KiloPatches
Senior Member
Hey, I brought this up in the "What's bothering you" thread, because this is REALLY bugging me so I thought I would start a dialogue about it.
So I am in university. I am a TA (Teaching Assistant). My job is to help the professor with lecture preparation, grade tests, proctor examinations, etc...
I even got to lecture on Monday - which was SUPER exciting (the students LOVED it) it was great! In front of 200 students too, for a full hour on a chapter of the textbook I wrote myself as his Research Assistant.
I have worked for this professor for almost 5 years. I have a great deal of respect for him, but lately his conduct has raised some flags that ave caused some concern that I brought to his attention.
Now it is none of my business what he does in his personal life. However this is my working environment. And it is causing a lot of favouritism and misconduct that is unprofessional and I fear that since myself and the other TAs are noticing it, the students will notice it too, which could risk his integrity as a professor and his position, etc, etc...
I noticed him being very flirtatious with one of the other TAs, both in and outside of class. Giggling, laughing, being distracted, her arm on his back, that sort of thing. My boyfriend is a TA too and we maintain professional conduct at work so the students don't know we are dating. Its common sense.
I met with the professor on Sunday to talk about it. The TA I suspect he is romantically involved with was around, in his office, but we were in a separate room. I brought up issues like her lack of punctuality. How she shows up late to class and how that might look to the students. I brought up their misconduct and outright asked if they were romantically involved. He didn't admit it, but he didn't outright deny it either.
Instead he went on tis rant about how a 54 year old man should be able to date a 25 year old woman. How people of differing cultures should be encouraged to date. How she isn't a student so it doesn't infringe on Senate bylaws about dating students. To me, that admits he is dating this TA. However there are Bylaws that state that Professors shouldn't date TAs or employees in general. He says this in an infringement on his hunan rights if he falls in love with one. But it opens the doors to favouritism which is already being seen one month into the semester. He says this is an unfair claim.
I have seniority in the position as TA. I have the most experience. I helped write the textbook. I have lectured for the course 5 times. I have TA'd the course 3 semesters and the second half 2 semesters. But yet I have been demoted and this TA that is not a student (she has already graduated - he is mentoring her) took my position as Lead TA even though I have more experience and deserve the position more than she does. Probably because they are romantically involved or something of the sort. Favouritism, either way.
Now, she eavesdropped on our conversation. This as been confirmed and witnessed. I don't know what she heard. But she has given me the cold shoulder ever since. She didn't even attend my lecture, even though I valued her input and wanted to continue a harmonious working relationship with her. She wants nothing to do with me. I think her and the professor had a talk afterwards too. I am deeply hurt by this. I don't want conflict.
As for the advice I have heard from you guys, "Report it to Human Rights!" - its not that simple. Reporting it would mean sacrificing all I have worked towards the past 5 years. Compromising my letter of recommendation for when I go for my Masters. Compromising all the work I have put into my Academic Vita (my academic resume, mostly comprised of the work I have done for him). Reporting him would cause friction between him and I, not to mention, he has had the thought of retiring in 8 years and if I have my PhD by then he wants to pass the course onto me. I NEED to have a civil working relationship with him. I can't just report this and be done with it.
I have gone to Human Right just to inquire what the Bylaws state about dating TAs that aren't students are. Still waiting to hear back. If it comes up in conversation I will tell the professor what the outcome is.
What are your opinions?
Thanks for reading.
So I am in university. I am a TA (Teaching Assistant). My job is to help the professor with lecture preparation, grade tests, proctor examinations, etc...
I even got to lecture on Monday - which was SUPER exciting (the students LOVED it) it was great! In front of 200 students too, for a full hour on a chapter of the textbook I wrote myself as his Research Assistant.
I have worked for this professor for almost 5 years. I have a great deal of respect for him, but lately his conduct has raised some flags that ave caused some concern that I brought to his attention.
Now it is none of my business what he does in his personal life. However this is my working environment. And it is causing a lot of favouritism and misconduct that is unprofessional and I fear that since myself and the other TAs are noticing it, the students will notice it too, which could risk his integrity as a professor and his position, etc, etc...
I noticed him being very flirtatious with one of the other TAs, both in and outside of class. Giggling, laughing, being distracted, her arm on his back, that sort of thing. My boyfriend is a TA too and we maintain professional conduct at work so the students don't know we are dating. Its common sense.
I met with the professor on Sunday to talk about it. The TA I suspect he is romantically involved with was around, in his office, but we were in a separate room. I brought up issues like her lack of punctuality. How she shows up late to class and how that might look to the students. I brought up their misconduct and outright asked if they were romantically involved. He didn't admit it, but he didn't outright deny it either.
Instead he went on tis rant about how a 54 year old man should be able to date a 25 year old woman. How people of differing cultures should be encouraged to date. How she isn't a student so it doesn't infringe on Senate bylaws about dating students. To me, that admits he is dating this TA. However there are Bylaws that state that Professors shouldn't date TAs or employees in general. He says this in an infringement on his hunan rights if he falls in love with one. But it opens the doors to favouritism which is already being seen one month into the semester. He says this is an unfair claim.
I have seniority in the position as TA. I have the most experience. I helped write the textbook. I have lectured for the course 5 times. I have TA'd the course 3 semesters and the second half 2 semesters. But yet I have been demoted and this TA that is not a student (she has already graduated - he is mentoring her) took my position as Lead TA even though I have more experience and deserve the position more than she does. Probably because they are romantically involved or something of the sort. Favouritism, either way.
Now, she eavesdropped on our conversation. This as been confirmed and witnessed. I don't know what she heard. But she has given me the cold shoulder ever since. She didn't even attend my lecture, even though I valued her input and wanted to continue a harmonious working relationship with her. She wants nothing to do with me. I think her and the professor had a talk afterwards too. I am deeply hurt by this. I don't want conflict.
As for the advice I have heard from you guys, "Report it to Human Rights!" - its not that simple. Reporting it would mean sacrificing all I have worked towards the past 5 years. Compromising my letter of recommendation for when I go for my Masters. Compromising all the work I have put into my Academic Vita (my academic resume, mostly comprised of the work I have done for him). Reporting him would cause friction between him and I, not to mention, he has had the thought of retiring in 8 years and if I have my PhD by then he wants to pass the course onto me. I NEED to have a civil working relationship with him. I can't just report this and be done with it.
I have gone to Human Right just to inquire what the Bylaws state about dating TAs that aren't students are. Still waiting to hear back. If it comes up in conversation I will tell the professor what the outcome is.
What are your opinions?
Thanks for reading.