Anxiety/Depression problems

Jarrad said:

I'm the same age as you. Are you in college/school? If you're not then you have to understand that everybody's busy doing their own thing. Most of my friends have gone off to University (as I'm a uni drop out, I'm back at home).

Besides, most of the people you know around the age of 19 are only temporary. You'll meet a lot more people later in your life, so just have that to look forwards to.

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I don't think there's any age at all where you "find your true friends"

I haven't maintained friendship with anybody from education, employment or anything 'forced' like that, with friendships very quickly dissolving after leaving each thing. You 'have to' be friends with people in these situations rather than 'choosing' to be friends with people and letting a friendship develop naturally. You're 'friends' with them because it's convenient since you're going to be stuck with them for the foreseeable future.
It's not how I think about it at the time but when I look back at old friends from these places, it's not hard for me to see that we just wouldn't have been friends outside of 'the place'.


On the other hand I have been friends with my 2 best friends for 8 and 5 years, and I met neither of them whilst in education or work.

I'm 1000% sure this is fake.

I think looking at this pic might help slightly.

Dude, if your friends aren't talking to you on purpose, it's easy to say they're not your friends at all. I can't tell you to ignore your depression because people just don't simply do that, but remember that eventually, life's gonna get better.

Jarrad said:

I'm the same age as you. Are you in college/school? If you're not then you have to understand that everybody's busy doing their own thing. Most of my friends have gone off to University (as I'm a uni drop out, I'm back at home).

Besides, most of the people you know around the age of 19 are only temporary. You'll meet a lot more people later in your life, so just have that to look forwards to.

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uni has finished in australia so they are all free and they are just being mean and ignoring me

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Allison said:

I'm 1000% sure this is fake.

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i've heard this so many times and it's people not believing me that has driven me down this path. i didn't expect to recieve such a rude comment when i was simply asking for help.

love you <3

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Allison said:

I'm 1000% sure this is fake.

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i'd really love to get your opinion on why you think adding more doubt and negativity to someone's life when they are clearly having a shxtty time atm was needed. please, tell all. because honestly, i'm just really curious as to what made you think that it was a good/sensible idea to post a reply like this.

I can't believe someone had the gall to call this fake. Don't listen to them. People like that are either trolls, or have never had to experience any sort of similar (or worse) hardship in their lives. Because if they have, they never would have said something so ignorant.

Also, we're human. On principal, we're fragile; alone, we have moments of weakness. That's why people seek out friends, and move in groups, and there's nothing wrong with wanting to hear from the people we've surrounded ourselves with.
And sometimes, as Murray said, those people mean a lot to us.
Sometimes, those people are more of family than our biological families. It's hardly 'dumb' to feel sad about not hearing from them.

Like others have said, maybe your friends are just busy. How active were they during the school year? Is this normal activity for them? If were you were attending a boarding college and it just let out, perhaps they're still settling back in and getting used to life outside uni.
Are they all friends you made at college? It's tough staying in contact with friends you make there sometimes.

It's okay to feel sad about not getting any responses, and perfectly normal, in fact. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, so it's on their end. Also, depression is something common which effects thousands of people, so you're not alone.
There are a lot of nice people here who are willing to help; I think that sort of thing is awesome. Right here is a community where (most) people are helpful and supportive. Folks have responded to your post (yea, a couple weren't exactly kind about it, but the majority were helpful), and you might even make and find some new friends who are a lot more active.

Welp in the end,its up to you to solve your problems.Good luck.

There are tons of people here on TBT that love you, Jake, and I know many of them are open for you to talk to. I know they aren't IRL friends, but people here still care about you. I see it almost every time you post.

I know you're feeling down, but finding something fun to do like video games can take your mind off things for a while. I really hope your friends come around and aren't ignoring you because I know how crappy that makes people feel. Just ignore the rude comments you may get and focus on the people here that are trying to help and are giving good advice.

I really hope you feel better

ShinyYoshi said:

There are tons of people here on TBT that love you, Jake, and I know many of them are open for you to talk to. I know they aren't IRL friends, but people here still care about you. I see it almost every time you post.

I know you're feeling down, but finding something fun to do like video games can take your mind off things for a while. I really hope your friends come around and aren't ignoring you because I know how crappy that makes people feel. Just ignore the rude comments you may get and focus on the people here that are trying to help and are giving good advice.

I really hope you feel better

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no one on tbt talks to me either i pm them all the time and i barely get any replies

Bump.

I've been depressed since last year when my parents split up and things got violent and we lost our house on my birthday and i started letting everything out on everyone and i lost a lot of friends bc of it
getting all paralysed and crap didn't help... i was diagnosed with anxiety and depression in the hospital and they offered counselling but I'm too secretive plus i was really rude to my counsellor.

tbf i dont deal with it but i look forward to things i suppose like "im gonna get a bf/gf!!!" "im going to recover!!" "a games coming out soon that i rly want!!" like idk maybe it's a stupid method but it's hope sort of even the lil things

im introverted but i like socialising with small groups of friends (a lot of introverts do) and that helps

but tbf I don't talk about it a lot and i sort of cope I suppose and I'm terrible at advice

biker said:

Sorry to be hard on you but seriously? Did you even read what you said? You're saying you want to stop living because your friend doesn't reply you on facebook? Look, I know young people have this kind of problems, but really... Sometimes it's hard to read dramas like this. And no, don't think I'm trying to offend you or putting you down, on the contrary, I'm just trying to make you see how dumb is what you're putting in your mind and what you want to believe.
The world is bigger than you think, open your mind to it and don't focus yourself in these small nonsense things, you're better than that.

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how dumb is it that someone wants to socialise about their problems? I know little to nothing about Jake but I'm sure that his only problem in his life is the fact that he didn't get a response on Facebook, I'm sure it's more than that... I'm sure a doctor wouldn't prescribe him medication if he was only 'depressed' about that.

Jake. said:

no one on tbt talks to me either i pm them all the time and i barely get any replies

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You're welcome to PM me any time if you want. I am a bit older than you are, but I honestly don't think age matters with friendship or having people to talk to.

I'll try to respond as soon as possible; I'm not always the best with putting ideas into words, and I'm currently in the process of recovering from a traumatic experience (so sometimes, I might not be able to get online)...but whether it's here or on DeviantArt, I always extend a hand for people to grasp if they need to talk about something.
Point is, I might not be able to respond right away, but I'll respond as soon as I can if you ever need to talk.

Either way, just take things one small step at a time. Even if it's a small step, it's still a step. If you feel like you've hit bottom, then the only direction to go is up. The climb out isn't going to be easy, and isn't going to be immediate, but you can get through it.

Jake. said:

no one on tbt talks to me either i pm them all the time and i barely get any replies

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Wow, RIP me then. T.T

But really I've said this again and again and again and again, but Jakey you're fabulous! I love talking to you and you're not an insignificant online friend either. Always around for you.

This is gonna sound really weird... But I think I might have a bit of anxiety in the form of a habit burp. Sorry if it is gross, but what happened to me was that I got really worried about all sorts of things that have happened to me over the last year...

I thought I had diabetes last December.
I thought I had lung cancer in May this year as I had a cough that wouldn't go away for 5 weeks... I know, horrible...
I got nipped on the leg by a dog this April and thought I would need a vaccination.
I thought that I had stomach or throat cancer when I had this burp for more than two months.

Now I completely respect that there are people that ACTUALLY have these things and I feel for them, but in honestly, I think that I have REALLY worked myself up over the last year...

Does anyone know any way I can stop this burp? I know it is habitual now as I had a stool test (sorry it's gross) at my doctors and the results came back negative for anything. Just like my blood test came back last December negative for diabetes.

Don't worry, you're not alone. Even though I have some very real and often disabling diagnosed medical conditions, I have anxiety about things that haven't happened and probably will not happen. I have been heavyset since I was very young and doctors have been telling me over and over again that I am at risk for a heart attack, stroke, blood clot, or diabetes, and guess what I've been worried about since? Those things. Every time I have a really severe headache, I get scared, and start to panic, because I'm convinced that "this is it, I'm having a stroke, and won't wake up in the morning".

Jake. said:

no one on tbt talks to me either i pm them all the time and i barely get any replies

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I know I've never talked to you before, but if you ever need someone to talk to, whether it be a casual talk or you need help, I'm always just a PM away. Honestly, don't think that just because we've never talked before, I wouldn't listen.

Maku said:

love you <3

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i'd really love to get your opinion on why you think adding more doubt and negativity to someone's life when they are clearly having a shxtty time atm was needed. please, tell all. because honestly, i'm just really curious as to what made you think that it was a good/sensible idea to post a reply like this.

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To my knowledge, Jake has a history of getting banned on here for misconduct. Posting a troll thread doesn't seem to be above him (the "my friends haven't talked to me for 12 hours!!!" thing gives it away).

Allison said:

To my knowledge, Jake has a history of getting banned on here for misconduct. Posting a troll thread doesn't seem to be above him (the "my friends haven't talked to me for 12 hours!!!" thing gives it away).

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I'm inclined to agree with you.
Not only that, but his mocking of people who make legit suicidal posts is gross.

Illyana said:

I'm inclined to agree with you.
Not only that, but his mocking of people who make legit suicidal posts is gross.

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What the ****..

He really did that?