did one of those "make-eye-contact-and-nod" things, but that was it.
 
Yes I have, but it's usually me breaking it off if the other person is toxic.
 
i'm pretty bad at maintaining friendships, honestly.
 
Nope. never, honestly. I can't remember ending my friendship with anyone, except for one person. But that wasn't abrupt
 
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