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i was thinking a lot about one of my "friendships" earlier today and it's been pestering my mind ever since, so i decided to make a thread about it and see what your thoughts on this are. i'm aware of how dumb this is, but i'm still confused on what the best action with the least consequences to take is. please, go ahead and be genuine with me, i won't get offended.
we're basically both using each other, and i'm pretty sure we both know it.
a couple things i probably should've clarified/been more specific about:
- i'm aware that i don't need weed to have fun, what i meant was that despite the underlying fakeness, it's fun when we hang out, with or without the weed.
- it isn't the whole group who is listening to us. our main best friend group is made out of 5 people including myself. it's me, the girl who was left out, and one other girl complaining to each other and the other girl (let's call her "a" to avoid confusion), who then talks about the ****ty friend to us, and vice versa. a talks **** about both sides with both sides. she says that she doesn't want to take sides. a is close with the ****ty friend, and close with one of the other girls, who i am closest to.
i think after reading everyone's comments i've now made up my mind that i want to end this, but i'm still kind of afraid of tearing genuine friends apart.
it's really easy to buy weed at the high school i'm in, as long as you've got a lot of money and you know someone (there are looottssss of people at our school), you've got weed. i live in washington state where it's legalized, so possessing it isn't that special/difficult haha. an example of one of the times she exaggerated was when she claimed that she forgot how to use the stairs, after smoking a little bit. i don't think marijuana does that to people, especially only a little bit to someone with a heavy tolerance lol. forgive me if i'm wrong. another thing she does is speak in a painfully exaggerated "high" voice when around the well known stoners of our school, but then she either forgets at some point and just completely drops it and resumes, or she just drops it when they've left.
please also avoid commenting if your goal is a debate, i'd like this to stay a discussion
we're basically both using each other, and i'm pretty sure we both know it.
our friendship started off pretty normally, before it spiraled into this abyss of toxicity that we're in now. i had just moved to the high school that i'm at now, and i didn't know anyone. i met her through a couple of people i connected with who happened to be in the same friend group, and we grew closer because i realized she was in one of my classes so i sat next to her one day and we instantly connected. at the time, in that circle of friends, she was the one i was closest to. she was hilarious, and i genuinely thought that she was the greatest. god, was i wrong. i soon started to see how much of a snake she was. she started leaving out one of my friends whenever we would plan group hangouts (only because that friend was less popular), she started only being nice to that friend when she needed her for money, she never paid any of us back whenever she owed us money, she started acting out and exaggerating whenever we'd drink or smoke weed, and at one point i caught her literally stealing money from my wallet while i was in the bathroom and she tried to play it off like she was just kidding. my other friends and i started complaining about everything she was doing to each other, but then smiling to her face and acting like everything was fine in front of her eventually we just got tired of her bull and tried confronting her about it. although it didn't really work out, because not everyone got to voice their opinions (myself included). so the fakeness continued and worsened. it got to the point where we both knew we were talking **** about each other to our friends, but still acted fine to each other's faces. that's how it still is now, and to be honest, the only reason i still put up with it is that i get free weed from her. i'm pretty sure the only reason she puts up with me is that i take her pipe home with me every time because her parents check her bag. i don't know what to do about this "friendship." i don't know if this is right or wrong, because we're both using each other. i don''t know if i should try and end this or not. part of me knows that this is causing nothing but negativity in my life, but at the same time that other ****ty part of me still wants the free weed and fun times. i don't know how i'd end this either. there's also a possibility i'd split our friend group up. what are your honest thoughts on this? feel free to ask any questions. you also don't have to comment advice on my specific story, i'd like to hear some of your opinions/stories on these topics.(also, yes, after much thought i'm aware that this is a terribly cringy angsty teenage type thing, and i'm not proud of that or some things that i've done, but it's happened and there's unfortunately nothing i can do to change that fact )
you're making good points. i am being too faced. i suppose i am being pretty dumb as well.Well, first thing, I think it's dumb that you're staying in this "friendship" so that you get free weed. She's treated one of your friends like crap because of the whole popularity BS. She's stolen money from you guys repeatedly. Why are you taking this abuse?
Tell me how it didn't work out when you tried to confront her the first time? Then when it didn't go according to plan and you're all just like, "Welp, lets sweep this under the rug!"
Do you really need weed to have fun? You can honestly have fun without weed and booze. It's not the end of the world. Honestly, that reason alone, "I need weed to have fun" or "I need weed because it's fun" is such a BS answer. Really? Are you kidding me?
Your priority is free weed thus you stick with this crappy person. Nice.
Clearly, if you hated this negativity, you'd leave. You would remind yourself, that you hate this. She doesn't respect you or the others. I don't know, maybe you like talking **** behind each other's backs. Maybe this is just normal to you.
This is a terrible group of people by the way. Those pals of yours are listening to that girl’s badmouthing session about you, just as you are doing to her. If they are taking your side, then they are just as well doing the same for that girl. Everyone is two faced in this group. Including you.
You know how to get out of this. You leave. Who cares about losing friends in this process? A few might follow you and you can actually have a genuine friendship with others than this fake idiotic crap.
a couple things i probably should've clarified/been more specific about:
- i'm aware that i don't need weed to have fun, what i meant was that despite the underlying fakeness, it's fun when we hang out, with or without the weed.
- it isn't the whole group who is listening to us. our main best friend group is made out of 5 people including myself. it's me, the girl who was left out, and one other girl complaining to each other and the other girl (let's call her "a" to avoid confusion), who then talks about the ****ty friend to us, and vice versa. a talks **** about both sides with both sides. she says that she doesn't want to take sides. a is close with the ****ty friend, and close with one of the other girls, who i am closest to.
i think after reading everyone's comments i've now made up my mind that i want to end this, but i'm still kind of afraid of tearing genuine friends apart.
Don't know how much of this story I can actually believe considering this girl overexaggerates when you smoke, but then owns the pipe and all the weed herself, but being completely blunt with you, I promise you can find free weed from other people
Find you friends who will pack you a nice bowl and happily share it with everyone
it's really easy to buy weed at the high school i'm in, as long as you've got a lot of money and you know someone (there are looottssss of people at our school), you've got weed. i live in washington state where it's legalized, so possessing it isn't that special/difficult haha. an example of one of the times she exaggerated was when she claimed that she forgot how to use the stairs, after smoking a little bit. i don't think marijuana does that to people, especially only a little bit to someone with a heavy tolerance lol. forgive me if i'm wrong. another thing she does is speak in a painfully exaggerated "high" voice when around the well known stoners of our school, but then she either forgets at some point and just completely drops it and resumes, or she just drops it when they've left.
please also avoid commenting if your goal is a debate, i'd like this to stay a discussion
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